r/RealFurryHours

Sometimes even I get sick of seeing the negativity and pessimism, of the "The fandom used to be better back in ____!" posts. So I figured I'd ask: what are some ways you feel the fandom has actually improved over time?

I have a small list of things that have. Many of them just follow things that have improved in society in general.

1. Acceptance of neurodiversity. Yeah this wasn't always a thing. If there ever ends up being archives of the old FurAffinity forums that pop up, I can show you all the anti-autistic threads they had on there circa 2012. It was pretty bad. The users on that forum (outside of the art/commission sections) were often as bad as how KF is now (iykyk). And while there's still a ways to go, it's so much better now.

2. Protection of minors. I'm sure a bunch of us in the fandom for a decade or more have stories of adults being creeps to teens. Seeing the video last year of a fur at FWA getting maced after creeping on teens is definitely a step up from how things were years ago. Adults in the fandom seem to really go out of their way to keep minors away from NSFW content.

3. Acceptance of being sober/drugless. I was bullied a lot around the early 2010s for being completely sober and not smoking weed or whatever. I haven't had that happen in a long time. Of course furs will judge me for it, and probably insult me in their heads, but they ain't bullying me out loud. And nowadays there's even an entire Sober Furs panel (and Telegram chat) at both AC and FWA.

4. Partial suits (and other types) seen as valid. For a while in the 2000s and early 2010s the fandom skewed very "fullsuit or nothing". And not nearly as many people had a suit, likely for that reason. Other than the AC fiasco (which they had to do sadly cuz there was just too many people otherwise), now I see all different types of suits, masks, etc. people make and I love the creativity and that not every suit has to look the same.

5. Discourse around s.a. Sadly it does happen and especially did at cons and such and people tried to excuse it or sweep it under the rug, but now I don't notice that as much, now if it happens, someone usually says something right away.

6. More acceptance by non-furs. I personally see it as a win when my friends can go out fursuiting and not get shit for it. Definitely smiled when I heard a person excitedly say to my friends "Oh furries! I saw you guys in TikTok!" lmao.

That's all I got for now. Feel free to add to the list. Try and keep things positive lol I know it's difficult but try.

I’m 33 now. When I was 16 I lied about my age to access porn on the internet. I know, shocker, right? Anyone that’s ever had to go through middle and high school knows what a bunch of lying sociopathic assholes teens can be, especially when they have anonymity. And as harsh as it sounds, if someone decides to cry groomer for attention or to avoid getting into trouble, no one is going to believe the adult. Here are some things you can do to stay safe:

1. Ask someone for their age before you have your dick in your hand. No, seriously. People suck at making good decisions when they’re horny. The phrase “I’m 16” hits different when your mind is clear vs when you’ve been masturbating for 30 minutes before they drop that bomb. It’s not an excuse and it shouldn’t be, but a lot of otherwise good people make stupid decisions when they’re already trying to bust a nut.

2. Trust your gut. If someone is acting “young” the chance that they’re lying about their age is a lot higher than you’d expect, and even when they lie you’re going to be held to a harsh standard.

3. Get to know the person beforehand in a setting that doesn’t lead to sex. This isn’t just for lying children. You don’t want to stick your dick in crazy either. Even if it’s a virtual dick.

I’m thankful I didn’t ruin anyone’s life when I was young and dumb, but not everyone is going to be lucky. Stay safe y’all!

Looking for furry MTG groups, specifically commander. I want to make new friends and acquaintances near me. But I'm having trouble finding anything except one telegram group.

I’m looking for furry literature. Specifically, full-length books. And written by people from the fandom or associated with it, rather than simply being a book with anthropomorphic characters. I’ve seen quite a few short stories on FA but no full-length, published novels.

Any good ones out there?

I hope this doesnt get taken down but…

What do i mean by normal? The only difference is i am a furry. And i like wearing diapers. Simple as that, no age-play, no public wearing/usage of them, no involvement of others without their consent. Strictly just, disposable underwear. face value? Yeah, it’s weird, and a lot of people don’t understand it, and i don’t expect them to, but for the love of God i do not want to be associated with the wrong kind of person.

Aside from already being weird as fuck for being a furry to the public eye, i also get to be criticized within the fandom itself for wearing diapers.

I get it. I really do. Believe me, it really really pisses me off when someone wears a diaper in a non-18+ or kink restricted area. It grosses me out when i have to smell others who havent wiped their fucking asses. It disgusts me to my core when people sexualize minor characters. But notice the one thing here???? Its all about consent, its all just people not getting it through their thick skull that it’s basic consent.

Why should i (or anyone in the same situation as me) be lumped in with these people, why do i have to endure being called a pedophile. I would rather kill myself than to allow one single child to be hurt like that.

It just feels so dehumanizing, and it makes me disgusted of myself for doing something that functionally harms nobody. I dont know anymore man

Recently scammers started to impersonating artists as new scam method, which will damage artist's rep if they succeed to scam. at first i believed this was done by people who hate specific artist so trying to impersonate them to make a drama, but as seeing various artists in various theme got their own impersonator, i started to believe that this is new scam method and this is so fucked up environment for individual who isn't familiar to scammers.

since internet is large and all people can't prevent impersonating by registering every site with their username(Even if they succeed to make account on every platform, scammers can attack like using i as l), this method will go looonger like sns's fake artist accounts. and as seeing how they impersonate and acts, i guess those aren't bot but malicious people so hard to prevent impersonator, both client and artist should be alert of those bad people.

I'm broke so no chance of getting scammed, but i'm curious if chargeback works for those scammers. if so, at least people got scammed can restore their damage..