r/cebur4r_dating

Eyoo. I just re-installed reddit again because I can't sleep as always, our BE got moved (so I'm kinda you know, sooo lost) and I know I HAVE to study but I just can't find it in me? 😭

Anywaaaay. I'm sleepy but I can't sleep soooo, wanna chika?? Pls yap me to oblivionnnn

I've been bored these days kay akong mga friends nagkabusy sad sa work and sa ilang relationships. And with that, I'm putting myself out there na.

I'm a lubog-litaw type of person and very independent. Mawala, nya mu kalit rag appear, pero dili sad ko ghoster noh. I'm someone na di need 24/7 kaistorya. Very spontaneous. I like to go out a lot. I'm down for any hangouts jud (sfw). Bisan pag kuyogan pa tika mag grocery g ra jud ko.

I value deep connections, kanang dili puro "wyd?" ug "nikaon naka?" HAHAHAHA kana untang naay substance kaistorya nya makasabay sa akong humor.

Looking for someone who's older than me, emotionally intelligent, someone not allergic to cats nya bonus points if u have a cat or dog lol. Naka glasses (yes type nako ang naka glasses ngano diay?). Nerdy type.

Not rushing into anything serious. Let's see if we vibe first. Basin ikaw na diay ang plot twist this yr chzz HAHAHAHA

Not dating-related ni. Does anyone here have B+ blood type, or know someone who is B+? Badly needed lang jud. My cousin is currently admitted at Chong Hua Hospital and is in need of a platelet donor due to dengue.

If you know someone who is willing and eligible to donate, kindly message me. Please DM me if you can help. Thank you so much! 🙏🏻❤️

so ex gf wanted to get back together when i left the relationship, now she wants me back on her life and offers to me to get even. should i accept the offer?

Got severe backpain, thought it was because of my boobies apparently it's from carrying the weight of the entire conversation.

Idk all I want is to get back on track, I'm a freshman and Burnout na kaaayu ko, please help idk what to do

Di nani out of impulse jud. seryoso na! If I’m going to be frank: as much as I’d like to be in a relationship someday?, what I’m really looking for right now is a companion.

Not someone to play games with. Not someone who disappears when things get inconvenient. And definitely not someone who expects me to pretend I’m okay with things I’m not.

Think of this as a negotiation. You bring your terms, I’ll bring mine, and if we can agree on the important parts, maybe we can build something worth keeping.

My Terms

• 25, morena, 5'3"
• Corporate girly by day; law student by… questionable scheduling decisions. Still trying to figure out which one is actually my side quest. (so, you'll either be my tutor or the death of me)
• Midsize and slowly working on myself.
• Currently taga isla ko (as to which one? tagnaa sa)
• Single mom. And before you start calculating the extra gastos, don't. My child is my responsibility.
• Naturally domestic. If you let me, I’m very much a homemaker type. (depends on your capacity to actually lead)
• I genuinely enjoy helping around the house, with a business, or wherever my partner needs an extra hand.
• I yap. A lot.
• But I can also be ridiculously uptight, especially when I care about something.
• I value consistency, effort, and straightforward communication.
• I’m not looking for someone to “fix” me. I’m looking for someone who can meet me halfway.

Your Terms

I’m not asking for perfection. I’m asking for a decent human being.

• Honest.
• Respectful.
• Smart (book and street)
• Knows what he wants.
• Polite and emotionally mature.
• Doesn't yell when things don't go his way.
• Knows how to communicate instead of playing mind games.
• Can lead without thinking leadership means control.
• Can make decisions, keep his word, and stand on what he says.
• Bonus points if you're from the Visayas or Cebu. If you're not, that can still be arranged. 😉

The Deal

Here's where I'm different:

I don't want to play along just to keep someone interested.

If you want something casual, say it.

If you want something serious eventually, say it.

If you're still figuring things out, say that too.

I can work with honesty. What I don't have the patience for anymore is pretending, mixed signals, unnecessary mind games, and people who expect you to read between the lines.

I want someone who can sit across from me, lay his cards on the table, and say:

“This is what I can offer. This is what I need. What can you offer me?”

And I'll do the same.

Maybe we negotiate. Maybe we disagree. Maybe we find terms that work for both of us.

And if the terms are good enough?

Maybe we sign the deal.

