r/Trentahin

Lagi kong nakikita dito yung yearning posts at mga na-ghost na nagtatanong:

“Ganito na ba talaga ngayon? Bakit hindi na lang sabihin kung ayaw na?”

Same feels. Ilang beses na din akong na-ghost. May mga nagyaya rin naman ng second dates na ako naman ang umayaw for some reason.

Sabi ng friend ko, baka hind daw ako pang-dating apps. Try to “meet people organically"

Okay. Tinry ko naman. And eto ang aking findings lol

1. WORK — EKIS na 'to agad.

I don’t shit where I eat. Mahirap mag-resign ulit.

2. HOBBIES

I LOVE swimming so sabi ko baka nandito din ang aking person. Nung una, I tried going to public pools kasi mas mura. Sabi ko my person could be kuripot. At di ako nagkamali, may nakabingwit este lumapit naman sa akin.

Kaya laang, ang linyahan: “Madalas ka ba dito?”

I was like, "kuya wag po!" HAHAHA Jokes aside, natakot talaga ako. Since then, naka-RBF + tinted goggles na tayo.

Nung naka-angat angat sa laylayan, nag-posh pools naman ako (yung may membership na) In fairness, I felt safer to swim alone.

And there, I FOUND MY MARKET.

Senior citizens! HAHAHA

I swim in the morning (I guess wrong timeslot) so I got titas and lolas instead asking me how I managed to swim across laps hahaha

Tried freediving as well. I didn't get lolas pero there were a lot of ates and sissies din. Hahaha

3. TRAVEL

Nung naiwan akong mag-isa abroad, nagbook ako ng cooking class.

Baka naman foreigners kasi ang market ko.

Ayun.

May foreigners nga na cutie...

...Pero may jowa rin silang foreigners.

HAHAHAHA

Ohh, nag-organize din ako ng tours. Guess what demographic I attracted?

Mga tita and lolas. Again.

At this point, kung puwede lang silang asawahin, feeling ko magiging masaya naman ako hahaha

So sabi ko, sige. Maybe I should go somewhere more aligned with my values.

4. CHURCH

Para easier if ever magkaka-family in the future.

So sumali ako sa Catholic org na parang Sisters for Christ.

In my head:

Sisters… so baka may Brothers din? Eme

Wala.

We lived up to the name.

Puro sisters. HAHAHA

At doon ko na-realize:

Ayoko sa work.

Parang ayoko rin pala sa hobbies.

Pati church gusto kong peaceful lang.

So saan exactly ako dapat makipagkilala?

Sa Mercury? HAHAHAHA

CONCLUSION

Hindi pala dating apps lang ang problema. Mahirap lang talagang makahanap ng taong gusto mo, gusto ka rin, single, available, pareho kayo ng intention, at nasa roughly same stage kayo financially at emotionally.

Basically, ang daming requirements bago pa umabot sa “spark.”

Kayo, anong organic encounter story niyo?

At mas importante:

May sumakses ba talaga sa inyo dito?

Looking for fellow 28+ titos and titas who still game after work. Currently playing Helldivers 2, World War Z, Wild Rift, plus random movie nights. 🎬

Sometimes gaming, sometimes just tambay and kwentuhan — work, adulting, love life, dating, random life drama… parang podcast session na rin. 😂🎙️

Would be nice to meet more people around the same age who are into games, movies, and chill conversations.

Ano nilalaro niyo lately? 👀

Kaka 30 y/o ko lang this year and i’m single for 3 yrs na. Sa looks, may itsura naman ako (people usually compliment my looks) and isa akong MD pero wala talaga ako manliligaw or ewan 😭 Now im scared na tumandang dalaga huhu i tried dating apps pero hirap ako magreply/start ng convo. May chance pa kaya magkajowa man lang? Hays

Not a fan of celebrating my birthday pero this year it is different.

Different in a way na hindi naman ako malungkot just another normal day pero mas peaceful ☺️

Hindi ko rin masyadong gets pero mas positive vibes hehe

Hi. I’m 31 and still starting at the “adult life”.

I have spent most of my 20s in Law school and haven’t really accomplished anything outside of it (though I am blessed and grateful to have a supportive immediate family, good health, and other aspects of life).

Looking at my peers in high school and college, they already have stable careers, have travelled to various countries, and seem to have made something out of their lives.

Anyone out there who is also still starting at 30s?
I hope we all make it — eventually. #1AMthoughts

This year my friend is about to get married soon with hesitation.

This happened a year ago. And he hasn’t forgotten this one core memory. For context may fiancée sya na nag momove out (helping her fam) while siya naman malayo (enlisted). Then naalimpungatan yung guy at 3AM and saw her location is in a different unit (unfamiliar) and that she wasn’t answering for an hour. After an hour she was able to answer and her location was updated to her condo unit. The girl says nag ooverthink lang si guy.

Can anyone help me uncover the truth? Can anyone make landi to that girl to see if she may bite back? Yun lang kahit chat.

To clear things up, the groom and I have been close friends since we were 12 years old so we are essentially brothers.

I am not digging into this on my own accord.

He is the one who approached me with this matter because he is genuinely bothered and having a hard time to move past this. Yan lang yung namention niya.

As one of his closest friend, I am simply trying to help him navigate his doubts so he can find the clarity he needs before making such a major life commitment na pang lifetime.