r/LingerieAddiction

Dear redditors,

I am half venting and half looking for advice about which bra I could try. I am pretty sensitive, so I cant really wear wired bras or tape for a longer time (I have actually ripped my skin open by it once after a couple hours of boob tape, so yeah, my skin really cant). I also dont like too much padding but still really want to make sure my nipples arent visible through my tshirts etc.

So normally, youd say, ah, just wear light sports bras or a bralette, and so I have, for years, but Im also starting to get really sensitive to the feeling of them touching, sweat puddling in the middle etc, it actually makes me cry by how bad it feels sometimes. So sports bras r off limits.

Naturally, I went to look for the more traditional lightly padded wireless bras. But then my next problem, my breasts have quite a bit of loose skin on them, so the top half escapes out of pretty much any cup shape, which looks pretty emarrasing under a tshit. And even if theres stretchier fabric in the middle or smth, its still visible.

So please reddit, does anyone have any bras they know, which defy all the problems above?

(Size is about 85 C or D and my budget, preferably under 50€ but more importantly, good availibility in Europe or The Netherlands)

Hey!

I’m getting married in October and I’m trying to find some lingerie. Something black, with garters. I don’t need a bra as it’s an off the shoulder wedding dress. But I’m looking for something romantic gothic and won’t break the bank.

Thank you so much!

I have 125-130 Bras and want more. Thats a problem right?

No bad intentions, maybe I’m dense but it’s an earnest question😓

I’ve read people complaining that some types of lingerie are unappealing because they look slutty or make the wearer look like a sex worker. On the contrary, other types are considered classy and tasteful, but I can’t tell the difference between them.

What is the deciding factor on the ‘vibe’ of lingerie..? I understand that a long skirt is considered more prudent than a miniskirt, but most lingerie expose a lot of skin so they’re almost all immodest if you use this measure.

The examples I’ve seen listed as classy vs trashy all just look glamorous to me, and after seeing adverts for sex workers, their underwear don’t look very different from model catalogs, just that the surrounding context is different.

Also why is it bad to seem too sexual if the lingerie is only going to be seen by the wearer and someone the wearer is presumably in a sexual relationship with? It’s not like a grandmother will see it and be scandalised.

I’m looking for some honest opinions and practical advice.

I prefer wearing unlined or lightly lined bras because I find padded bras uncomfortable. I wear good quality bras. The problem is that when my nipples get hard (from the cold, movement, etc.), they show through both my bra and my T-shirt.

My biggest question is: Does it actually look really bad, or is it something most people see as natural and don’t think much about? I feel self-conscious about it, but I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it.

For those of you who also wear unpadded bras:
Is it actually as noticeable as I think it is, or am I overthinking it?
Have people ever commented on it?
What do you do to prevent it without switching to padded bras?

I’m hoping for solutions that don’t involve wearing a heavily padded bra. If you’ve found something comfortable that works (like nipple covers, bra inserts, specific bra styles, or certain fabrics), I’d really appreciate your recommendations.
Thanks!

I’m a thicker woman and I’m sick of the local Torrid being my only option.

Kindly gifted by FEELITS, but all thoughts are genuinely my own

I've been testing these out over the past couple of weeks in different conditions (ranging from cold and rainy, to hot and humid weather), so I wanted to share an honest experience-based review rather than just a first impression.

What I got: The wireless triangle bralette and thong + bikini in two colorways (blush pink and pearl white). The underwear are 100% mulberry silk, with the bras being 95% mulberry silk and 5% spandex for some stretch and comfort.

The bralette: Honestly surprised me. I expected it to feel delicate in a high maintenance way, but it wore like nothing was there. Smooth against my skin, no pinching, no underwire digging in, and stayed cool to the touch even in humid heat. It felt noticeably different from the synthetic satin pieces I've owned before. I kept instinctively going to readjust it and realizing I didn't need to, so it’s kind of the best sign.

The underwear: Beautiful quality and the silk feels luxurious. My one note: size down. I went with a size L and should have gone M. Silk doesn't have the same stretch as regular fabrics so if you're between sizes, pay attention to their measurements. When I reached out about sizing, they were incredibly kind and sent me the correct size - that kind of customer service really goes a long way for me.

Overall: I found the price more approachable than I expected for a 100% silk set. These are really beautiful, feel incredible, and held up well across different wear scenarios (a very long wedding day, a beach day, date night, running errands, lounging at home, etc). Almost 2 months in and they still feel like new.

