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Hi. I asked for a femme wolf cut but (inspo oic attached) and feel like I got a bowl cut that I have no idea how to help save. Any advice would be so appreciated. I feel so so ugly and I’m getting married in 4 months. For reference I asked to keep the length (it was right above my nipple basically) and was thick and gorgeous and it feels like it’s honestly a choppy bowl cut and all my length is gone. Idk what to do 😭😭😭

UPDATE: I realized that if I'm bothered enough about this that I'm going to Reddit, it warrants fixing. I booked an appointment with a hairdresser. Given what happened last time I got my hair cut, I'm nervous about communicating clearly. Is there something wrong with this haircut other than the disconnect between the top and bottom?

TL;DR wondering if I look strange enough to justify going to another salon to have this fixed and if so, is this fixable?

**photos are of unstyled, air-dried hair**

I told my hairdresser that I couldn't stand looking at the black tips of my bixie anymore (growing out dye) and wanted them gone. I asked him to give me the longest pixie that still got the color off and told him I had 4" of regrowth. I noticed during the haircut that he was leaving what looked like 5"+ of hair but I didn't question it because I figured he knew what he was doing. He asked if I wanted him to trim my bangs. I said, "Yeah, sure, a little—I trimmed them myself last week." He cut 1" from the middle of my bangs. I suspect it was an accident he was only going to acknowledge if I complained. I figured what was done was done and at least the color would be gone. At the end, though, he said, "Much better, there's just a little black left at the ends now." I was gobsmacked and also horrified at my very square men's haircut pixie. I would have had him fix it, but why would I trust this man again?

I went home and cut the whole top down by making small sections, measuring 4" with a ruler, and cutting following the shape of my head. I point cut with thinning sheers, which I later learned you're not supposed to do on asian hair 😬. I didn't touch the bottom half of the back or sides of the haircut. I did my best to make the bangs look somewhat not insane. I know that long piece that touches my brow looks weird, but basically I want it to be symmetrical with the other side for when they grow out. I've been curling my bangs under and to the side to hide the sins.

I know the technique I used is not correct and I feel like my hair looks wrong overall, but I can't place how. Part of it would definitely be that the top is not joined correctly to the bottom.​ I don't know what to do to improve this haircut, other than to do my best to flatten everything down with product, or to wear accessories to cover it. I don't trust myself to join the top to the bottom. I also don't know if it looks weird to me because I know it was cut wrong, or if it looks wrong to others, too? I've been wearing crocheted headscarves over my head since this haircut (5 days) because I'm worried it looks crazy on it's own.

If it does look crazy, is there enough hair left for a hairdresser to fix it? Does it just need some re-shaping, or are there visible structural issues? Is there enough hair to salvage approximately this length of pixie, or would I have to go noticeably shorter?

I paid $80 including tip for this haircut and she gave me super disconnected layers now I dont know what to do. Part of the issue with the disconnect is that my bottom layer of hair is straight while the top layers are more curly but its super extreme even then. I really dont want to make it shorter but I don't know what to do besides spend another huge chunk of money to get it fixed. I told the stylist I liked my long hair too :(

I want to start by clarifying that for the past 12 years I’ve had my head shaved to a 3, so I know absolutely nothing about hair, and my question isn’t meant to be sarcastic. 

I live in Germany and my German is so-so, so I can communicate with my hairstylist, but sometimes I can’t find the right words to fully explain what I want. 

I started growing my hair out in August of last year. Three months ago, I went to a salon in my city that’s known for its alternative haircuts and brought the first photo as a reference. My hair wasn’t that long yet, so I told them to do whatever they thought was best so that we could achieve this cut in the future. Of course, they told me that my hair in the back wasn’t long enough yet, so they mostly just trimmed the sides and my bangs. They also cut my bangs straight across, even though, as far as I could tell, they looked layered in the photo. The experience was fine, and I was generally satisfied because I knew I wouldn’t get the exact look from the photo on my first visit.

For my second visit, a month later, I booked the same stylist again. I figured my hair wasn’t quite at the ideal length yet, but maybe we could try a style similar to the one in the photo, just shorter. Well, I don’t know what happened in between, but I walked out of the salon looking like Coconut Head from Ned’s Declassified School Survival Guide but with very short bangs (which I asked for). In the end, they did something weird with the blow-dry and brushing and didn’t use any styling products, whereas the first time they used sea salt spray and a cream for medium curls (my hair isn’t straight like the person in the photo, but it’s barely wavy).

Finally, yesterday I had my third and last appointment at this salon. This time I booked a different stylist, using the same reference photo for the third time but asking for the bangs to be a little shorter and the sides too, kind of like a mullet. Long story short, I ended up looking like a chopped-up Coconut Head again, and the back was cut two months’ worth of growth off. So my question is, am I asking for something impossible given that my hair is more wavy than hers? Is it a styling products problem? Should I moderate my expectations? The salon has great reviews and I’m really confused.

Edit: pronouns

what I asked for vs what I got. I showed her the inspo pic, she looked at it for a half second, then asked me if I wanted layers (I told her the picture is what I want) but I said yes, long layers. and now I have chunky layers up to my cheek bones. is it that bad or am I overreacting?