r/LAsocial

Hello all, I’m looking to make friends that want to do things in Pasadena area. Been a hard year and looking for a community. Maybe a group that likes to go to concerts or raves and hopefully long weekend travel! Can’t really find anyone on meetup in the topics mentioned above 🥲. Also, I don’t have kids so nothing kid centered, and LOVE FUNNY PEOPLE. Give me all the funny people!

Living out here is so cool yet isolating and lonely at times. I work a lot but on my days off it would be cool to do things with friends but it’s hard making friends here. It’s lik a big socal circle of help me or see what I can do to help myself oppose to being real friends out here.

F22, don't have any plans or any friends in town, I want suggestions of how to spend the 4th alone

I wanna make new friends from all across SoCal, no matter where people are from

Plans in LA next week?

What are the sober folks doing for afternoon and evening outings that are alternatives to bars? I am open to establishments that have a good mocktail menu. After coming into my 40s (42 f), I'm in search of fun activities that won't destroy the last of my collagen cells.

Hello! I’m a French PhD student in Geography conducting research on access to abortion care in California, with a particular focus on the Los Angeles area.

I’m looking to better understand the obstacles people may face when seeking abortion care. If you have personal experience and would be willing to share it, I would greatly appreciate hearing from you. You can either comment below or send me a private message if you prefer and we can set up a short interview.

I’m especially interested in experiences related to:

• Did you experience any delays in obtaining abortion care? If so, what caused them?
• Did the distance to the clinic or transportation issues make it harder for you to access care?
• Did you face any financial difficulties paying for the procedure or related expenses?
• Did you need help with transportation, childcare, emotional support, or finding someone to accompany you to the clinic?
• Did you seek assistance from Los Angeles County programs, California state programs, abortion funds, or practical support organizations? If so, what was your experience?

All experiences are valuable, whether the barriers were major or minor. Any information shared will be treated confidentially and used solely for academic research, everything will remain anonymous. I have an IRB validation for this research (UCLA ethics committee).

Thank you very much for your time and willingness to contribute.

Lawyer turned group fitness instructor living in El Segundo but working at gyms/studios along the coastline. I moved to LA a year ago from all over the east coast (Miami, NYC, Boston…).

I’m into music (I’m a bedroom DJ), calisthenics, Pilates, any form of self-care (pedicures, massage, walks), cannabis, and video games. Openly gay, most of my friends are straight women but truly open to finding a diverse group of friends.

If you’re into exercise, exploring LA, and/or late nights on crowded dance floors, I’m your guy.

i'll keep this short, but i basically just moved out here and am in (desperate) need of friends that i can do things with! i love museums, movies, cafes, literally anything but i'm just... tired of doing things alone haha
would be down to join groupchats and stuff too!!

Hey everyone, I’m testing the waters on an idea and wanted to see if there would be any interest. As a guy who’s just finished up grad school recently and had a lot of friends move away and relationships change, I’ve noticed it can be hard to meet like-minded guys and build new friendships as an adult, especially when so much social life revolves around bars, dating, networking, and just being online in general.

So I was thinking about starting a small, casual men’s social club for guys in their 20s and early 30s who want to get out more, meet new people, and build real-life friendships.

The idea would be social first: casual activities like wiffle ball/kickball at a park, walks, hikes, bowling, food after, or whatever the group is into. But I was also thinking of having some kind of brief “real conversation” element. But not like therapy, not a formal support group or anything, and nothing forced, just a chance for people to talk a little more honestly about what we’re working on, the kind of week we’re having, or maybe what we’re trying to improve.

Also to be clear, this is not meant to be a therapy session, networking group, political debate group, or any kind of like redpill/men’s rights/manosphere type space. The goal is just to create a chill, respectful group of guys who want to make new friends, do fun stuff in real life, and hopefully build a community people can actually depend on.

I’m based near Whittier, the LA-OC border, but I’m open to driving a bit depending on interest. For a first meetup, I was thinking we could meet at a public park during the day, introduce ourselves, hang out a little, and play casual wiffle ball, softball, or kickball. La Mirada Community Regional Park is one possibility since it has baseball/softball fields, but I’m open to other locations too.

Ideally I’d love to get around 12–18 people for the first meetup. If there’s enough interest, I’ll probably make a short interest form and/or group chat just to coordinate details and keep the first group organized.

At the end of the day, the goal is just to have fun, get off our phones/social media for a bit, meet decent people, and build genuine real-life connections.

If you’d be interested, feel free to comment or DM me. Also open to suggestions on location, format, activities, or anything that would make this feel more natural.

I will be in LA solo this summer and looking for recommendations for things to do at night. I’m a 20 year old female, so will not be going out to bars or clubs. I do love great atmosphere and fun things so any recs or must dos?

I'm helping run a gym in the Valley and we've recently started a coach-led circuit training class. Our first two classes have had 3 people each, and everyone who's come has had a great experience. We're trying to build it the right way and would love some honest feedback.

