r/Suburbanhell

i’m trapped in the suburbs without a license or a car (yes i’m an american adult who can’t drive we exist)I haven’t even graduated college yet and even when i do the chances that I’ll be able to afford moving out of my parents suburban house are little to NONE and i am sick of people telling that i can “just leave”. I would KILL to be able to move to a city that actually suits my needs but the reality for most people my age is that moving out isn’t possible. i can’t get any good hours at my job over school breaks because I’m fully reliant on other people to drive me places so even when i am making money it’s not NEARLY enough to begin saving up for an apartment.

i understand this isn’t exactly a mental health sub but how tf do i keep myself from going postal when i have to live like this. HOW

edit: im convinced some of you just don’t understand that disabled people/people on certain meds exist and are NOT ABLE TO DRIVE!!!!

Is it my imagination but is Marblehead absolutely gorgeous but one of the most boring and miserable places to live as a transplant? The food is terrible, alcohol seems to be a pastime. It seems ok if you have children but otherwise, people drone on and on about generations, ancestral history…very little live music. I guess I can describe it as a beautiful but soulless town.

It is safe and has good health care. I’ve lived all over the US and outside the country. I have enough money to live here, a beautiful house but geez…

Am I crazy? Maybe it’s a bad place for transplants without children.

I’ve lived in the suburbs my whole life, and it’s nauseating. I didn’t get my license until I was 17 (I’m almost 21) and I didnt have any friends during my high school years, so I never went out, because every thing required a car to get to and our public transport was awful. My nearest bus stop is like miles away from my house. And no point in going out if there’s nothing to do and no one to do it with. The only reason I even leave my house is to go to school or work or to get food. I still live with my parents due to my school being close, and they want me to stay, but I can’t, I don’t belong here. I just need an escape from this nightmare. I want to go out and do stuff, but everything is just houses, roads, grocery stores, and fast food places. Nowhere to just be. I need to get out. What should I do?

For reference, I was born and grew up in a city of 13 million people. I’ve lived in cities my entire life. Then my parents said it was time to buy a place, and with my budget, I fell into the trap of my money will get me further and I can get something bigger in the suburbs. A couple of months later, everything came crashing down.

I used to be a very active person. I danced, hiked, walked for miles, those things were my therapy. I loved simply walking around the city, people-watching, saying hi to dogs, randomly coming across events, urban trails, parks, cafés, and whatever else was happening. I spend a lot of time alone, and I loved it because I loved the city for exactly those reasons.

But then when I moved to suburb I got sick, and I ended up dealing with all these health issues I had never experienced before: inflammation, hormonal issues, depression, anger, chronic injuries, and just this feeling that my soul and zest for life are being sucked out of me by the suburbs - really heavy energy basically my time mainly is now spent in doctors appointments. I hate myself for making such an awful decision.

I absolutely fucking hate it here, to the core, with every cell in my body. And it has made me feel incredibly isolated and lonely - even though I’m someone who travels alone, hikes alone, camps alone, and generally has no problem doing things by myself.

Unfortunately, because of work and everything else, I had to stay here for two years. But I am very determined to leave sometime next year.

So I have two questions:
First: Is this all in my head, or can a genuinely awful environment—like living somewhere that is completely incompatible with who you are - the evil suburb- actually affect your mental and physical health? Has anyone else experienced this? I’m curious to hear from people who have been in the same boat, because honestly, I’d like to know I’m not alone.
Second: How the hell do you survive until you can leave? How do you get through living in a place you hate without letting it torture and destroy you?
Thanks.

It's getting darker earlier now since we past the summer solistice a few weeks ago. I've been living in the suburbs for almost 4 years and I never look forward to November!! This suburb is car-centric, shitty public transit. Hell I'm not looking forward that in 2 weeks schools will start and all the traffic with school buses. Yeah in November it'll be dark at 5 PM. I'll wake up for work and it'll be dark then. Don't get me started on the snow storms when winter comes. And where I live there are no streetlights so it's pitch black and nowhere to really go. Looking for advice? For context, I lived in a very urban environment all my life. People were saying you'll love the suburbs because I'm a quiet person lol. This year was the first time where I'm like job searching needs to be in my schedule. I work on a military base and I know people say you should lean onto others but I just feel like everyday I'm becoming more detached from my coworkers. Before I relied on them more to keep me grounded but now feel like I'm coming into my own. Generally cities are more expensive, but yeah it might be time to stop thinking about the cost factor and live frugally for the rest of my life.

Writing a short story and trying to find smaller towns in the US with high crime rates, drug use, or just dangerous places in general. They can be anywhere, but preferably east coast and Midwest? Thanks