r/averagedickproblems

Can’t stop comparing myself to others

I go through stretches where I feel mostly alright and don’t think about my insecurities too much. But then I have periods like now where I can’t stop dwelling on things and comparing myself to other guys online or in porn. I know this just makes me feel a million times worse and drives my feelings of inadequacy. Idk why I hurt myself like this.

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u/SpareStrangerxx — 16 hours ago

Ass sizes and shapes

So I’ve come to kinda realize from hookups, the women I had I’d say more success in having sex with were women who had small-medium sized asses and depending on the shape even if they were bubbly and poking, I could still put in some kind of work. What I’ve noticed specifically though is the asses that have the longest crack and spread wide are very doable for average and smaller, whether the butt itself is fat or not. But LARGE asses and I’m talking a capital P, donkey ass not much I could do there lol. I kinda came to realization that fatasses don’t have to be large they can small and medium fatasses too that’s doable.

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u/New-Ad-6061 — 19 hours ago
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I'm so insecure

I can't help but to feel not enough because of my size. I can work on everything, I can work on my body, on my character, on my social skills but with size I can never improve it or be better.

I feel like I will never be the first choice for a woman or can fulfill her sexual desires to the fullest. How should I even compete with those other men out there? I feel like they will always be better because of their size they have more potential

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u/o_man3 — 3 days ago
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Her best regardless of size?

Can you be a woman's best sex or at least give her the best orgasm of her life even if she's had bigger in the past?

Assuming she isn't lying to you, I'd like to hear from the boyfriends in LTR or husbands who have mastered their wife's body.

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u/Civil_Boss6358 — 3 days ago

Is this a problem?

Is it a problem the fact that we don't have a subreddit for average dick discussion? I find it so lol

Like I want to talk about things which aren't problems itselves, just situations, opinions or curiosity.

Do you find that missing as well? And why or why not?

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u/Key_Visit_1948 — 3 days ago

Need a solution for my problem with my fwb.

Hello redditors, here's the problem I'm facing right now. I have a fwb & she's curvy, has a lot of mass around her booty (a classic BB*). Every time we tried having sex, I just couldn't get it in. I'm 5" uncut with 4.5" girth & my fatpad is like 0.5-0.7. She only enjoys doggy style & cowgirl & hates missionary. Where as I feel if we try missionary, it would be much easier for me to enter her & actually enjoy sex. All the times we have hooked up, we just did foreplay. I always made sure I got her off by going down on her, using toys, breastplay, fingering & that'swhy she coming back every time. But it seems like the sex just doesn't work. Also when I try to wear a condom when we start trying, I go soft. I'm using Durex 51mm condoms & that kinda kills the whole mood.

Do we have anyone here that has the same size as mine & has encountered a situation like this before? If you did, how did you resolve it? Also that makes me wonder if I'm average sized or small? I also wonder if we are physically compatible or not. I'm 170 lbs, decently fit & she's 210 lbs with most of her mass around her hips.

Please help!!

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u/Old_Yesterday4867 — 3 days ago

Penis size has increased over decades. Study link

This is the study conclusion

"Erect length increased significantly over time (QM=4.49, df=2, p=0.04) in several regions of the world and across all age groups, while no trends were identified in other penile size measurements. After adjusting for geographic region, subject age, and subject population; erect penile length increased 24% over the past 29 years.

Conclusions: The average erect penis length has increased over the past three decades across the world. Given the significant implications, attention to potential causes should be investigated.

Why do you think it happens?

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u/Seb1681996 — 3 days ago

Look at it from the logical side guys

Nature wouldn’t make it so that you would need a big penis to pleasure a woman more. Women have vaginas that work the same way, and men have penises that simply vary in sizes. The way you treat the girl, and the connection you both have is what makes sex GOOD. Size REALLY doesn’t matter if you think about it. If it did, nature wouldn’t make such varying penis sizes.

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u/WorriedConstant7654 — 4 days ago

Insecure

I wanna preface by saying I’m mid 20s about 6.3-5” L and approximately 4.5” G. My girlfriend is heavier set (I’m attracted to BBW’s even tho I don’t have a 10” or girthy shlong, never had any complaints (I’ve been with QUITE a few women) and every woman I’ve had sex with we had seconds or thirds, or consistent FWB). I don’t have any problems with any positions, but it triggered me when last night we’re foreplaying and I’m masturbating while fingering her and I got carried away and used 4 fingers in her vagina and she orgasmed like never before, like intense squirt and nearly a body shake. She says I make her cum and/or squirt from PIV + clit stimulation and she squirts from just clit stimulation. She doesn’t use toys or anything, but I think I would die if she came home with a dildo larger than me. She clearly seems to enjoy the sex and tells me over and over that she thinks I’m “big”, but like where’s the mf enthusiastic ahh reactions when I’m dipping in that mf😒.
I just have deep insecurity about this type of stuff and idk why. I’ve had women in the past use dildos during foreplay and they were way bigger than me, and the ladies would have intense orgasms from the dildo. Have also been told “your dick is perfect, the big ones hurt” (women still don’t get how that is the most backhanded compliment ever.
I love how they try to restrict pornography NOW, but where was the “caring for youth” when we were young, developing an unhealthy sense of penis inadequacy.

