I want to begin this essay with a quote of Satin, one of Gorky's play "The Lower Depths" characters:

"What is man? It's not you, nor I, nor they—No, it's you, I, they, the old man, Napoleon, Mohammed—all in one. You understand? It's tremendous! In this are all the beginnings and all the ends. Everything in man, everything for man. Only man exists, the rest is the work of his hands and his brain. Man! It's magnificent; it has a proud ring to it! A man has to be respected! Not pitied . . . don't degrade him with pity. . . . You've got to respect him!"

By the way, if you ever decide to read this play, fair warning: it's devastating, bitter and tremendously dark, however I do love this quote and I think it reflects my thoughts on the show.

But can I call it really a show? Technically, yes. But it gave me so much for thought that I'd rather call it "an experience." This is at least how I feel about the title I finished watching an hour ago.

Let's begin with the plot, which is painfully simple: two guys broke up and now are looking at the ruins of their relationship. How to live further? Can they mend what's broken? 6 episodes will be meticulously digging into these questions, letting viewers come to their own conclusions.

It's one of those titles that does not preach or take anybody's sides: rather it explores, as if being an impersonal 3rd something, what it's like to be in a relationship that didn't, doesn't and won't work. The title speaks for itself: "...who I will break up with," so viewers know the outcome, nevertheless, I would never have thought about the real reasons for the main characters to fall apart.

And that's the core of the show and why I started this review with that quote: there is no drama, no tears, no heartwrenching monologues. This is just life as it is: we fall in love, break up, struggle being parents, lose ourselves, fight for happiness when nobody sees us. I loved the idea of being a complete stranger to a person, who's supposed to know you better than anybody else. Drowning in your own life while neglecting the one close to you is what happened to Yuma and Itsuki. The script doesn't take either of the sides and doesn't ask the question "who to blame?" The characters come to a logical conclusion themselves and the end of the show is neither sweet, nor bitter, because life goes on.

These were not the only themes covered. Six 20 min long episodes manage to talk about:

Misogyny at work

Being accepted by parents

Child abuse

Becoming a new mom

Postpartum depression

Loneliness and depression

And with all that, the series remains lighthearted and wholesome, making it easy to watch, but my head was boiling with thoughts and meanings on the go.

I was thinking if I myself was ever biased towards gay people? For example, that many fashion designers are gay. Why would I ever think so? Yuma's character faces the same discrimination: he hated the idea of winning the pitch just because people thought he could represent the female point of view better. Or the obsession of the BL community — who's top and who's bottom? I find it ridiculous to speculate about it, which is reflected in Itsuki's emotional speech: leave me alone and stop being obsessed with other people's sex life! The series claims that gay people are the same people as everybody else — that's why they need the same rights, not because they're different, is what makes this title so true to life. I really hope Japan will win this fight.

The series explores THE HUMAN as is — there are neither good nor bad people, there are just people who fail, succeed, and simply try to figure out what to do with their lives. Through the eyes of the new mom we see how life seems to eliminate you while everybody else keeps going; through the eyes of Itsuki we see a vulnerable, tender person who is so lost that he prefers to remain in his solitude; and through the eyes of the director we live through uncertainties and find strength inside ourselves.

With everything it manages to touch upon, this is a very tender yet topical film, answering so many questions about life and love, which rounds up my top 3 BL (I don't know though if I want to call these tilted BL anymore) series I've watched in 2026, which are:

1. Soul mate

2. Life in smokey blue

3. The Boy and I Who Will Break Up in 100 Days

It's one of those series we can get once a decade.

Once again, Japan never ceases to impress me with its artistic possibilities.

Thanks for reading this far and take care!

I have not found anyone who reads yaoi or watchs BL... am I really the only one.... 😩

I m in the search of someone who loves all this .... I really want a Yaoi bestie...

Anyone who reads or watch all this can we be frnds... Where r my yaoi besties.... 😗

My fav one is ' The Nerd Project ' , ' Painter of the Night '

and obviously ' Blossoms of the White Night '

My fav author is the one and only BWAT.

If there is someone who loves all this pls be my frnd ... I don't wanna be the only one enjoying this all ... I look forward to meet my BESTIES 🤭

Lots of love 💗

Have been out of BL world for around two years or so, after watching it obsessively for 3 years, now ready to jump back into it and start watching obsessively again. Can someone help provide me a directory of the BL’s ever released in TV series and movie format. Tracking also would be helpful, but I can create that myself if required.

Brooo, I almost cried in every single episode. 😭

I know this series is definitely controversial, and Lu Feng as a character is absolutely not someone whose actions can be justified. But I have to admit, I really enjoy this kind of dark and obsessive trope in fiction.

I was fascinated by how completely obsessed and possessive Lu Feng was of his beloved Xiao Chen. It was dark, intense, and full of emotional conflict. Of course, I'm fully aware that everything he did to Xiao Chen was wrong and unacceptable.

And the BGM... absolutely top notch. It captured the yearning, longing, obsession and love so beautifully that it made every emotional scene hit even harder.

I do have a few questions about the novel though. Could someone please elaborate on Lu Feng's character in the novel? I know he was obsessively in love with Xiao Chen and that he 🍇 him multiple times while keeping him captive. But did Lu Feng also physically beat him? Like slapping him or something?

Also, in the series, they were separated for four years at first and then for another five years later, making it a total of nine years of longing for each other. Is it the same in the novel? Or were they separated for even longer....more than ten years?

And lastly, could you all help me to find the novel link.

Thankyou ❤️

I just started watching KBL *Ball Boy Tactics*, and early on there’s a kissing scene between Jung-woo (top) and a female character. I immediately thought, “Wow… this guy is REALLY good at kissing.”

Then later, when he kisses Ji-won (bottom), I had the exact same reaction. His kissing looks so natural and convincing.

Honestly, I can’t recommend this drama enough. Not just because of the best kissing scenes, but because both actors are incredible. Their chemistry and acting are seriously impressive.

At first, I was hesitant to watch this series because the title made me cringe. I honestly thought it was going to be about a man getting pregnant. 😭

But the story is set up in such a different way that you quickly stop thinking about that and just enjoy it. I really loved the chemistry between the leads. Especially the actor who played Enigma he's so charming on screen and has such a strong screen presence.

I genuinely think he deserves more roles in mainstream, big-budget romance dramas too. He has the looks and charisma to pull them off.

Overall, this series isn't that good, but it's not that bad either. It's just okay. The episodes are easy to get through, and I didn't even realize when I had finished the whole series,felt so short lol