Hi everyone!
I am back to dating after a hiatus and am doing so intentionally (looking for "the one" lol). I am not looking on specific apps like Feeld because I don't think that will land me where I want to be.
So my question is when dating, when do you bring up your particular interests? How do you start the convo and what do you say? I know that being direct is very important before any sort of actual sexual contact, but are there ways to "soft launch" the conversation?
I have had some very bad experiences in the past which has led to conversations about sex being a bit harder for me, obviously still something I do because I have to, but I guess that is why I'm looking for a little extra direction.
For some context-- my interests are varied but mostly to the more common side (spanking, slapping, and choking -- which is not mild but maybe more of a commonplace kink?) I think it would be hard for me to be with somebody who didn't take on a dominant role and had no interest in playing around with pain. There is a lot I would like to explore (more intense bondage, pushing dynamics further, sensory play, etc) but I think I'd be totally content in a relationship with somebody who didn't feel as adventurous.