r/fasd

I’m a college student, who’s begun to learn a lot of about FASD. A lot of it reminds me of myself and the struggles I went through specifically as an adolescent. I still have struggles with different stuff (but I’m getting better), but things like achieving independence or other milestones have/are taking me a bit longer than others. I do know there was some drinking in the first month and the last trimester of my mother’s pregnancy. I’m unsure how much because she isn’t super reliable with telling the truth about still like this, but when I was younger she was a heavy drinker. I’d like to ask my dad because he would give me an honest answer, but I’m worried about what kind of catastrophe that could trigger. Testing is so expensive, and as a young woman I worry I wouldn’t be taken seriously.

Any advice or support?

Hello, I'm not sure how to start off with this, I've never talked about this with anyone really. Anyways I am 20 years old and was diagnosed with Fasd around 4 years ago while in a hospital for a month due to mental health problems(like severe anxiety and depression). During my stay i did certain congnitive and problem solving tests. It was some iq test of which i did poorly on. I don't have any of the physical features of fasd, apparently it is only mentally. I talk normal and things, so it isn't something you can easily spot. My mother was a severe alcoholic and passed away last year from her addiction. She had quite a bit of history with drinking while pregnant, especially with my other siblings

When i found out about having fasd i was in complete denial for years. I thought they came to the wrong conclusion with everything. Now i understand that it is a real problem in my life. Trying to live with it and understand it is very difficult, especially with my current situation. I live out in the countryside of Canada, and i still have no drivers license or a job. I've been trying to get used to driving over the past while. I just can't concentrate at all too well and i panic lots. It doesn't feel safe. My family keeps on telling me that i just need to get used to it. Without a license you can't do anything out here, public transportation doesn't exist here. I feel like i might just be making excuses to not achieving anything much yet. I'm always worried i won't get very far in this world with how i handle things. And i hope to find someone who can give advice or just understands it a little

My future feels bleak. I have no one in my family who can help me and I’m struggling to live alone. I have financial support but that is it. It feels like I struggle with everything, I have no clue how to live, maintain an apartment, get employment, or seek opportunities as a student. On top of everything being emotionally draining with FASD I have narcolepsy so just doomscrolling all day exhausts me. Are there any resources or guides for how to support yourself when you need someone else to support you, but they aren’t there? I am so alone, lost, and confused.

When ever I try dating I always immediately get attached in the first few days of meeting the person (only texting) even before I officially meet them in person

Don’t get me started on ghosting
Ooor if I see them on instagram and I’m left on sent WHILE THEY ARE ACTIVE/ACTIVELY POSTING ON THEIR STORIES

Um I hate it dating sucks for me I just want to skip the boring probably going to ghost you part of dating and be married already I’m 24 and I feel like I’m running out of time fast

My FASD adopted middle school teen has refused to get their blood drawn. The pediatrician has wanted blood drawn for several years. Today, I bribed with a new toy.

Still, my kid carried on like they were about to have a limb chopped off. In the process, my back got injured. I tried to walk away from their assaults (while waiting our turn in the lobby), and my child pulled me back violently twisting my back.

How do you provide support for a brain based disability, while keeping everyone around you safe?

The world isn't going to be as forgiving if my child had hurt one of the medical staff or another child in the lobby, which was very close to happening.

We prepared for this ahead of time. Got numbing medicine first. Talked about it for days. It was manageable until we got to the lobby. I think next time, we will just leave if they start being aggressive towards me again. I can't risk anyone getting injured.

Any ideas?!

Hi my name is Marley and I have FASD. Anytime I go to the dentist I end up having cavities no matter how well I brush no matter what I do I get cavities. Throughout my life I been through numerous dental surgeries 3 as a kid and 1 a year ago.

I seriously don’t want to go back to the dentist because I know it’s going to be the same outcome every single time and it doesn’t get any better. I tried thinking about maybe dentures and when I mentioned this to my dentist they refused to do anything about it. My teeth are incredibly spaced out and small even though I had braces for YEARS. They won’t do anything with my teeth and they expect me to live with tiny spaced out teeth.

When my wisdom teeth grew in they barely grew in it’s basically like a flat surface of tooth and even then they refused to take them out. I don’t know what to do in the future or at all.