r/R4Rstralia

I have a career I genuinely love, a life I’ve built with intention, and I’m not looking for someone to complete it. I’m looking for someone exceptional to share part of it with.

I know what I’m looking for is uncommon, and that’s okay. I’d rather be clear than cast a wide net.

I’m seeking a relationship that embraces living apart together, whether that’s because of distance or by design. I’m looking for a man who is financially independent, emotionally available, and genuinely enjoys his life. Someone curious about the world, ambitious without being consumed by work, kind, quick to laugh, and still capable of finding joy in the little things.

I’m generally looking to meet someone between 42 and 55, though chemistry, maturity, and compatibility matter far more to me than a number.

I’m happiest exploring somewhere new, getting lost in a great conversation, or watching the ocean with a good coffee in hand. I’m drawn to people who can move effortlessly between playful banter and conversations that have a little depth.

The connection I’m looking for is intentional rather than habitual. The kind where we speak often, share the everyday moments as well as the big ones, and carve out one or two weekends each month for adventures, good food, quiet mornings, and whatever else we discover together.

I’m based in Australia, so ideally you are too—or at least in a position where meeting halfway is realistic.

I know this won’t resonate with everyone, and that’s okay. But if this sounds less like a wishlist and more like the kind of connection you’ve been hoping exists, I’d love to hear from you.

I'll cut right to it; I'm really fucking lonely.

I'm a 33 year old man, living alone in the Northside of Brisbane, whose only human interaction these days is at work. I've found myself in a place in life where all the friendships I used to have have faded away for various reasons, and I don't have anyone to talk to or hang out with. I'm kind of struggling, to be honest.

I've tried going to social events like timeleft, Meetup groups, Facebook groups, conscious connections, etc...and I don't seem to get anywhere. It's all so performative, and feels much like the dating apps where nobody is really there for genuine reasons.

So, here I am, I guess. It'd be great to just have someone to chat to for a bit of connection, and maybe hang out, go to shows and events and cool activities that just aren't as fulfilling alone.

Some things about me:

- I'm learning guitar, and own more than I really should given my level of ability.

- I have two dogs who drive me nuts, but also keep me going.

- I'm an aerospace engineer, so I'm smart...but not people smart. I also hate talking about work outside of work.

- Day hiking is one of my favourite things to do. Haven't done any overnight hikes yet, but I want to.

- I brew my own ginger beer and mead...but I'm not a big drinker, so give most of it away.

- I used to like doing low'n'slow bbq, but it's a lot of effort that doesn't seem worth it for just me.

- I like to read; Red Rising and Cradle are my two favourite series.

- I have ADHD; I say that not because it's a defining feature of my personality, but because it contributes to some of my difficulties. Rejection sensitivity dysmorphia being one of the big ones. Also oversharing

- I love hearing people's stories, and understanding where they've come from, where they're going, and who they are.

- I can be pretty introverted, but if the vibe is right then you'll struggle to shut me up. Please don't tell me to shut up though...

- filthy socialist who firmly believes that so long as nobody is getting hurt, everybody has the right to live their life how they want, and be who they want. That is to say, homophobes, racists, bigots, one nation voters, etc are NOT my people. The only caveat to this "live and let live" policy is any illegal shit. You do you, but I've worked too hard to risk certain career enablers by associating with that sort of thing. Sorry.

Anyway, if you've made it this far and aren't immediately inclined to downvote, maybe hit me up?

Single mum in Northern Rivers, looking for someone to send good morning and good night messages to. Talk to someone about our day. Ask questions and get to know each other.

Previously worked as a teacher, currently studying art. Lover of music, Lego, gaming, learning new things, making art, playing board games, F1, making and eating good food. Complete nerd about maths and stats. Soccer mum.

Just looking for someone with good morals, common sense and decency, no drugs or smoking, some common interests, will actually turn up and hang out to do things together. Absolutely will not tolerate guys with partners and you will be blocked if you send d1ck pics.

27F aussie girly, caucasian, short, cute and curvy in Perth looking for a friend I can have a laugh with, and feel genuinely comfortable with while enjoying consistent catch ups for something fun and then maybe something fun after hehe. Would be nice if you can hold an educated, honest and emotionally mature conversation. Not wanting super relationship vibes, more casual. I don’t want either person to feel used, just want mutually beneficial fun. Not interested in someone who sleeps around a lot, will not be catching anything nasty. 😆

This year, I’ve decided to put myself out there more than ever. I’ve been single for quite a while and I’m often asked why. Truthfully, I’m not entirely sure myself. The last four years have been spent healing, navigating life, building a deeper relationship with myself and focusing on my health, fitness and overall lifestyle. I’m incredibly grateful for that journey because I’ve never felt more peaceful, grounded or content in who I am.

That said, I’ve reached a stage where I genuinely yearn for a deep connection and true intimacy rather than something superficial. Attraction is important to me. I believe there needs to be a spark and mutual chemistry for something meaningful to grow.
I’m drawn to people who are emotionally intelligent, kind, self-aware and take care of themselves. Someone with good banter, a warm heart and a positive outlook on life. When I’m with the right person, I naturally bring out the best in them and they do the same for me.

I spent most of my twenties building a life for myself in Sydney, often independently, with a small circle of friends. Along the way I’ve grown tremendously. I’m fun, adaptable and love experiencing life. Dancing and music have always been a huge part of who I am, I grew up dancing and playing sports, so I enjoy being active, outdoors and surrounded by nature.
Fashion is another passion of mine. I love getting dressed up, feeling beautiful and embracing life’s little moments. My friends joke that I’m always dressed as if I’m heading on a date.

If you’re genuinely looking for your person and feel like we might have something in common, send me a message. Let’s see where a conversation takes us.

kinda just want help with practice or even just advice I’ve never done hookups and I’m starting to get to a point where I do want to start dating but I’m also pretty scared too just cause of what the hookup culture kinda is now and it’s now pretty normal to hookup in the first date and I want I guess know what to do or atleast have a little experience of what I’m doing and not let them down or blow it cause I don’t know how to kiss

I do running competitively so I don’t really get to go out and get the opportunities you get from going out to clubs or bars, I’m pretty awkward at first but also pretty talkative once I get past that awkward first 10-15mins I’m 6,0 black hair hazel eyes but just ask in private message if you wanna see a photo of me I don’t care what age just looking for someone who’s kind and patient and who’ll make me feel comfortable and not judge me, also happy for a FWB situation if that’s what your looking for
I’m also more then happy to get to know each other or talk for a while first I’m in no rush to go straight into it, although would rather sooner then later

I do want to atleast know how to kiss cause I don’t wanna be a shit kisser but also learn whatever you think I need to in terms of what’s important to women when doing sexual intimacy, in short answer I’m happy to try anything that might be important to improve intimacy in a relationship

Most likely won’t be able to host but got my license and a car so can come to you or meet somewhere

Have posted here a few times but yet to have luck hopefully this times the one cheers