A few questions:

• What would convince you to try a new fitness class for the first time?
• If you tried it and liked it, what would make you come back every week instead of stopping after one class?
• What's the biggest reason you've stopped going to group fitness classes in the past?
• Do you prefer classes that focus more on community, competition, or just getting a great workout?
• What time of day are you actually willing to commit to consistently?
• If you've found a class you loved, what made it stand out from every other gym offering?
• What's one thing you wish more gyms did with their group classes?

I'm not trying to promote the gym, I genuinely want to understand what people are looking for so we can build something people actually enjoy and stick with. Any feedback is appreciated.

Hey, party people!

I recently moved back to downtown and have been visiting Alamo Drafthouse most Tuesdays evenings. Their tickets are $11.19 (total).

They also have karaoke on Tuesdays starting at 8pm.

Would anyone be down for a movie and/or karaoke meetup in the future? See a show at 6pm, then karaoke after? All in the same building, and a direct stop for Metro A/B/D/E/J Lines.

I’m a grad student and need to expand my social circle to meet folks and play larger escape rooms lol. I also love horror movies, dogs, trying new restaurants, and going for walks on the beach! I’ve been trying to arrange a picnic forever!

I’ve been sitting with something lately and needed to get it off my chest. Please be kind.

I’m 37M and have lived in LA for almost 20 years. I work as a therapist and life coach, so maybe that’s part of this, but I’m starting to see a pattern that feels unsettling.

When I first moved here in my 20s, I really wanted genuine friendships. I was also in a marriage that lacked emotional and physical intimacy, so I found myself craving connection especially with kind, emotionally intelligent women. Looking back, I realize I fell into this role where I kept giving. I’d listen for hours, offer perspective, help them through breakups, family drama, anxiety, grief… whatever they were carrying.

Part of me believed that if I kept showing up, I’d earn a real friendship.

Instead, I slowly realized I was rarely part of anyone’s joy. I wasn’t invited to celebrate life with them. They’d disappear when things were good, then suddenly I’d hear from them the moment life fell apart.

I don’t think they were consciously using me. I genuinely don’t.

But that’s how it felt.

I’ve gotten much better with boundaries over the years, yet I still notice the same pattern.

Two friendships hit me particularly hard.

The first was someone I genuinely considered one of my closest friends. I moved back to LA after taking a year away and was excited to reconnect. We always had loving, meaningful conversations. Then I saw on her Instagram Stories that she was moving out of LA. I texted her, excited for her, asking where she was headed. She wouldn’t tell me. She kept it vague. A while later she announced online that she’d moved to Paris. Now she constantly posts exotic stories of her dating life.

I don’t care that she moved to Paris.

It hurt because I realized I wasn’t someone she wanted to share that part of her life with, even though I had believed we were close.

The second friend would reach out every time she was struggling in her relationships. We’d have incredibly deep conversations. While I was living away, she’d constantly tell me to move back to LA.

Then I did.

She lived 15 minutes from me, and we never once hung out.

Even now, she likes my every post, every story, stay connected online, but never actually make plans. After I eventually moved an hour away, she said, “It’s crazy we never got to hang out while you lived here.”

I told her, I would drive to see you. Distance doesn’t matter. And she heart the message. But no follow up Orr reply to it.

The more I reflect, the more I realize this isn’t really about them maybe.

Growing up, I became the person who held space for everyone else’s pain. My parents leaned on me emotionally, and somewhere along the way I learned that my value came from listening, fixing, comforting, and carrying other people’s grief. And that’s how my relationship with my parents is even now.

I became really good at it.

Maybe too good.

Now I’m wondering if I’ve unconsciously built friendships where people experience me as the safe place they visit during storms but not necessarily someone they want beside them when the sun comes out.

I’m not angry at anyone. Mostly I’m grieving the realization.

Has anyone else experienced something similar in LA? Or maybe as a therapist, coach, healer, or someone who’s naturally empathetic?

I’d really love to hear if anyone has managed to break this pattern and build friendships that feel more mutual.

P.S: I’m divorced now & want to start dating. But I’m afraid same pattern will happen there too.

Honestly I’m looking for some cool peeps that will A allow me to be outside and enjoy the night life B get me to break my routines of being inside and go partying and shit guy or girl or pal idc let’s just go enjoy life and abuse our youth it’s not like it’s easy to always enjoy anyway

Hi, looking for a movie club similar to a typical book club where you watch the film and discuss after. I searched on meetup and found some clubs on making movies or attending film events (which does sound fun:) But would love to just have some fun conversation with folks that love watching movies. Anywhere in LA. Look forward to some recommendations!

I'm a 31M looking to get out of the house and meet some new people tonight.

I'm open to pretty much anything grabbing drinks, checking out a pub, dinner, a coffee shop, live music, or just exploring somewhere in LA. No strict plans, just looking for good company.

If you're interested or have room for one more in your group, feel free to send me a message. I'm easygoing, work in the entertainment industry, and always enjoy meeting new people.

Hope everyone has a great weekend!