r/Trentahin

EXAMPLE : Ngumiti ka palagi, mas cute ka kapag nakangiti.

Inner Thoughts: Inutusan pa ko ngumiti, sino ka ba?

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So lately bigla ko nalang to naisip iidk if this is because wala akong work (pero savings ko parin naman gumagalaw to feed us) pero i feel the burn out sa life napapaquestion ako na "kung ang meaning ng buhay ay mag work tas magbayad ng bills parang ayoko na " nakakapagod siya specially sakin na may sinusupport na parents. Iniisip ko na ganito ba talaga cycle kasi if theres a chance wag na magising bukas ok nako , i told to my mom na ok nako mawala sa earth cause i dont see the spark of life i can only see obligation, work , responsibility and bills.

Hi mga ka trenta, im 30f meron akong nakakausap ngayon sa reddit 30+ na din and lagi syang nagpapahaging ng gusto nya na kami mag meet. Bali sfw kami may konting nsfw (words). Ready naman ako sa kung ano ang mangyayari at aware ako na hindi ako dapat makipag bembangan sa anonymous kaya nilinaw ko naman sa kanya. Ang problema ko ay magkaiba kami ng lifestyle at nahihiya akong sabihin sa kanya. Ako living paycheck to paycheck sya maraming pambili basta hindi ko afford makipag sabayan sa kanya!! Should i continue or ighost ko na lang sya. Mabait naman sya, consistent at marunong magdala ng conversation. Sa lifestyle lang tlaga hindi kami bagay . Baka yung para sa kanya ay yung ka level nya 🥲

Ang hirap pala pag may crush ka at 30’s. Nakilala ko sya sa hobby ko and been really trying to get to know at close sa ferson. Kaso parang nahalata, tinatanong ako if gusto ko ba sya. Kaso as a trentahin na nonchalant dpat I try to avoid the question kase gusto ko nga sya kaso baka umiwas naman kase awkward nga.

How to handle this maturely?

I moved to Australia this year and started working this month.

My coworkers are all Aussies, and I struggle so much with the accent. I understand English, pero kapag Aussie accent na, I get lost. It makes me feel disconnected.

The pay is good, and my family needs the money, so I can’t just walk away. But I cry every morning before work because I feel so lonely. Just thinking about going back tomorrow already makes my chest feel tight.

I miss my friends in the Philippines so much. I miss having people who understand me without me having to repeat myself or pretend I understood them.

I’m trying my best, but right now I feel like I won’t have any friends here. I feel so out of place. It’s lonely.

I know adjustment takes time, but right now it feels really overwhelming. :(

Hi trentahin friends! Anyone with a bad posture or neck humps due to working in front of the computer over the years and got it corrected?

What steps did you take? Ang lala na tignan ng neck hump ko 😭

Husband and I have been looking for meet-up groups pero wala kami mahanap in all socmeds in Rizal area.

Pano na nga ba magmeet ang mga tao ngayon? Haha

I don’t even know if this counts as a breakup because technically, we were never really together.

For almost 4 years, this man was my best friend. We talked almost every day, shared everything, stayed through difficult moments, and became emotionally attached in a way that honestly blurred every line possible. We called each other “bffs,” but deep down I think both of us knew it stopped being just friendship a long time ago.

The problem was… it never fully became anything either.

There were feelings, affection, emotional intimacy, jealousy, mixed signals, late-night conversations, and moments that felt too deep to just be platonic. We became physically intimate too, which only made the attachment stronger and the boundaries even more confusing. It felt like we were emotionally and physically committed to each other without ever truly defining what we were.

And somehow, that kind of connection can hurt more because you keep holding onto the possibility that maybe one day it’ll finally become real.

But there was also inconsistency, uncertainty, and this constant feeling that we were stuck in between friendship and something more.

Recently, we finally had closure. He admitted things honestly, and for the first time I realized that continuing this connection was hurting me more than helping me.

The painful part is that he wanted to stay in my life. He wanted us to remain close. But I realized I couldn’t do it anymore because I loved him too much to peacefully watch him eventually love or choose someone else.

I couldn’t keep pretending I was okay with “just friendship” when my feelings clearly went beyond that. I think staying would’ve slowly destroyed me emotionally.

So I left.

And now I feel like I lost both a potential lover and my best friend at the same time.

That’s the part nobody talks about enough. Sometimes the grief isn’t just romantic heartbreak, it’s mourning the person who used to feel like home to you.

Part of me wishes we never crossed the line emotionally and physically because maybe we could’ve preserved the friendship. But another part of me knows that after years of unresolved feelings, intimacy, and emotional dependency, there was no real way to go back to being “just friends.”

I know leaving was the right decision for my peace, but it still hurts so much.

Has anyone else gone through this? Losing your best friend because the relationship became too emotionally complicated to survive?

Mga ate, tita, tito, lahat na. MAHABA ‘TO.

Pagalitan nyo na ako please. Di na ako natutuwa sa sarili ko. To start, about to sa breast ko. Baka kilala na ko ng iba dito kaka post and kaka comment or even message ko sa iba. Gusto kong maghanap ng magpapagalit sakin kasi MONTHLY NA AKONG NAGPAPA-ULTRASOUND SA BREAST.

Sobrang tigas ng ulo ko, onting nararamdaman ko lang, nagpapacheck agad ako. Nag papa ultrasound ako. Last Feb, kaka-watch ko sa soc med, naisip ko magpa ultrasound.

