r/RPLnoLC

Long post ahead - please read I’m desperate.

My husband (35) and I (34) have been TTC since November of 2024. We have purposely tried to conceive (with tracking, timed intercourse, etc) a total of 6 times, and have gotten pregnant 5 times.

-Nov 2024 (loss at 5w3d) low betas, highest 36

-Feb 2025 (ectopic at 6w1d) treated with methotrexate. Kept my tube.

-July 2025 (loss at 5w0d) low betas, highest 56

-January 2026 (loss at 5w2d) slow/low betas, highest 250

-July 2026 - currently pregnant, probably a chemical - first vvfl at 11/12dpo, still with faint lines at 13/14 DPO. Positive digital. Starting betas tomorrow. This was the only pregnancy where I started progesterone suppositories and injections as well as Lovenox at 3dpo. I also added Pepcid and Claritin.

-After each loss we took time off, whether for a mental break or for additional testing. After taking time off, we’d try, and get pregnant first round. There’s only one month (December 2025) that we tried and did not get pregnant.

-As far as testing goes, I’ve done everything under the sun. I had mild (only 4 CD138+ cells) chronic endometritis treated in November. Verified it was treated with repeat biopsy. Then had my 4th loss 2 months later. HSG/SIS normal. All labs normal except I have above average AMH and AFC for my age (~4, ~28) but otherwise no other labs that would be consistent with PMOS.

-in May 2026 I had a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy that showed some scar bands inside my uterus that were excised, as well as a small focal area of stage 1 endo. This was our first cycle TTC post surgery.

-husbands SA is normal and DNA fragmentation is “excellent”

-I am compound heterozygous MTHFR (normal homocysteine, folate, B12) but I take Thorne prenatal with methylated folate. Other supplements include vitamin D, coq10, inositol, magnesium, vitamin C, NAC, omega-3s. I also take baby aspirin.

I have an appointment with a Reproductive Immunologist in August. This is going to be expensive but I’ve been on a waitlist for 6 months so I kept the appt.

I’m exhausted friends. What do I do next? Wait for my RI appt? Start the IVF process to do PGT testing? I’m either consecutively making bad embryos for which IVF might help, or my body is attacking them, for which RI might help. Idk. Success stories welcome. I just want one healthy baby and with every loss I just feel that slipping away.

Hi everyone.

I (F33) started TTC on september of 2025 and finally in February we got our first positive, which unfortunately was a MC. So the next 3 cycles I've gotten pregnant as well but I've lost each one of them, in total I have had 4 miscarriages (a mix of MMC, MC and CP) I haven't even been able to reach to the echography stage.

Has anyone had the same experience?

Also wanted to vent that it feels so isolating that everyone around me is having great and easy TTC and pregnancies stories (at least in my close circle)

No, but hopefully one day.

We have four babies in the stars, but haven't been lucky enough to meet one yet.

It's our greatest wish.

We've had three losses, no living children.

My favorite tattoo is for our first baby, and I have a special necklace I wear when I'm thinking about our twins.

I've been pregnant on and off for two years with nothing to show for it.

No, but there's nothing wrong with us, we've done all the testing.

My body has a hard time staying pregnant.

I'm their mother, but I'm not a mother.

I always thought we would.

Yes, I've labored alone in my bathroom on a Thursday night and I survived.

Yes, and I had cravings for songs and smells in my last two pregnancies, and hash brown casserole in my first.

I think you mean well by asking that, but it's a tough question to answer.

Well I know everything I need to about labor, breastfeeding, and the first 12 years of life because I love to research first.

I don't think that will happen for us.

No, and we are aware of the option to adopt, thank you.

No, and I don't want to hear that it worked out when your friend just relaxed.

Sort of, but also not.

The universe has an interesting way of working out.

If love could keep a pregnancy alive, we would.

I'm jealous of people who have only had one loss.

Well I have a very sweet senior dog and a puppy.

The fertility specialist said we have a 60% chance of ever having a living child, and that we could have endless more miscarriages. She said to keep trying until our hearts couldn't handle it anymore.

Do you know how much life force it takes to grow an embryo? And to grieve them?

Well I'm basically a parent from being a nanny for 10 years.

We got our lives all set up and ready, we're just waiting for a baby that may never come.

Isn't it so funny how people have babies without even trying?

They all have names, and their souls were all so different.

I'm the only one who really knew them.

I don't know who I am anymore since they entered and left my life and body.

My body is kind of like a burial ground.

I got to love four babies with everything in me.

It's a pretty invasive question.

We have a room full of clothes and books ready for them, painfully infused with love.

My arms are so wide open and empty.

I don't have a good answer for you.

Do you have any kids?

I recently had a D&C, and because I have a history of recurrent pregnancy loss (RPL), I’m not planning to try again this cycle.

The waiting period is frustrating because it feels like there’s not much that can be done immediately after a D&C. Many investigations can’t be done until hCG returns to baseline or after a menstrual cycle.

For those who’ve been through this, what did you do during this waiting period to prepare for your next pregnancy?

I’m looking for things like:
-Tests or appointments you scheduled.
-Lifestyle or nutrition changes that helped.
-Did you undergo an egg retrieval in the first cycle after your D&C, or did you wait?
-Did you do any preparation specifically for IVF during this time? I’m leaning towards IVF, so I’d love to hear what you did before starting.

I’d especially love to hear from anyone with RPL or multiple losses, but all experiences are welcome.
Thanks in advance ❤️

Ever since this nightmare started, I notice there's a common rhetoric. "Women should talk about their miscarriages", "so many women go through this", "for a long time miscarriages were something you kept to yourself, but thankfully that's changing!"

I am fully open to talking about my miscarriages with people in my life. I need to. This is so difficult to carry all by myself. But besides a therapist, I have two friends who I feel safe talking to about how I feel. Besides them, very few people seem to want, or even be willing to tolerate, talking to me about it. And those that do just push me to the future and focus on how they're so sure I'll have a baby soon, I can always try IVF, etc. Or they say things that are just so messed up that I feel like they gave no care or thought to what they were saying. And of all the times to put thought into what you say, wouldn't now be the time?

After my first miscarriage, I felt so held. I had an outpouring of love and support from so many places. After my second and third, literally 0 people said anything to me. About 3 weeks after being discharged from the hospital for complications for my third consecutive miscarriage, I went to visit with my husband's family. My sister in law who had a then two year old, started excitedly talking about names for her next baby. Right next to me, a person who had just had her third consecutive miscarriage. My other sister in law sent me a link for a prenatal nutritionist. How could she not see that this would imply the miscarriages are my fault for having a poor diet? I lost my oldest friend because she didn't want to be "bombarded" by me talking about my miscarriages and felt I was being "so negative." My sister told me that "allowing myself to feel upset" about these types of comments was "a me problem."

My therapist told me that from these experiences, it would serve me to learn that these people aren't safe to share with. However, she did say that I need to and should talk about it. Ok, well to who??????? There isn't anyone who wants to talk about it!!