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Zina is consensual and rape isn't so why do they both have the same punishment?

Hi all,

I’m looking for some understanding and advice. I am a manager (UK) in a medical field. I have a group of 4 young new qualified men in a team who studied and lived together at university. All Muslims.

It turns out that one of them has opened up to colleagues about his sexuality and being gay.
This has now led to 3 of the others removing him from chats, ignoring him at work etc. this has been flagged to me as it’s apparently blatantly obvious with colleagues stating they will walk out of rooms that he enters.

I have had to look in to this and spoken directly with each person involved. From what I understand, the men are not unhappy with their friends sexuality, they are unhappy with their friend claiming he is Muslim. That he can not be a true Muslim if he is gay.

All have been very respectful in how they talk to me and have an open dialogue around this issue without being offensive (I am a gay man myself).

I just wanted to hear and try to understand from other Muslims perspectives on this issue as it’s something completely new for me to navigate.

So muhammad wasn't a seer he could not tell or see future but he was wise and has great leadership....not once a question struck his mind that marrying a six year old and having 11 wives would make people question his choice by non muslims in future, didn't he think his actions would slow down jihad in future because people will start questioning his choices of marrying six year old and having 11 wives?

Pardon my english

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته.‎

I wish to ask about the extent to which I am allowed to mix with those who commit sin openly. Oftentimes I have to be with such people due to being in high school.

My muslim peers backbite upon each other and others, speak with profanity, and speak of many immoral matters openly, despite my asking of them to not do so. Even the best amongst them at least aids the other with sinful activities, though that person is sometimes more receptive to advise.

Indeed it is also a place where free-mixing is possible, though I try my best to not look at them, and limit my verbal conversations, but sometimes I interact with them more when it is necessary to help each other with studies, and end up gazing upon them.

Due to my mixing with my peers for such long periods regularly I have been unable to help myself from developing feelings of companionship with them. Sometimes I accompany them with their activities (games and whatnot), and sometimes we help each other with studies, and sometimes I respond to their conversations, and sometimes I leave the classroom when there is no teacher taking a class, wishing to distance myself from them. I have been stuck in this cycle, falling into sin myself, forgetting manners and etiquette.

Unfortunately since they are my classmates I will have to be with them for some more time.

By Allaah I ask you to advise me, and tell me what I should do, and to what extent I am allowed to mix with them.

جزاك الله خيرا.

I am studying Islam since some months, and refer here to Shaqq al-Qamar, Quran Suah 54:1-2.

Is it true that Mohammed PBUH has split the moon? At first I thought this is a figure of speech, but it seems to be meant literally.

If yes, why was that missed by other cultures and religions? Do we know from e.g. Hadiths for how long the moon has been split? Is there maybe evidence golden age islamic researchers or modern astronomers, who can still point to a breaking line or something similar?

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Wanted to ask about what is the permissiblity of the common image of the grim reaper, with the black hood and scythe? Is this far from the angel of death of islam or could this fall under depiction of angels,

For all my muslims who are reading this: why do you think islam is the right religion?

Scientific miracles are not counted

Thank you for answering ❤

I follow the hanafi madhab, and we aren’t supposed to eat crustaceans, but I worry that everything has to have some cross contamination with crustaceans. I sometimes don’t even eat a certain food and stay hungry because I’m worried I’ll be sinful if I do eat it, and I know this isn’t even valid nor makes sense but even if I eat something that might have cross contamination with crustaceans, I’ll want to clean everything, as in my hands and face, and phone case. I know this is a compulsion though but the concern is genuinely real. I’ll go through the day hungry until there’s something that I don’t think has any cross contamination.

I don’t know what to do about this, is there anyone from the hanafi madhab who has any advice for this at all?

This is a genuine question that has arisen because of events in my life which have brought a great deal of pain and hurt, I'm currently in a very bad circumstances financially, mentally, emotionally and socially, with a clear pattern of these bad circumstances happening my entire life, im 33 right now and alot of it is clear has been down to destiny and fate as the only explanation i can offer for this, the question is why? why does god enable blessings in some peoples lives and curses in others, why is that acceptable? how will this bring me closer to him, if its beyond my capacity (right now its beyond my capacity and bringing a great deal of anger and fustration), so much so i have to do a post on this which i dont usually do. So why, why isit mentioned that some people will be favoured and others will not be (in the quran), how is that fair, when if your not favoured you suffer mentally and emotionally which affects your decision making, even btw when you have done everything within your power to try and change your own life, someone explain this to me, because im so angry right now? i know you will say its a test and all that, but why? why do some people have easier tests than others, its not right imo

If I/my family were invited to dinner with an Islamic family would non alcoholic wine be an acceptable host/hostess gift or would it still be considered haram?

