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Hello i need suggestions regarding the "Haq meher" for my best friend as she's not on Reddit. 

For the context, she's an accountant (acca) and earns a decent amount, belongs to an upper middle socio economic background her father earns pretty well now, however her family has struggled financially when she was younger, she has studied majorly on scholarships.

She has always been interested in money, businesses, selling etc probably because of this financial struggle which ultimately led to her choosing commerce in school and becoming an accountant. 

She has had multiple proposals /rishtas coming in since 3-4 years as she's about to turn 26.

For marriage she is majorly concerned about the financial condition of the guy (other than similar mindset and hygiene). She's been thinking about asking the amount which would be spent on the wedding functions (nikah, barat, mehndi, walima etc) to be paid as haq meher to her and have a single  combined event instead. She wants to invest that amount for her  future as she wants to avoid struggling financially like she did earlier and wants to provide the best for her children. 

Now I need suggestions to estimate the amount which an upper middle class family spends on a  wedding on average. The amount which I personally have estimated is atleast 50 lacs  which my father spent on my brother's wedding in 2023, adjusting for the inflation since 2023 this probably would have increased to 65-70 lacs. 

She is the eldest child in her family and there has not been any marriage lately in her extended family either so she's been having  bit of a hard time estimating the wedding costs. Your suggestions are welcomed

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
يا نبي سلام عليك

Most of the Pakistani youth have radically departed from the huliya of our ancestors and elders.

Because of their inferiority complex and worship of the White man, our people wear their style of clothing.

This style was so hated by our ancestors that they consider someone who adopted Western fashion to be a murtad

Why do you personally dress like a Westerner/Kafir instead of like a Muslim?

Is not our style of dress superior and more beautiful? Pure white clothing, shelwar kameez or long kurta, and beautiful topis? This is the Islamic style.

Why have Muslims stopped covering their head with a topi? Why are traditional Muslims who still wear a shawl or rumal around their shoulders mocked?

Why do Muslims no longer line surma on their eyes? Why do our youth have kafir hairstyles?

We should not be ashamed of our identity. We must revive the style of our ancestors. We must copy the style of our Maulvis and Sufis.

We should take pride in the Sunnah, and abandon the tight fitting and bizarre design of Western clothing.

Western clothing is not designed for Islamic lifestyle of Namaz, which is composed of bowing, prostrating and sitting on the floor.

Western clothing is not designed for the warmer climate of Muslim countries, because they are not loose and flowing.

It is totally illogical to dress in a suit and tie while living in a Muslim country. It’s only purpose is to symbolize that you are a liberal worshipper of Europe and are ashamed of Islam

I am so incredibly sick and tired of the toxic positivity and the constant "sab theek ho jayega" gaslighting in this country. Let us stop beating around the bush and look at the raw, ugly truth. Almost every single systemic crisis we face today, from the economic misery and unlivable inflation to the absolute collapse of our healthcare and loaded electricity bills, can be traced back to one single, massive, unchecked disaster: our population explosion.

We are sitting at over 255 million people. We are expanding like an out of control wildfire, and for what? The state cannot build schools fast enough. It cannot build hospitals fast enough. It cannot create jobs fast enough. We have 26 million children completely out of school, and we just keep adding millions more to the fire every single year.

And let us call out the absolute engine driving so much of this backward madness: our obsession with cousin marriages.

Seriously, screw cousin marriages. They have completely shattered the love lives, personal freedom, and mental health of the younger generation. Young people are trapped in emotional blackmail, forced into matches they do not want just to keep property in the family or please toxic family politics. Your romantic compatibility does not matter to them; your personal choice does not matter.

But it is worse than just destroying our personal happiness. Generations of marrying first cousins have created a full-blown public health nightmare. We have some of the highest rates of Thalassemia, spinal atrophy, and congenital blindness on the planet. Families are spending their life savings treating completely preventable genetic disorders, and our public hospitals are overflowing and broken because of it.

People say young couples are afraid of having kids. Damn right they are! How can anyone blame them? Who wants to bring a child into a country where a grocery basket costs a week's salary, where the air in Lahore is literal poison, and where a basic bachelor's degree gets you a starting salary that would not even cover a monthly utility bill?

