r/dateideas

I'm trying to make it a surprise without being too obvious, and I want it to seem special.

I’ve honestly been single my whole life and I’ve never had a crush on anyone, so can someone describe what it feels like?

And you can also ask me how’s the feeling of being single for whole life.

Hi everyone,

So as the title says, I (29M) will be going on a day trip abroad with a girl (25F) I met last week.

I found her on Bumble, but I DM’d her on her Instagram, and we set up a date because she wanted to eat a dish from her hometown (a city in Japan).

We then had a few drinks in a pub afterwards, then got KBBQ and I got a bit drunk. I even embarrassingly asked to see her the next day after work, but she said she had an appointment.

When I sobered up, I apologized and said I’d like to see her again. She said she didn’t have any plans Saturday, but she said she might go golfing.

I suggested dinner, drinks, minigolf, a movie - anything.

Then next morning she hit me with “You want to go on a trip abroad with me for a day?”

I got kind of freaked out, but I said yes.

I’m just so worried that I’m going to mess this up somehow. I’ve been single for over 6 years, been on countless dates (rarely even a second) and now I’m going on a date abroad with a girl I met last week.

I made a list of places we can go, places to eat/sightsee, I’ve done my research, sent it to her and she said it was lovely of me to do research and then she said “I’m looking forward to traveling with you ❤️” and then I asked if there was anything she wanted to do, which she made a couple of suggestions herself.

So my question is: Am I completely insane for agreeing to this and if I’m not, how do I not fuck it up?

Thank you very much and I hope you’re all having a wonderful week.

Not the kind of guy who plans but this is something I want to do. A surprise anniversary party is the last thing my partner will be expecting so I think it will be kind of fun. I have sorted food (a caterer friend will cover it) and decor (hired a guy who will decorate home when she will be at office). The thing I am struggling with is invitations. How do I invite people she will like having over? To me, it seems kind of awkward asking people to come over to a 'surprise party'. Should I send Whatsapp messages? Or call and explain what's happening? Also need advice on a gift. She has nice bags, watches, perfumes, and the basics. What else can I get her without having to rob a bank? Drop some thoughts, guys.

I'm really into this girl, and she wants to hang and see if we click in person as much as we do over text! So we talked about having dinner, but I really would like to spend more time with her and do a few activities, but I'd like get a woman's perspective to see if I'd be doing too much and what I should opt for, or cut out or add! If you've had a really succesful date with another activity, let me know!

I'd like to start with either a nature walk, or mini golf

Follow that up by hitting up a cat cafe

Dinner at one of her recommended spots (I'm not a local, I'll be driving an hour and a half to go see her, so I trust her recommendations)

End the night at either a bowling alley or barcade.

For context, my last long term relationship was over 7 years ago (I've been building up my confidence since lol) and I've been on one date since, so any critiscism or recommendations are welcome, I'd love to impress this girl, show her a really good time, and even if it doesn't go well, just have fun!

Me and my lady are in a long-distance relationship, recently met through a friend.

She and I talked a lot and we learned a lot from each other, I was planning to go see her soon, to do a little see her and talk more but I'm caught between a restaurant and a walk.

She is a calm and mature woman and our intentions have been clear and the thing I want is for us to Take advantage of our presences.