r/JiraiKei

I've just been dealing with wearing long sleeve blouses but I see so many really cute short sleeve ones I can't wear. I don't want to not wear them because of my past decisions. My family already know about them, so... I guess it's fine? I myself just feel uncomfortable. I want people to look at me, not my scars.

Also, I feel self conscious because I've never seen anyone else with them before. I'm not worried about harrassment because that isn't something that would happen, it's more like... it looking unsightly, making people uncomfortable, people whispering about it to their friends and I'm worried it would impact me getting a job even though it's "illegal" to discriminate.

Do you guys know of any detached sleeves that are cute and pretty, that would go with a jirai outfit?

Even if they aren't made by a jirai brand! I'm also okay with it being partially see-through like sleeves made of lace.

If you guys have any advice/personal experience feel free to say anything!!

Please let me know if this isn't allowed and I'll take it down, but I wanted to share this here in hopes that maybe someone can relate or can give advice.

Here goes:

For some background, the story starts with me losing my job last year in December, since then I've been out of a job and desperately searching for one. I live alone and throughout this time, my partner has helped me immensely. Helping me take care of unexpected costs such as my car breaking down, always paying for our meals when we're together, helping me cover groceries, and gas when needed.

Which brings us to this weekend, I was at a Jirai Fashion booth and I got really excited when I saw that their clothing selection. A really cute blouse and skirt set caught my eye and when I saw they were in my size, I immediately asked the workers for permission to try on the pieces in the fitting room. They gave me the go ahead to go in after the current guest finishes.

While waiting for the fitting room, I saw the price of the blouse and made the mistake of thinking that it was the total price for the whole set (since that's how they had it on the clothing hanger). Rookie mistake, I know.

30 minutes pass, waiting for the fitting room to try it on and I start to feel a little guilty, almost like, if I don't buy it after trying it on, then I will have wasted the assistants time.

I finally get to try it on, and it fits like a glove, it's the coord of my dreams. My heart is so elated, and I ask the staff for permission to take a picture. She takes a couple photos for me and I send them to my partner. My partner advises me not to buy it (given my situation), but at that point in time, I had already said yes to the attendant. I used my nearly maxed out credit card bought the coord without thinking and it deeply hurt their feelings.

My partner talked to me tonight and said they felt betrayed by my actions. When they learned that I did that, they got so angry they almost broke up with me then and there. They feel like all of their help up to this point is now moot because of what I did and at this point they're still considering that as an option. I truly love my partner and I can't stand the fact that I hurt them by impulsive decision to buy some pretty clothes.

To add on to that already horrible situation, I am no longer in love with the outfit I bought. I tried it on again since buying it, but instead of making me feel as hot and cute as I felt when I first bought it, I feel the weight of my decision. The weight of the price tag. The weight of my partners feelings of betrayal. It only makes me feel more depressed than I already am.

Again, if this is deemed irrelevant to this sub, please let me know and I'll take it down.

Just wanted to add, I made a new account just so I could post this since my partner would recognize my user if they came across this post. (Not sure if it would even make too much of a difference though since the situation is very personal they might know it about us anyways, but still needed to try : /)