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u/Independent-Dish-173 — 3 days ago

optical illusion dick

First of all sorry for posting on here but I felt too big for the smalldicks and too small for the bigdicks and ended up here eventually😂

Ok I’m really not a small talk kinda guy so I just jump straight into it! 6ft, 190 lbs, slightly athletic, 5.3 in length but 5.9 in girth, visible and flaccid. Hard visible I’m about 6.2L x 6.6G

So as the title says and you guys can imagine:
that dick looks smaller than it is due to its girth and in addition to that, there is at least 1.5-2” covered/concealed due to a fat pad problem although I’m nowhere close to being obese and a penoscrotal webbing down below.. which makes the dick even girthier at the base (numbers above are midshaft) tapering down to 5.3”/5.6” girth right behind the glans. The glans itself is pretty big when erect and the combination of all doesn’t really help with the optics lengthwise!

With girls it’s mostly fun reactions (if that’s of any interest to you) mostly because it doesn’t look like it “feels” to them😁

Experienced ones mostly know what they’re up against and just shoot comments like “nice, healthy, fat, big blabla..”
The inexperienced younger ones though got the funniest reactions.. from afar it looks like a normal dick or smallish dick to them until I get closer and the eyes and facial expressions are mostly the same after they have it in their hands and can feel the “weight”.. turn on? Sure!
But the real turn on for me starts when I enter them and they lose it completely💦 as in most cases they are used to “long” but not “thick”.. but okay back to my problems!

  1. Any of you got the same kinds of issues and what did you do about it?

  2. You guys think it’s possible to even that dick out?

  3. Fat pad lipo seems simple but what about the webbing or about a potentially buried penis??

  4. I’m a real noob when it comes to reddit forums so any advice on where I should rather go instead of spamming you on here are of course appreciated😘

P.S. I got circumcised when I was 12 (phimosis) and I’m sure that mofo did sth wrong.. that’s why I’m speculating about buried penis☹️

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u/New-Health6272 — 3 days ago

Has anyone had experiences with 4.1-4.2 girth?

I am 5.3 L and 4.185-4.2 girth. I worry that I am not adequate for women and my size will cause me not to be felt inside their vagina. I get worried about this and would like to know if my size is adequite.

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u/Initial-Detective369 — 4 days ago

Does it really matter as much as we think it does (average range)

Do you guys think that it’s more of a bragging right then actually changing the sensation of sex entirely?

Do you think that pleasure is linear with size? Or arousal.

The fact that women can get off to toys or certain objects, shouldn’t that just be a sign thag sex is more about the build up?

I’m speaking mainly to people who are in the middle range of size, not either end of the extremes

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u/United-Price-4057 — 5 days ago

Size insecurity

I'm kind of lost, I know I'm on the smaller side but still enough to be felt for most women. I still can't get my last interaction out of my head, as the girl I was talking to said anything less than 15 cm (6 inches) is small. 6.3 x 4.3-4.3 (usually around 6 x 4.25) isn't a great size, but not a deal breaker. Unfortunately the insecurity came from the fact that she cared and was a bit superficial, and im worried about getting to know someone and not being enough in the future. Instead of wanting pity, I want tips and past experiences from people with 4.5 girth or below.

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u/Adventurous_Cat_6078 — 6 days ago

Insecurity

Small, average? I know this type of post probably floods this sub Reddit. Just started getting confidence with getting my teeth straight and healthy BMI. But my p size I’m so insecure about causing me to be hesitant to talk to women. I sit at 5.6inch-5.7inch length x 5.5 inch girth. I don’t know how to go about it I’m nervous about talking to my therapist about it it would be so awkward to talk about. Any replies appreciated.

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u/Swarms666 — 6 days ago

Is 6.5 x ~5.3 bp enough?

I know the stuff about it’s above average and stuff like that, but the notion of bigger dicks makes me insecure that she will want more dick.

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u/Dry_Ad_1307 — 7 days ago

Cuckold Fantasy = wrong?

I (M 35) am a bit confused about this topic .. I have been struggling with insecurities about my dick since forever. It’s 14 to 15 cm in length and 3.7 cm in width.

However, at the same time I am hugely turned on by cuckolding scenarios. My wife feels the same way.. we are fantasizing about it in bed for about 10 years.

We are not gonna pursue it in reality but sometimes I question myself if it is wrong to even fantasize about it. Is something entirely wrong with me that I like it so much? Do I further push my insecurities by thinking of her getting railed by someone bigger?

I am not into humiliation.. but the thought of letting her enjoy something I can’t give her .. and seeing her lust from another perspective .. is hot.

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u/Couple-Love-x — 10 days ago

Does make me a shallow person if I’m discouraged when it comes to seeking love w a girl over my size ?

It’s the back of my head all the time. The worry and anxiety of not being accepted because of my shit luck with genetics not be being blessed with a bbc. But sometimes I fear getting to know someone over this. I fear I may get cheated on, cucked, or simply rejected for something I can’t control. I know a relationship isn’t just sex, but im not naive either to what most people
like and prefer. (Typo in title lol)

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u/New-Ad-6061 — 9 days ago

4.75 vs 5 inch girth

People say a little goes a long way for girth but how much? Is 5 inch girth gonna feel drastically different to 4.75? I’m 4.75 at my thickest and is slap bang average. 5 inch girth is borderline thick because I think you can fit into large condoms?

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u/Fit_Working4344 — 9 days ago

Is it normal to feel insecure?

I am 51🔄 and I know I’m slightly above average (6” in length and 5.5” in girth), but I’m also 6’0” and 175 lbs, so it looks small compared to my body. It doesn’t help that I’ve watched a lot of porn, which has probably made the insecurity worse.

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u/Autisticdirtbiker — 8 days ago