r/cosmeticsurgery

I'm about 6 months out from what I believe was a botched liposuction procedure, and I honestly don't recognize myself anymore.

Before surgery I was active, social, loved working out, and actually enjoyed life. Since the surgery I've been left with loose skin, fibrosis, contour irregularities, and an overall shape that makes me feel like I've lost my body. Every day I look in the mirror and mourn the person I used to be.

The physical changes have been hard, but what's been even worse is what it's done to my mental health.

I've isolated myself from people I love. I've lost interest in things I used to enjoy. I struggle to get out of bed some days. I avoid dating and intimacy because I'm ashamed of how I look. It feels like my entire identity was taken from me in a few hours on an operating table.

I'm not posting this for sympathy. I'm posting because I desperately want to know if anyone else has been where I am.

Got 1ml jaw filler a few weeks ago, swelling has subsided and honestly the changes are pretty subtle, but I still don’t love it. Considering washing my hands of this all and just dissolving in hopes of reverting to my pre-filler appearance, but dissuaded (and mildly terrified, lol) by all the horror stories of hylauronise I’ve seen on Reddit. Has anyone had a GOOD experience to share? I think I’m probably less at risk of adverse effects just because the filler is so recent + I haven’t had anything else, but still on the fence. Thanks :) honestly had I known what I know now about filler/dissolving it I’d have genuinely never gone through with it, thought it was going to be something conservative and easily reversible but so far I’m afraid that it’s been nothing but a source of anxiety, lol.

Oke so I want to get like a tiny bit of natural looking lipfiller (0.5). Should I tell my boyfriend beforehand or not? I feel like if I tell him he might tell me he doesn’t want me to, and then I would feel like I cant. Where as, if I don’t tell him, he might not even notice. But if he does and I didn’t tell him, it might be a bigger problem.

I wanted to share my HIFU experience because it has been very upsetting, and I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar.
Right after my HIFU treatment, my face became very swollen. During those first few months, there was no dermatologist at the clinic who examined me in person. We only communicated by phone, and there was never a video consultation where they could actually see my condition. Eventually, the clinic advised me to see another dermatologist instead.after 3 months its still swollen

I followed their advice and saw a different dermatologist, who told me my face was swollen and prescribed steroids. As the swelling gradually went down over the next three months, I noticed a hollow in my cheek that I had never had before. I returned to the clinic because I was concerned, but they insisted it was an old scar or that I might have an underlying health problem. They denied that it could have been caused by the HIFU treatment.
What frustrated me the most was that they kept saying my face wasn’t swollen and that the dermatologist never said it was swollen. I don’t understand how they could know that when they never examined me during the worst stage. By the time they saw me again, I was already healing and finishing my medication. I also have before-and-after photos showing that my face became uneven due to the swelling.
They also kept insisting that the hollow was an old scar, but I know my own face. I never had a scar on my cheek before this treatment. From my own research, I found that facial fat loss or hollowness can happen after HIFU if the treatment is performed incorrectly or at the wrong depth. I’m not saying that’s definitely what happened in my case, but I felt like my concerns were dismissed instead of being properly investigated.
Instead, the clinic wanted me to undergo a long list of tests, including a general medical checkup, skin tests, dental and oral examinations, and a scan. When I declined, they questioned me. I told them that I know what my face looked like before the procedure. I trusted them with my face. Aren’t my own observations, along with my photos documenting the changes, worth considering?
I never went back to that clinic. I originally went there to treat myself after my mom passed away. I thought it was finally time to do something nice for myself. Instead, I came away feeling anxious and afraid to visit any aesthetic clinic again. Now I feel like if I ever have another cosmetic procedure, I’ll need to thoroughly document my face beforehand just to protect myself in case something goes wrong.
Has anyone else experienced prolonged swelling, facial hollowness, or felt that their concerns were dismissed after HIFU?

Mid-40s, starting to see jowling and a softer jawline but I'm nowhere near the "full facelift" results I see on older patients. Every consult pushes whatever that surgeon happens to specialize in, so I can't get a neutral read. How do you actually tell which procedure matches your stage of aging, rather than which one the surgeon prefers to sell? Trying to avoid both under-treating and over-paying for something I don't need yet.

Slept 6 hrs last night. I had fat grafting on my chin and have a persistent bruise there which is normal. My face is swollen and my skin is tight but if you didn't know me I wouldn't look bad. Had a cheese sandwich yesterday. Today I am deleting old files from my PC and looking for an online course I can take.

Specifically the ala or alar. Literally became wider and rounder… my nose looked really snatched and slim cast off to about 2 weeks, then natural and slim from then to 4 weeks, but suddenly at 6 weeks my nose (again specifically the alar) became wide and round again.

I initially told the surgeon I wanted to do an alarplasty but he said he will access during surgery to see if I need it or not and after surgery he said no. When the cast came off I was super happy. But now it almost looks like it reverted back to my original round and wide alar… don’t know if it’s temporary from swelling or…

I'm hoping to get some advice from people who have already gone through this!!

I'm 5'4", 143 lbs after significant weight loss, and I've narrowed my search down to two surgeons for a Lipo 360 + tummy tuck + BBL. The problem is that each surgeon has something I really like, and neither one checks every box 🫠

One surgeon has a lot of post-weight-loss patients whose before bodies look very similar to mine (loose skin, similar fat distribution, etc.), and I love his tummy tuck/liposculpting results. The downside is he doesn't post many healed BBL results.

The other surgeon posts a lot more healed results, and his patients' after bodies are much closer to the aesthetic I'm going for (natural, balanced proportions), but I don't see as many patients who started with a body like mine.

For those of you who have been through this, what ended up being the deciding factor? Did you choose the surgeon whose patients looked like you before surgery, or the one whose after results matched your goal? Or was there something else entirely that made the decision for you?

I'd love to hear what you wish you had considered before choosing your surgeon !

I understand that I’m still very early in my post op but I had a motiva preserve breast Aug on 6/23 with 150cc low profile ergo implants and a small fat transfer to create more cleavage in the middle for 22k. I loved my results after some of the swelling had gone down around day 6-7 but as they continue to settle I feel like my results are not even visible. I understand I went pretty small but I am 5”2 and 116 lb and the 3d imaging still showed a pretty good amount of volume and projection even with the 150 cc. As I get closer to my 4 week appointment im considering bringing up the idea of re-operation to my surgeon if I still am unhappy with my results. While my surgeon has had great bedside manner so far im still nervous about how this will be taken. How do surgeons typically respond to dissatisfied patients? And will re-operation likely come at paying full price again? Is it unreasonable to be unhappy if my results look completely different from the 3d image I was given?