I have a question that makes me doubt my own anatomy. I often see people on social media or among my friends say they have a penis between 16 and 21cm, most often the size is 18cm without pressing against the pubic bone, so NBP (Normal Penis Size). But I find that strange, so I wonder if it's false and they're lying, or if it's true and the average of 12-15cm BP is invented to reassure men with complexes?
For context I am 7"BP (18cm), and 4.8MSEG. Around 5.5"NBP. I know the NBP is average, while the BP is by the common data classified as big. But my girl, doesnt think Im big. She cautiosly sees me as above average. Her previous fwb was like 7.5-8 NBP (estimated from her hand measurements) and bigger girth as well. So I realize thats the reason for it. It makes me upset sometimes. It's the discrepency of my measurements I have in my head "18cm" which I know isnt small, compared to how she sees it. Again, it makes sense since my NBP is significantly smaller. But. Still.
So I am just average 5.5”, sometimes I get to 6” depending on the strength of my erection, so by no means am I small. But I love love love a woman making fun of me for being small IN THE MOMENT. Then after I go back to being very insecure, hoping that I’m enough, fear of being a disappointment, etc.
a feeling I’m sure many people here have experienced.
Is anyone else like this? What do you do to combat these feelings? I know you can’t make a kink go away but is there any advice yall can give for navigating these polar extremes? Even if I don’t watch porn and use my imagination, I always find myself going back to imagining an SPH situation.
I don’t need it to get off, and infact only 1 of my sexual partners even knew I had this kink, but I can’t shake it. It’s very frustration and fills me with as much guilt as it does taboo pleasure.
For context,
I am 5.2" x 5.5" NBPEL and 5.5" x 5.5" BPEL And idk in coitus does Bpel work or the NBPEL. But I am thicker near the base of the penis, and finding condom my size is a hassle here in IND, as the average apparently is on the lower end of the spectrum in terms of girth. When i research sizes, they tell me that 56+- 2 works fine but its so tight on the base for me, it get constricted, and I am unable to find 60mm offline and online its really expensive.
So I just want suggestions on what condoms to go for (hopefully a cheaper one) and on a second note:
I have given my dimensions above and I know that the length falls in avg and in some studies it apprently comes above avg. But since im 5'11" with, i think a reasonable amount of fat pad, it looks smaller to me and I am afraid if that wont be adequate for my partner in bed. So I would really like some advice from similarly sized persons or anyone whose partner had the same dimensions to give me a real world sizing check and the fix for the condom issue.
Thank you.
i’m sitting at 4.3-4.5 inches in girth 6.3-6.5 inches BP length and i’m insanely stressed about losing my virginity and not feeling adequate enough. anyone with similar or the same measurements please share your experiences . i’m worried ill be the most thin out of my partners past
Hello Redditors
I had something of a minor epiphany today. We've all heard (and many are sick of hearing it asked): "Size doesn't matter", often stated by women, and it seems almost always stated honestly. As an average bloke, and one who was dumped by an avowed size queen decades ago, I've always just shrugged my shoulders and not bothered engaging; there's nothing to be gained by trying to argue the point.
So today's revelation! Please CMV if I have completely messed this up. I kind of hope I'm completely wrong about this. In fact have I previously completely missed this assertion, which almost everyone else already realises?
So here's the insight I've been missing all this time:
When almost all women say "Size doesn't matter", they aren't saying there is no difference in sexual enjoyment between playing with an average sized cock vs a cock that is (eg) a standard deviation larger in length and girth. They're saying that they don't care if Harry Horsecock, the bloke they used to fuck is way better than Johnny Average. The fact that Johnny is crap compared to Harry "doesn't matter".
The quality of the relationship matters (and so it should), but Johnny's shortcomings compared to Harry's immense magnificence has no bearing on how much value she puts on the relationship in toto. Until the kids leave home for university, and Johnny is told she wants an open marriage so she can fuck her tennis coach, or something like that.
