r/TTCstruggles

2 years TTC — secondary infertility 💔

I had my son in 2020 with no issues. In 2024, we started trying for baby #2. I got pregnant the first month but miscarried at 8 weeks.

Since then, all our testing has come back normal. Tubes open, sperm good, regular cycles, and I ovulate monthly. My first IUI resulted in a chemical pregnancy, my second failed, and I’ve had 3 failed cycles with Clomid/timed intercourse and progesterone. Changed doctors did 2 cycles with him just progesterone.

I’m now 34 with an AMH of 2.83. My doctor wants me to try another IUI, but I’m self-pay and spending $1,500–$2,000 per cycle. I can use that money towards IVF

Would you keep trying IUIs or move on to IVF? I’m so overwhelmed and don’t know what to do. 😩💔

Hello! I just posted about baby aspirin but I was also curious to just see if there were any others like me out there.

My husband and I have been TTC for almost 2 years with not a single positive. I have short luteal phase with spotting that I’m assuming is due to low progesterone (that’s also the assumption my RE is making as they have me on progesterone supplementation). I don’t have a formal diagnosis of endometriosis. I don’t have painful periods. They’re actually short (2-3 days) and really light (I may fill one pad a day). I have really bad gas, constipation, bloating, indigestion, and acid reflux and am currently waiting for an upper scope to rule out a GI disorder but my symptoms tend to be really bad during my luteal phase, especially 2-4 days before my period. I just chalked it up to PMS.

Like mentioned in my aspirin post, my RE is considering that I may have mild endo given some of my symptoms, but my period symptoms seem to be the opposite of typical endo symptoms (especially from what I can find). Has anyone else been diagnosed or struggled with endo and didn’t have the “typical” presentation? I only ask because, like I said, I’m TTC and want to know what you ended up finding out and how you proceeded.

I've had two failed FET with nothing being visibly wrong. Did lots of tests etc. And today someone asked me a question which made me wonder. They asked whether I think that subconsciously (like fears) something is blocking me from getting pregnant. I am a pretty realistic person but considering now I am desperate and panicking I thought is that really a possibility. What are your thoughts? And if that can be and issue, how do I deal with it?

I’m not really sure what the purpose of this post is. My husband and I (both 30) are now into the sixth cycle TTC. I understand this is early in the grand scheme of things. However, two years ago we conceived unexpectedly, which ended in a termination. My father was extremely unwell at the time and my mental health was in a terrible place, but it was an extremely hard decision for us as we both knew we wanted children, and not in the too distant future. Ultimately I think it is now something we regret. Given this history, we thought we would have no trouble conceiving naturally. We did a lot of prep too, I lost two stone with a GLP-1 and my partner gave up drinking for three months. We’ve both been taking Proceive supplements and eating a healthy diet, limiting red meat and processed food etc. I’m controlling everything I can but I am extremely stressed. My work is very full-on with several crises happening at once. My dad also died last year so I’m very much still in the pits of grief, and realistically am very depressed. The stress of failing at this every month is adding to the pile. 

I can’t help but feel like having an abortion has caused some kind of issue with me (I’ve also been experiencing shorter than ideal luteal phases of 9-11 days since I started tracking) or that it’s some kind of twisted fate punishing me for what I did. This cycle I’ve given up alcohol (so has my partner) and caffeine, been drinking pomegranate juice and wearing fluffy socks, using conception lube and I’ve bought a fertility cup. I also picked up Mucinex when I was in the states last month although that obviously didn’t help with the cycle just gone. I am doing everything I can to not feel stressed. When I’m at home with my partner and dog on the weekend, I actually feel relaxed, it’s my safe space. But then the week starts up and it all goes to shit again. I feel so alone in this and can’t talk about it with my friends. All of them who have kids or are pregnant had success on the first try or got there within five months. There is one person I know struggling with infertility but that’s on the other extreme - two years of trying, ridiculous waiting lists and a serious diagnosis meaning IVF is the only option. I don’t know what more I can do and I don’t know how I can carry on like this for another six months before getting things checked out. Sending solidarity to everyone else out there.