r/LGBTireland

Just curious does anyone have a good night in Mother? I have probably went maybe 25-30 times over the years and I have never had a good night in there

Is there something I’m doing wrong ?!?

No matter how much effort I put in to, for years and years, I think I could only date one guy (he was going to bail on the day but then got sad and actually met me)Then we liked eachother very much so he glad he took the effort going on that first date..

They chat you for a while, but when it's time to meet, they vanish. Ghost you. They give you promises, "Wer gonna have so much fun, your amazing, your so hot, let's do this date yada yada". Then they are ice cold. Act like you don't exist. It's not a decent adult behaviour, it's not just one or two guys, it's %98 of them.

Why???? Why is it so hard to even find hookup, not even a date?

The only time I was lucky was trying to catch straight guys on straight tinder which was very spontaneous and 3 of them actually came to my place in different occasions. But gay / Bi Irish guys? Or the ones on Grindr? Never...

After I show my pictures say on Grindr, some guys are like wow your so hot, completely amazed and all and then 2 seconds later, they ignore every message you send. I truly wonder what their thoughts processes are like. "Hmm this guy is unbelievably hot, let me not respond him no matter what even though he's so interested in me"

Text after text, I feel humiliated because how much nobody cares to even meet at all. Its always me trying to get their attention in every conversation. Are Irish guys really that uninterested literally in anyone? Do they have sexual life? Like it's crazy to me. Everyone needs sexual partners time to time. It's pity because lots Irish guys are so freaking hot and just gorgeous. In France it's so easy to get guys if they are interested enough to chat you. You just get along and then agree time and place then you meet. Simple.

Also, I think these days like from 2020 onwards, most gay and bi men have this delusion that there are so many guys for them waiting when in reality it's a straight world we live in. You'll probably never gonna have flirtation in real life with another guy unlike straight people. Unless your in gay bar. Decent looking straight people can just naturally find someone in their mundane lives, meanwhile if you try to flirt with another guy say like in random day on the train or at work or on the street, you can even get attacked for it. So like, why would you not let this nice hook up or date happen if you both happen to find each other attractive? He's probably your best bet in years. Social media and Grindr ruined everything, distorted their perception of reality. Being gay is in fact still minority no matter how much social media or dating apps make it seem like it's very common, it's not.

Especially in a country like Ireland, even if there was a group of 20 guys, only 1 or 2 are Bi or gay, you couldn't even tell nor would they tell you. So gay men i think needs to understand this thoroughly as a reality check. Gay men would be surprised the amount of attention straight women get from even extremely hot men, with full package, nice career, money, house, car, beauty, height and all - it would be even too overwhelming for most. The point being, you are not straight, you'll never gonna have the same large pool of candidates. Stop being miserable and pushing people away for no reason.

If you like someone and they like you back, just go for it. Don't hold yourselves from having nice moments. Or you're going to be alone for the rest of your life and I've seen it with lots gay men. It leads to horrendous mental health issues and sometimes ends tragically.

I'll start off with that I can't find a similar post here answering this question, and it's not the hookup seeking type of post that the announcement was made for

Would there be any appetite for themed nights in Boilerhouse? Every other sauna I've looked up dors them. Things like a naked night or a JO only night. Wouldn't cost BH anything extra to run them. Seems odd that a sauna that longstanding has nothing

Thought it would be worth it to gauge interest, maybe throw BH an email

I have a patch test next week in dublin city for laser. Im really uncomfortable about facial hair, and mine grows pretty fast. Is there anywhere I can shave after the appointment? Even a single person bathroom with a sink would work

Hey! My parents and I are visiting from America and I wanted to take them to a drag show as I’ve heard it’s pretty fun one Ireland. Any recommendations for bars in Dublin and/or Galway? I was looking at The George but the reviews said that it can be unsafe for women there, and I wouldn’t want to take my mom there. My parents are very supporting of the lgbtq community so it doesn’t necessarily need to be lowkey! Any recommendations are welcome, anything as simple as brunch or bingo works as well!

I moved to roscommon I'd say over 2 years ago and still have not met a single queer/lgbtq person at all. I'm from Cork originally so I'm used to it being a lot more present but up here, it's like a ghost town in comparison which makes sense. Just posting this to see if there's more people like myself up here. BTW I'm a 23 year old Trans women

Ireland has slipped from a 62.84 rating to 61.34 rating in the ILGA Europe Rainbow Map.

There is still a lot to do for full LGBTI+ inclusion in Ireland!

I just got home from a club techno queer night and am very confused. I a 21 year old trans man from the west of Ireland just went to this monthly techno queer event (first time) in the only club left in the city I live in (a rant for another day), i havnt been to many like advertised queer events at all tbh but I really didnt expect what was going on tonight. I go to many techno and rave events indoors (legal/ payee entry) and illegal (outdoor/ free) which normally have a big demographic of all types of people like yup bros and ths queer community. This event is went to I assumed would be like others where everyone is free and enjoying themselves with no shame (I will say I loved that this event had wrist bands saying if you did or didnt want to have you photo taken). I genuinly want to just know (and km not judging anyone for being sober) but why was no one drinking or doing drugs on a Saturday night amd why were all the men straight (btw there was a oiled up wresting match so wtf) like i spoke to everyone, no one smokes (tobacco or weed), does mdma, coke, popers, barely drink like I only saw a few beers or water or even vapes. No judgement but im seriously confused does the Irish queer community not do any drugs or drink at all (btw there was no one doing afters except for a group of the creepy straight guys who were hired to play gay wrestlers and btw were lowkey horrible to me after). There was one or two locals (queer people in there 30w ) that I know from the rave scene who also pointed this out so its not just me who's confused. Mabey its just this generation but im so confused (once again I want to say im not judging) that young people aren't getting fucked up on a Saturday night.

(Sorry if anything is spelt wrong im still a bit fucked up and also dyslexic)

Also im pretty new to going to queer events just because there not many going after alot of clubs closed down but is ot normal for alot staight men to come or be hired to act gay (tbh I dont mind the acting it was a whole performance and lowkey camp as fuck) and i don't mean to be ruid but alot of young queer presenting women sober and stood still judging people for having fun.