So, if you're going to message me, don't just say “hey.”

Tell me your opening offer.

What are you looking for? What can you give? What do you expect? And what are your non-negotiables?

Let's see if we're actually compatible before we waste each other's time.

hello! i’m a college girl not really looking for anything specific. just someone to talk to regularly, vibe with, and maybe steal a few casual hangouts with. preferably someone from cebu and around my age.

about me:
21
normal bmi lol
stressed nursing student who could use a little distraction

about you:
20–24
normal bmi or whatever
plus points if mestizo (joking… unless?)

the “about you” part isn’t really a requirement. just be nice and fun to talk to. if you’re a ghoster, don’t think of messaging me. hit me up if you’re interested!

Looking for someone na maka talk hehehe im bored

Looking for someone to chat with. Just wanna talk, get to know each other, and maybe call if we vibe. Nothing forced :)

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Honestly, is it really that hard to find genuine love these days? 😭😂 The ghosting is getting out of hand. You talk, you vibe, everything seems fine—and then suddenly… poof. Gone without a trace.

At this point, dating feels like applying for a job. You put in the effort, show genuine interest, pass the interview, and then get ghosted with no explanation. 😂

Sometimes I wonder if genuine love still exists, or if everyone is just emotionally unavailable and pretending they’re “not ready for a relationship.”

But hey, maybe we’re not hard to love. Maybe we’ve just been meeting the wrong people.

Still hoping that one day, someone will actually stay instead of disappearing like they were never there. 😅❤️

I've only been in Cebu for like 3yrs, moved here for work but now WFH na and still stuck in Cebu bc I have a bf here.

3yrs now and I still dont have people that I could really call "friends", esp women. I mean I know people, I have hometown friends who live here too, but people my age have kids and families already. We dont get to hangout or do the same things anymore.

Bf has a lot of friends, but those are guy friends, tho I'm comfortable with them, I just want girlfriends who I can relate to.

This might sound sad but I swear I've been fine with it for a long time. But since wfh, I need a change of pace for my sanity. I wanna be able to go cafe-hopping, visit pop-up markets or have brunch, without dragging my bf's ass everywhere.

I'm also an introvert so I cant just go up to people and talk to them lol. And again, wfh, so I dont get to meet people casually.

Im mestiza, kinda good looking, curly hair, 5'3, a creative, cozy gamer, politically opinionated, Marvel fan, loves good food and matcha, and the beach!

Basically, I'm just here to look for friends that are sponti, fun, a little wild, and who could bring a much needed CHAOS in my life.

I work at nights, so im off limits by then. Tell me your fun stories and I'll live vicariously through you. Only women PLS. lol

Dipping into the dating pool months after a break up and I want to start getting to know new people! Just hanging out and seeing if we click. If we do, great! If not, atleast we got some steps in🤣 and maybe a new friend?

We could walk around Cebu business park or IT park and go for a meal or a snack after. No pressure.

About me:

- 5’2, 75kg, light tan and black curly hair
- I like to sing whenever im happy, sad, or frustrated
- I’m trying to be regularly physically active starting with 10k steps everyday!
- I’m in grad school
- I enjoy and value being out with people and cozy at at home almost equally
- Enjoy very simple joys in life and find way too many things funny 😭

You:
- Trying to live or living a healthy lifestyle
- Enjoys time with friends and family
- can handle open and honest communication
- can take a joke/ not take yourself too seriously
- single 🤣
- can appreciate being different but still puts effort in trying to connect
- Sends me a message introducing yourself and sharing one memory that always makes you smile :)

I didn’t want to put too much on here since I want to chat and get to know each other more!

Also the account is new because I wanted to start fresh! Feel free to ask me any questions to pacify any concerns :)

Honestly, I just want someone I can be constant with. Someone to hang out with, grab food, go on random laag, or just do spontaneous stuff with.

Bonus points if you can help me touch grass because I’m way too addicted to playing video games. 😂 I need someone to occasionally drag me away from my screen.

Looking for someone easygoing, consistent, and hopefully ka-vibes ko. Let’s see where it goes. :)

If I’m being honest, I’m just shooting my shot with this post :))

I’m looking for someone I genuinely click with no pressure, no expectations, just seeing where things go.