Feb 2026, may nakita sa left breast ko. Sabi sa report, likely lipoma. Paguwi ko ng bahay, may nabasa ako na dapat daw, 5-7 days after ng mens yung ultrasound. Sabi ko shet, mali ako kasi 1st day ng mens ako nagpa ultrasound. Naghintay ako matapos mens ko, which is natapos na ng March. <Clinic 1> Birads 2 ako dito.

March (first week) - nagpa ultrasound ako, ibang clinic to. Sabi sa report, di nila na appreciate yung “lipoma”. So birads 1 ako. <Clinic 2>

March (second week) - may nakapa ako, pero dito grabe anxiety ko. Di ako mapakali, nagpa ultrasound ulit ako. Sabi nila, yung nakakapa ako is lymph node daw. Dun ako nagpa ultrasound kung saan ako nagpa ultrasound nung first week ng March <Clinic 2> Birads 2.

Same day nito, naghanap ako ng breast specialist at sakto, may malapit at may sched malapit dito sa <Clinic 2>, binigay ko yung resulta at di sha convinced sa lymph nodes. Pinakapa ko sakanya yung nakakapa nga daw nya. For my peace of mind, sabi nya “ipaulit naten, pero dito na sa ospital” <Hospital 1>. That day, nasalang din ako sa ultrasound. And I must say, HINALUKAY talaga nung rad tech yung breast ko. Ang saket talaga ng pagkaka ultrasound sakin. Dito nya nakita na may complicated cyst ako, at yung lipoma na nakita don sa <Clinic 1> ay nakita nya ulit. Ang term nila is “consistent with Fat Lobule”. Birads 2 ang binigay sakin at nakita ng breast specialist yung report, sabi nya sige “monitor tayo ng 6 months” okay.

April - ito na, dito na ako naging mas “mabantay” sa breast ko. Napapansin ko na lahat ng mga di ko napapansin dati, nakikita ko yung mga stretch marks, mga parang peklat, at sobrang takot ako. Sinubukan kong wag pansinin. Then one day, nagkaron ako ng pimple near areola, pinakita ko sa breast specialist na pinuntahan ko nung March, sabi nya “wala yan pimple lang” nag heal naman. Pero di ako mapakali kasi yung feeling ko may something sa pimple at ang nasa isip ko, kelangan ko ulit magpa ultrasound. Di ako mapakali talaga. Panay ang kapa ko sa breast ko, ARAW ARAW. Umiiyak ako habang kinakapa ko. Panay ang dasal ko na tanggalin yung takot ko. Hanggang sa last week ng April, di ako nakatiis, nagpa ultrasound ulit ako. <Clinic 3> This time may nakita sa right breast ko, pero sabi ng radiologist, benign looking naman. Birads 3 binigay nila. Sabi nya good for monitoring lang ulit. Bigla kong naisip, mali nanaman timing ng ultrasound ko kasi di ako nagkaron ng mens ng April. SO AGAIN, back to paranoid mode ako.

May - pinaulit ko ulit kasi nagkaron na ako. Same lang naman result nung April at Birads 3 pa din. Pinakuha din ako ng test for tumor marking. <Clinic 3>

Ngayon, habang tina-type ko to, di nanaman mapakali utak ko. Kasi kanina napansin ko may stretch mark nanaman sa right breast ko. Di talaga ako mapakali, kahit kanina, 2 doctor na pinuntahan ko, 2 silang nagsabi sakin na wag mag worry. For monitoring lang talaga.

Ang dami kong binago sa habit ko. Walking every morning, searching for supplements na okay for breast health, mga herbal. Tina-try kong magpaka healthy at kung kaya, mawala yung mga nakita sa breast ko. ANG HIRAP. Wala akong ibang mapagsabihan kasi ALAM KONG DI NA TO NORMAL. Pero naisip ko dito magsabi kasi baka mas okay na pagalitan ako ng ibang tao kesa ng mga taong kilala ko.
Nahihirapan ako. Gusto kong labanan tong takot ko. Ayokong magkasakit, ayokong ma-manifest to :(

PAGALITAN NYO KO!!

Yun lang.

Hello sino po dito naka try ng services ni Coach Vee sa Matchmaking Manila?
Na curious lang ako. Would like to read some reviews.
Thank you

Yung as in sagad na talaga hanggang dyan lang na age, hindi na bababa? 😆

For context: im 29F. Kadalasan kasi gen Z nakakausap ko haha

Sa panahon ngayon uso na ang online dating and possible mainlove sa taong di pa naten nakikita. Sana makahanap kayo ng tao na mapapangalagaan ang puso at katahimikan ng isip nyo . ❤️

To my fellow trentahin dads na may anak na lalaki, when is the best age para i-introduce sa anak natin yung stuff about private parts, functions nito, and even sex mismo? Paano din sya maprepare for circumcision?

I have a son, turning 6 soon, and I know very early naman pag usapan yung mga ganitong bagay pero sya yung tipong smartass and speaks his mind without filter, he's naturally curious and asks about all kinds of stuff, and one time natanong nya kung saan daw galing ang babies. 😅 And it wont end there, andaming follow-up questions, at inuulit-ulit pa kung di sya satisfied sa tanong hahaha

Nung bata kasi ako, I had a huge gap from my older siblings (sisters) and I'm the only boy in the family. I remember never talaga kami nkapag usap ng dad ko about these stuff and I just learned everything either from class (Science subject) and from what I hear from boys around me.

This time, gusto ko sana na information would at least come from me, and that di rin sya ma-mislead ng environment nya.

Thanks in advance sa mga sasagot.