For the record this is not a situation I’ve found myself in but I’ve been somewhat curious as to what the answer might be (also perhaps I could be prepared if such a situation presented itself🙂)

I ask this question because I watched "The Animatrix"(2003). In this film, it features a scene where humanity from all parts of the world have joined together to stop robots from exterminating all of humanity, and it features a scene where Muslim soldiers are doing salah before going into the final battle with the robots.

I was confused by this because couldn't the overwhelming force be interpreted as "Yawm Al-Qiyamah"(the day of judgement) and the robots as judges of humanity? Or would it be seen as Al-Malhama Al-Kubra(Armageddon) where Muslims temporarily join forces with non muslims? What I know about Muslims and Islam, it seems complicated. I understand it is forbidden, or at least Makruh(not islamically advisable) to aid the al-kuffar.

So in a scenario where the idea of a world government is being thrown around in response to a potentially world ending event like an alien or robotic threat, where would Muslims have to stand? Like what if a majority of the coalition agrees to kinda restrict the freedom of Muslim's religious practices? Would you wash your hands of the matter entirely or reduce your self temporarily ins service of the greater good?

Salam everyone. I'm Shia and I've been having some doubts lately and just want to talk them through honestly. I'm not trying to attack the religion at all, I genuinely love being Muslim and I want to keep practicing without these doubts weighing on me. Honestly, I'd love nothing more than to be proven wrong on some of these and have it all make sense again. I'd really appreciate honest, patient answers rather than being told not to ask.

First thing I keep getting stuck on is heaven. Why does the Quran spend so much time describing gardens, wine, and pleasure, but barely talks about being close to God? If God is supposed to be the real goal, shouldn't heaven be described mostly in terms of Him rather than everything else? And on a related note, do men really get hur (virgins) in heaven, and is there anything similar promised to women, or is it really mostly described for men? The Quran also says husbands and wives are like garments for each other, which sounds equal, so I don't get why heaven seems to focus on what pleases men without really saying much for women.

The other thing that's been sitting heavy on me is something I've come across online about a husband being allowed to discipline his wife, even involving something physical, as a last step if she's seen as being disobedient. I really hope I'm misunderstanding this, but from what I've read it's described as something that should be light and shouldn't leave marks, but it's still hard for me to wrap my head around how that could be justified at all. I've also seen it mentioned that refusing intimacy could be considered a form of disobedience that leads to this, which is something I'm struggling with, because it feels like it goes against the idea of consent. And I'm also wondering why a husband seems to have steps available to correct his wife if she's seen as being in the wrong, but there doesn't seem to be anything similar for a wife if the husband is the one being unfair or unkind. I'd love to understand if this is really accurate or if I'm missing context, and since I'm Shia, I'd really appreciate hearing specifically what our own scholars say about this, and whether our understanding differs from what I've read elsewhere.

Last question is about apostasy. Is it true that leaving Islam is supposed to be punished by death according to classical scholars, including Shia ones? Is that something still taught seriously today, or is it considered outdated?

There's one more thing that's been really bothering me and I want to ask about it carefully because it's a sensitive topic. From what I've read, it seems like classical Islamic scholarship doesn't really recognize something like marital rape as its own wrong, the way it's understood today, since a husband is seen as having a right to sex within marriage. I've also read that one school of thought specifically allowed a husband to have sex with his wife by force if she didn't have a valid reason to refuse, and that other schools didn't really address it either way, which from what I understand means there wasn't really a clear punishment or protection in that situation specifically because she's his wife. Is this actually true? And if a wife is harmed in some way during this, is that the only thing that was ever really addressed, rather than the act of forcing her in the first place? I really want to understand if I'm reading this correctly or if I'm misunderstanding something, because it's a really difficult thing to sit with if true.

I know some of these are heavy questions, but I'd rather face them honestly than just push them away and pretend they're not there. Thank you so much to anyone willing to take the time to actually engage with this with me.

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What exactly is heaven and how is it different from hedonism? From My understanding practicing Muslims go to heaven where all their "pleasures" are met.

Isn't this just hedonism but in the after life? Isn't the motivation to be a Muslim basically to bid your time to sleep around with as many women as possible (writing this as a man)?

I cant help but think of practicing Muslim men as basically just waiting to goon for eternity. Basically obey goods rules for 80 years (or whatever age a person dies) and then sleep arpund with as many women as they want.

The entire reward mechanism basically just sounds like a shallow reason to be good and practice ones religion.

Are there any reliable/good channels for learning about the biographies or lives of the Salaf in English?

I am someone who is extremely kind, and i get extremely upset or said when i see something bad happening to anyone. I don't wish anything bad to happen to anyone. My question is, when we do bad things, allah knew that we would do it, why didn't he change us or let us be perfect from the beginning in the first place?

Example: Children suffering in Gaza, i would never accept that to anyone, never ever. My question is, if allah knew that there are people that will be killing children, and those children will suffer, why wouldn't he make those killers good in the first place?

There are many examples but you guys get the point. I really need a convincing answer.