r/feminineboys

the reddit mods have now turned r/teenfemboys3 into a NSFW subreddit, yes, the subreddit for TEENS is now '18+'

haiii everyone i’m new here and i’ve been scrolling here for a while and just wanted to say your all amazing and i already love this community! :3

My name is Anthony (16 M)

Today i finnaly had the courage to wear my feminine clothes to school and i got laughed at and even touched inappropriately by a couple students and i just need to talk to people who might get it because nobody takes me seriously at school.

They are so pretty, calm and beautiful

Any plans this upcoming weekend and how's the weather where you are?

i want to like dresses but i just cant figure out why i dont like them. ive NEVER liked them throughout my life but for some reason i can like skirts and things very similar to dresses. WHY DONT I LIKE DRESSES 😭😭 and if i ever try to picture myself at like a wedding or a fancy event i always picture myself in a tuxedo even though i love wearing skirts and feminine stuff. im a femboy but why am i leaning a little masculine too?? i always see femboys loving dresses but something about them.. i want to like them but i have this weird feeling towards them. help what is wrong with me 🥹

(sorry for the long paragraph just ranting about my hate for dresses but what do i do so i can like them??)

Don’t sexualize feminine boys or treat “femboys” like they exist for sexual reasons. Feminine boys are just boys who express themselves in a more feminine way, whether that’s through their clothing, voice, style, or personality. That doesn’t make them inherently sexual, and it definitely doesn’t turn their identity into something for other people’s fantasies.

Reducing them to that stereotype is harmful because it ignores their individuality and reinforces the idea that being feminine as a boy automatically equals being sexualized or objectified. In reality, it’s just a form of self-expression, the same way any other style or personality trait is. People deserve to be seen as full human beings first, not turned into labels that are only viewed through a sexual lens.

So yeah, feminine boys aren’t “for” anything like that. They’re just people, and they should be respected as such without assumptions or stereotypes attached to them.

People who are feminine in their expression whether you call them femboys or just guys who prefer a softer style should not be treated like they exist for anyone’s entertainment or sexual assumptions. The issue is not femininity. The issue is how quickly people turn it into a joke a stereotype or something to project fantasies onto.

A lot of the time it starts online in what people think is harmless humor. Memes comments edits jokes repeated over and over. But it builds a pattern where feminine guys stop being seen as full people and instead get reduced to one idea. They become punchlines or get treated like their existence is automatically tied to sexual meaning just because they do not fit traditional expectations of masculinity. That kind of thinking flattens someone into something shallow and unfair.

And it does not stay online. It shapes how people act in real life. It makes people feel like expressing themselves comes with a price. Like the moment they dress or act a certain way they are inviting comments or objectification. That pressure can be isolating. It pushes people to hide parts of themselves just to avoid being labeled or turned into a stereotype.

Something that often gets missed is that presentation is not an invitation. A person being feminine does not mean they exist in a sexual context for strangers to define. They are just people with different personalities and moods and identities like anyone else. When people turn that into something to joke about or sexualize it creates a distorted way of seeing others.

It also weakens basic boundaries. People start thinking it is normal to comment on bodies or make assumptions about strangers or group people into categories instead of seeing them as individuals. That kind of mindset spreads easily online and it makes spaces less respectful and less safe for everyone.

Another harmful thing that shows up a lot is the phrase “it is not gay if.” It is usually used as a joke but it ends up being deeply homophobic in practice. It treats attraction as something that needs to be excused or avoided and it frames femininity in men as something that exists to be worked around instead of accepted. It reduces both masculinity and sexuality into something rigid and judgmental instead of letting people just exist without commentary.

It is also important to be clear that femboys are not women. Feminine expression does not erase someone’s gender identity. Being a femboy is about presentation and self expression not about being turned into a different gender by other people’s assumptions. At the same time this is not limited to one specific type of person. People who identify as boys or men or are comfortable with that label can express femininity in their own way without it needing to be explained away or redefined by outsiders.