We cannot blame everything on political discrimination or ongoing clashes anymore, because honestly, that political stability has improved a lot recently. The government is finally setting up the right infrastructure, fixing transit, and modernizing systems. We cannot use the state as an excuse. The real issue is the human math, and we need radical changes right now:

Weaponize the Tax System: If you have more than two kids, you should lose state subsidies on fuel, gas, and electricity. Period. Tax luxury brackets heavily for families exceeding a certain size.

Force Pre-Marital Genetic Testing: Make DNA and Thalassemia screening 100% mandatory across every single province before a Nikah Nama can legally be signed. No test, no legal marriage. Break the cycle of cousin marriage health crises by law.

Mandatory Marriage Licensing: Force couples to go through mandatory family planning and economic stability courses before getting a marriage license. Education is not working fast enough; make it an administrative gatekeeper.

Flood the Country with Free Access: Put modern family planning methods in every single village council, basic health unit, and pharmacy completely free of charge, and penalize local bureaucrats if their district's birth rate does not drop.

Our parents' generation ran this country on autopilot, assuming resources would just magically appear. They did not. We are the ones left behind in the wreckage, watching our brightest minds pack their bags and flee the country in a massive brain drain because they see no future here.

If we do not drastically bend this population curve down in the next few years, we are not just going to face an economic slowdown, we are going to face absolute structural collapse. It is time to stop hiding behind tradition and start fixing the math before there is nothing left of this country to save.

What are your honest thoughts? Are we too culturally stubborn to ever fix this, or is the younger generation finally ready to break the cycle?

Edit 1: Damnnnnn this blew up more than I thought it would but If someone wants me to spit out some strict measures or what I think can change the curve of this specific problem, I'd love to add it or I'll make a follow-up post on that.

22M here, i want to join the army, next year in my 4th year mbbs in the short course of medical cadet. i wanna know if its worth it. people say they don't get promoted as much as the long course ones. or there are lesser perks and future prospects for the short course officers. if there are any officers here, anyone related to such people, i would love some guidance and details and some advice.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
الصلاة والسلام عليك يا رسول الله
A disproportionately large number of blasphemy and sacrilege have been committed in Pakistan by members of the Chuhra community, despite them comprising no more than 2% of Pakistan’s population.

This community is predominantly associated with work that is considered beneath the dignity and honor of Muslims, such as cleaning public toilets, maintaining sewers, collecting trash and the like.

I believe it is crucial that the state and society prevent any potential rise or upliftment of this community as it will result in serious political and social challenges.

It is in our interest this community, which has much potential for subversion, have limited access to education and remain economically backwards.

The Muslim sentiment that members of this caste are ritually unclean and one should avoid socialization and physical contact with them ought to be encouraged and continued as a healthy instinct of our community.

The diabolical forces of secularism which wish to secularize Pakistan both politically and culturally, often use the non-Muslim minorities as their base of support.

Hence, we Muslims should be vigilant regarding certain communities that have the potential to disrupt or harm the project of Islamization

Since it is the start of Muharram, I have been hearing a out following the Ahlulbayt. Who are they?

Main aik kaam shrow kerna chahta hon jis main her month 1 new bike le k kisi ko don woh chahe indrive waghera pa chlye ya jo marzi kre lakin mujhe roz ka 1000 deta rahay 1.5 years tak. Baad main chahe mujh se bike khareed lay ya wapis kr le ya us ka decision ha. Lakin is k liyay kuch points clear kerna chahta hon.

1. Driver kese dhondon?
2. Bike kese secure kron?
3. Contract pa kya likhwaon?
4. Ager woh darmyan main chorna chahe to kya kiya ja sakta ha?
5. Driver kya security de?

Or bhi koi points hon to ap add kr sakte hain.

Thanks in advance

Under the Pakistan Citizenship Act of 1951, every person born in the country (except children of foreign diplomats and enemy aliens) will be a citizen of Pakistan.

What is your thoughts on this matter? Should we abolish it? Is it a good thing that we have it?

have you ever felt that you are an extrovert and people misunderstands you ?