I'd consider trying another color after seeing how these hold up over more washes. They need to be gently hand washed in cold water and air dried but def worth it though. I've already recommended these to my girlfriends. Took some pics (had to post in the comments) so you can see how beautiful they are!

I'm lowkey embarrassed by how many backless tops and strapless dresses i own that i never actually wear. the culprit? cheap sticky bras that slide down in an hour, and tape that always folds on me.

so i'm thinking—what if i just match different bras to different outfits? Would that actually help me finally wear all those backless and strapless pieces I've been hoarding?

hi girlies!

so, I love wearing baggy jeans, specially when my underwear is peeking through.

I already have quite a few cute lacy ones but my issue is that they’re so pretty on both front and back but the part that’s actually showing…is some plain and boring elastic.

do you have any brand, style or specific thong/g-string that’s cute and would look great peeking through my jeans?

any help is deeply appreciated. thank you in advance

xoxo

I’m 5'2" and 32A, and I keep falling for structured bustier tops. They look amazing on models, but on me, the cups gape, the boning digs in, and the whole thing slides down all night. I just tried one from & Other Stories and was basically floating inside the cups.

For anyone with a similar frame,how do you make bustiers work? or am I fighting a losing battle with clothes not cut for my size?

I just saw an ad online for a bondage party at a major night club in San Francisco. I saw a quick one minute trailer. It looked like a lot dancing and DJ music with people wearing bondage lingerie, but that was just a one minute trailer.

My wife seems very interested. Has anyone else attended a bondage party? What was it like? What should we expect?

Are there certain kinds that are hotter than others? I always figured it would be taken off anyways so never invested in it. Do I keep it on during? I want to surprise my person but don’t even know where to begin and what styles are best

long story short, the set I ordered for my boudoir photos happening in two days got lost in the mail. I am now scrambling to find something of quality & bridal looking…

any suggestions for some common chain stores i can check? if it’s in a mall near you it’s in a mall near me, please send help!!

(i’ve seen Intimissimi, was thinking of checking Free People or Anthropology, Victoria’s Secret has great options online but not much in store… so any recommendations you have are greatly appreciated!!!)

edit: Nordstrom saved the day! thank you all for your help!!

My wife has been a supporter of Chantal Thomass since late teens. Unfortunately it's now out of business as far as we are aware.

Any suggestions for good alternatives in terms of (1) fit and cut, (2) comfort and perhaps (3) durability?

PS: I'm not a first-time buyer and I have read the sticky threads.

Hi there! Next month me (30M) and my girlfriend (28F) are heading to the big overnight swinger party at the largest resort in our country. This will be our first time having fun like this so I want to make it really special. I plan to buy her very provocative lingerie and matching transparent robe, but I didn’t choose anything particular yet. I thought about 3 piece set with garter belt but this might not be the most convenient option when it comes to taking the panties off. It collides with the belt then. I’m looking for some steaming hot ideas. We’re from Europe. She wears 75B, and S botttoms. The price point I’m looking at is about €200 for the whole set with robe included.

Thanks!

Hey all, I like wearing lingerie, however they always seem to highlight the butt or boobs, I unfortunately am lacking heavily in both those areas and struggling to find something that compliments my figure/legs. Any ideas? THANKS!

Ok so back in the day in my early 20's i went to VS and got sized. They said 32D. So I bought bras in that size for a while, though sometimes would end up getting various other sizes depending on fit. gained weight from 120 to 130 in my 30's, then gained weight in my late 30's to 160. Got a divorce and my weight is down to 130. I've been wearing bralettes the last 10 years or so but now am in a new relationship and want some sexy underthings. And I am so confused about my size. I have sewn before (a lot) so I have my own fabric tape measure and know how to measure myself. My underbust is 30.5 on an exhale, 31 on an inhale so lets say 31 for comfort. my bust measure 35.

3 bra calculators say I am 32D, 1 says 32C, VS says 30DD and adoreMe says 32A. WTF??? This is baffling.

So anyway I had bought some items from AdoreMe and most of the bras were the wrong size. One I returned and got a 32C and it still gaps a bunch at the top, in fact it fits pretyt much exactly like the 32D. of 2 others one is suuuuuper tight on the band but the cups fit good. The other is a little too tight on the band and the cups are mostly good (one of my boobs is slightly bigger than the other).

Now I have zero confidence in what i am buying. what is the deal with sizing?!?! What size am I really?!