I’m a stripper, and honestly, it can be hard to meet someone who’s willing to take me seriously beyond what I do for work. Outside of dancing, I love films, my favorite being The Worst Person in the World, and my favorite anime will forever be Fruits Basket.

I want someone who’ll dance to techno with me, make me laugh, and tolerate my caffeine addiction :))

I’m 4'11, thic thighs brown eyes and quite a bit of fun. I’ll make you dumplings from scratch if you make me laugh.

🤓☝️

naa bay taga opon dri? gawas sa lungga bahahah

Working on a couple things over coffee. Anyone down to join? Coffee’s on me.

About me:
Moreno
5’10
A couple tattoos
Lean, trains combat sports
Loves psychology and philosophy
Reading novels
Anime/Manhwa
Pretty chill and a great conversationalist

About you:
Just be chill to vibe with

Hi everyone! I know this is a bit of an unusual request, so I’ll try to explain it properly. 😅

I’m a single mom traveling to Cebu with my toddler from September 24–27 to celebrate his birthday. I’m actually Cebuana, born and raised in Cebu, so I’m not unfamiliar with the place at all. 😅 I’m currently living outside Cebu and will just be visiting for this trip, so I’m very familiar with Cebu, the areas we’ll be going to, and how to get around. Sweto jud ko sa Cebu. 😂

The reason I’m looking for a male helper/yayo is pretty straightforward. We have a very small family, and unfortunately, I don’t have anyone available who can come with us. My baby is already quite big/heavy for his age, and while I can absolutely take care of him myself, having an extra pair of hands during a full day of traveling and activities would make things significantly easier for me.

I’ll be covering food, transportation, accommodation, and the necessary expenses. You don't necessarily have to stay with us at the hotel either. The main thing I need is someone who can accompany us during our planned activities and help whenever I have my hands full.

And just to make this VERY clear: this is strictly SFW. This has absolutely nothing to do with dating, romance, or anything sexual. I'm looking for a temporary travel/childcare helper, nothing more and can pay you on a daily basis rate.

Ideally, I'd prefer someone who is:

• Male and comfortable around toddlers
• Patient, responsible, and reliable
• Physically capable of helping with a toddler when necessary
• Comfortable walking and traveling for several hours
• Good with children (specifically to 1 baby boy only)
• Respectful of boundaries
• Punctual and dependable
• Able to communicate well and follow an itinerary

I’m not looking for someone to replace me as a parent. I will still be fully responsible for my child. I mainly need an extra pair of hands with things like carrying/handling my toddler when necessary, helping with bags, keeping an eye on him for a moment while I handle something, and generally making the trip easier.

And before anyone worries about the obvious: I am very aware that meeting someone from Reddit and having them around my child requires serious consideration. My child's safety and my own safety are my absolute top priorities.

I won't be casually giving out sensitive information or immediately agreeing to meet anyone. I would want to properly talk first, verify who I'm dealing with, establish boundaries and expectations, and ideally have a video call before making any arrangements. I'd also make sure that everything is clear on both sides before the trip.

I know Cebu very well, I know the places we're going to, and I'm not looking for someone to plan or organize the trip for me. I already have everything planned. I simply need another responsible adult who can help me physically and practically while we're out with my toddler.

I'm posting here first because I thought it would be better to find someone through a community rather than randomly looking elsewhere.

Also, if anyone knows of other Cebu communities where a post like this would be more appropriate, I’d genuinely appreciate recommendations. I'm particularly interested in communities where people are looking for legitimate childcare, temporary work, travel assistance, or local helpers, not dating/N/SFW communities.

If you're interested, please introduce yourself with your age, location, experience with children (if any), and a little about yourself. We can discuss the details privately after that.

Again, strictly SFW, temporary, and professional. Just a Cebuana mom trying to make her baby's birthday trip a little less physically overwhelming. ❤️

Been a long week of traveling for work, endless meetings and projects. I’m looking for someone to have good food and drinks with just to let off some steam.

About me:
- Moreno
- 5’10
- Fit
- A couple tattoos
- vapes (dont message if youre gonna try to get me to stop)
- loves reading especially about philosophy or psychology (current reread is white nights)

About you:
- Female (nothing against lgbt, just a preference)
- loves to talk about the intricacies of the world
- curious
- has a nice smile
- not a DDS

If you fit the vibe, hit me up and lets exchange socials(para kita ang katag, please dont be married or taken)