Sorry for the cynicism. And sorry if this has torn the band-aid off some raw wounds.
Just curious as I am 1.6” in diameter but only 4.5” overall girth.
I wouldn’t say I’m very overweight, but I’m a lil chubby. Im starting to lose a little weight (4-5 pounds), I’m like 6’ to 6’1”, and 180-185 pounds right now. The thing is I’m like a little under 5.5” nbp but I’m like over 6.5” bp. I’m not very muscular, so I’m not sure what a lean body mass would be for my height, but I’d estimate I’m in the mid to low 20%’s body fat percentage right now.
Do you guys think I can gain all or most of that inch as I continue to lose fat? Do I have a slightly larger than average pubic fat pad or is this pretty normal?
I am somewhat insecure about my dick size, despite being within the average range (6" BPEL, 5" NBPEL, 4.6" girth)
I think reddit is a lot of what caused this insecurity, along with porn
Anyone who got over or is in the process of getting over this insecurity have any tips?
So guys, do average d*cks reach cervix? Tell us your experiences, and with the sizes pls.
I usually find it more fun when i'm the bigger guy because I feel like there's more attention on me? What are you guys' experiences being the bigger/smaller guy in a threesome?
Seems to really depend on erection quality and stuff like that. It can vary by a 1/4” depending on that and how firmly I press.
Hey guys, so my length is technically 6.3ish. Unfortunately, it seems I rarely hit that length. My erections are hard, but are often closer to 5.8. It’s really screwing with me, I’m wondering if anyone else experiences this?
I just measured today and my penis from the top measured at 6.2 inches and from the side 7 inches I measure my girth and it was also at 6.2 inches in thickness I tend to over think during sex and lose my erection thinking that the female thinks my dick is little because I can’t do crazy positions.
For some context, I run between 5.5-6.1 inches, BP (it deadass just depends on how aroused I am), and I've kinda accepted that..y'know I'm average, not swinging, but not tiny either. And I have a decent body count as well, like..8, and despite every single time, zero complaints and all, I still feel inadequate. I'm a shorter guy, about 5'5, and I'm also black, so..there's that racist ass stereotype that I still get insecure about. I just don't know how to stop feeling like this. Now it's not an all the time thing, it's more-so that it pops up every once in a while. Women constantly parading this "catching print" mess, constantly shaming smaller guys, and like I'm well aware women are not all like this because I literally had them. But it still gets to me, and I just don't know why or what to do to get over it.
Hey I'm 22M. I just wanted to know does often sex results in loose foreskin like foreskin always in retractable even in flaccid even though I'm not circumcised...also what other changes I might expect in my penis with constant or active sex life.
Hey guys, what are your experiences with loosing fat and gaining bone pressed size? Like when you bone pressed while having a fat pad, would it be possible that you’re not actually reaching the bone, and once you loose the fat pad the you can reach the real BP? Does that give you an extra 0.25” or 0.5” even? Any experiences? Thanks guys
I measure 5.5 inches bp, but my nbp is 4.5 and it makes me feel awful really. I feel like bonepressed is just a way for guys to feel good anyway.
Yes, whatever, scientists use bonepressed, I know. But I don't care. They probably think the same anyway. Literally every guy cares about his dick being average and above even if he's a brilliant scientist or whatever.
And no, the fat doesn't "smoosh" around during sex. It's fat, it's hard. It's not just some soft cotton that gets squished easily. What trluy matters in the end is your nbp measurement and mine is so bad.
I (23) play basketball, and after a practice or a match some of my teammates/ members of the other team hop in the showers bearing it all.
And every time I look at the penises around me, I get intimidated how big they look. Sure there’s some variation, but for whatever reason they all seem to be bigger than mine and it makes me insecure to join in the showers as well.
My personal flaccid size is length/girth: 3.9x3,5 (inches) or 10x9 (centimeters)
which according to the internet is exactly the average. However I feel like I never see this “average” in the showers.
Does anyone share this experience? Am I making this up in my head.