r/demigirl_irl

(AFAB).

I'm not sure if I'm a Demi-Girl or just GNC (gender non-conforming)

i don't feel feminine and I don't feel like

I align with things that are ussally connected with being a woman. I prefer masculine/gender neutral gender expression. I'm ok with being called a woman but i also like being seen as neutral. |'m uncomfortable in feminine clothing and looking too feminine

Any Demi-Girls or woman that have had similar experiences? If you decide to share anything that might help, thank you!

Context, im afab, i have hormone imbalances which could qualify me as intersex, but i feel meh about pronouns. Everyone told me im a she, thats fine with me.

I also love dressing up femininely, and i HATE the gender neurtal uniform i wear for work. My natural breasts could be mistaken for manboobs when i wear a sports bra or swimwear. They're not "tiny", they're big enough to be annoying when im sleeping. but my belly is rounder, and my cleavage is so low, every bra i buy is so uncomfortable.Most of my bras are pushup bras, but they add foam below the boobs, its not enough and too low down the torso. I've had this issue as a size 10, 12, 14, 16 ,18... my chest measurements are always 1cm less than my belly measurements. Im a size 14 nowadays.

So, I've always wanted to be able to take my boobs off at the end of the day. Just hang them up by the door and flop chest first onto the lounge lol. I want to wear gorgeous dresses that fit. I want to wear a big tshirt that drapes over my chest, not over my stomach. Im ace, so I don't care what i look like naked, and i don't care if they "feel" real.

I sometimes strangely hope I'll be diagnosed with some benign breast cancer, so i dont have to explain my feelings to anyone. I would just say "i have breast cancer!", insist on a double masectomy, buy some prosthetics, and live the dream. Ive thought about lying, but i don't think i could bear it.

Can anyone relate? Better yet, has anyone here gone through with top surgery and then worn prosthetics for work etc? Is there anything i should consider first? If you have any questions, ask me anything!

so I’ve been questioning my gender a lot recently and I think I may be a Demi girl!

ive always been comfortable being feminine and being referred to as a girl ever since I was little, and I’ve also been pretty aware of the LGBTQ community since around 2020 just due to discovering it on tiktok. but in the past week or so, I’ve basically started having a crisis with my gender identity. I was terrified of being a trans male (also please let me know if I used the terf version? idk I know that exists and is also pretty dumb! anyways) for some reason? but I wasn’t sure if I was just in denial or what!

ive started getting uncomfortable seeing videos of trans men because I’ve thought “what If I’m that? I know transmale femboys exist- what if Im one of them?!” but the same time, I’ve never really associated with the experience. I’ve never really thought or wished to be a guy or to suddenly wake up as one. I rarely thought of myself being one, and not really in a trans way either, like just meeting a version of me from an opposite world.

but I also dont mind being nonbinary. I feel comfortable with they/them pronouns just as much as I do with she/her! I’ve never felt dysphoric about my body or gender honestly.

i do think I’m a Demi girl, but I’m still kinda terrified of being a transguy (which nothing against them! but the thought just sorta terrifies me... but I could also be in some type of weird anxiety denial? idk) just due to my anxiety and somewhat due to the fact most of my favorite characters has been guys. it’s probably just due to my dumb anxiety though lol.

anyways, does anyone have any advice or similar stories? especially from your teen/late teen years? (since that’s what I am lol)

I'm a demigirl(she/they) and my girlfriend is a trans woman.

I lean toward the feminine end of the presentation scale, but occasionally I feel more masculine, sometimes neutral. This particular day, I decided to present as a guy. I had some facial hair and wore a simple graphic tee with generic guy shorts.

We went shopping and had a great time walking around, holding hands, talking, and being obnoxiously in love. This is a pretty red area of the US so there were a lot of looks but nothing bothered us.

We used the men's room on our date, she pretty early into her transition and doesn't feel ready yet, I often do use the women's room but I feel uncomfortable doing it unless I am presenting as a girl.

We walked into a T-shirt shop and we started looking at graphic tees for a minute or two before this guy who was a sales associate came up to us.

He greeted us and yelled 'hey, we have lesbian themed graphic tees over here, buy one, get one half off!'

I thanked him and when he walked away, I turned to my girlfriend and she was red as a fire hydrant, giggling.

I got a really good laugh and she was over the moon about the fact she passed. I myself am not a lesbian, I'm bi, but she is. And I don't mind being read as one by strangers, lesbians are some cool gals.

Nobody probably remembers it but I made a post a while ago talking abt using she/they pronouns just because I think they’re cool. But I’ve been using them online on tiktok and I feel so much happiness when someone comments and refers to me as “they”.

This isn’t really an update just wanted to share because I’m just really happy and I feel so comfortable in this identity.

Haven’t told anyone I actually know irl tho bc I’m still terrified. I just came out as lesbian in april so I need a break before I do that lol😭