What needs to be understood is that femboys are not objects and they are not created for sexual framing or porn related assumptions. They are people. Real people with boundaries lives and identities that exist outside of how others choose to view them. Reducing them to something like that removes that humanity and turns something normal and personal into something distorted.

At the same time it is important not to turn this into shaming individuals for how they express themselves. Even if someone explores sexuality or confidence in their own presentation that is still their choice as long as it is consensual and self directed. The real issue is not self expression. The issue is when outsiders impose sexual meaning onto someone who never invited it or when an entire group is treated like a category instead of individuals.

The simplest truth is that people should be allowed to exist without being turned into a stereotype or a joke or a sexual assumption. Feminine expression in guys is not something that needs to be explained away or labeled. It is just part of how humans express themselves.

When people stop reducing others to stereotypes the environment becomes better for everyone. Less pressure less judgment less noise. Just people existing without being turned into something they are not.

So I’m a feminine boy and do love to cross dress and wear my panties (:333), and ironically I’m into the toxic hetero sport golf. I never see any feminine men in golf, and idk if clubs would ever let me golf in skirt.

Does anyone cross dress and golf? Are there any examples of people doing this, safely??

So im 14 and im a gay femboy and I can't let my family know And I want to get advice of how to tell them Because I don't know how and if there are ways to get feminine clothes without them knowing i can't do amazon lockers unfortunately, but if there's anything else, please let me know

I feel a little ugly and I'm chubby. I want to be a femboy but i don't know

I'm not tall, so in that respect I might be closer to being a femboy. Even so, a little insecurity makes me doubt whether I can be

My Mom always kinda walked in at the wrong time to see me do something that would hint on me being a Femboy 🥀

-while changing (back) she came back early and found me half changed still with my thigh highs on.

-doing thigh and glute training in my room

-saw me with relatively shaved legs

Idk if she suspects anything (maybe idk 😭) but this sort of topic never occurred in any conversation or was hinted on.

You guys have similar experiences to share?

xD

I really wanna start to wear dresses but I really don't find matching outfits. Moreover, I really don't know how to find which shape is the best for me.

Do ya have any advice?

Meow meow thanks a lot >.<

Hey, so in the last year i had a strange shift of feelings towards femboys, i used to dislike the idea of a guy being in femnine clothing and acting femnine etc.. but now im feeling more into them than women, i tried looking for a potential femboy romantic parnter but didnt succeed because theres 0 around my area and online they are either into other femboys or just horny , im not a "chaser" or any type of pervert im just genuinely tryna find one, so maybe anyone can suggest tips on finding a femboy?

I’ve seen some posts about femboys with the Blåhaj (shark plush), & I’m curious why it’s something associated with being a femboy

Hii! So I just kinda want to vent and need help on something very confusing to me and everyone I met. So I would consider myself straight. But I play a game called vrchat and I identify as bigender( male and female) but it's very confusing for me and other people because I'm very different from irl and online. I would say in vrchat I'm bi or pan. And I like to use girl avatars on the game. But when I have to get off, I don't feel like that anymore. And when someone asks me what I'm into and I say I'm straight which confuses people and myself. I don't know if I'm in denial or something but it hurts my brain. But recently I've been wanting to get feminine clothing but I'm scared to.(Might come back to explain some other things)

But besides that can anyone please tell me if this is relatable or if I'm just weird.

Okay so like I know this doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with being a femboy, except maybe there’s something to be said about how feminine people handle emotions over masculine, but either way I just needed a place to vent for a moment.

My name is Hope and recently I’ve been having this issue where it feels like I’m just super dissociated from everything. It sucks so much and I haven’t been able to snap out of it. Like my whole world is just seemingly moving slower than it should I have very little presence in my brain.

I don’t have anyone I’m completely open with irl so it does feel like I lack an actual support mechanism too.

I’ve also lost some friends recently and so I’ve been dealing with this feeling of loneliness but I don’t want this post to come off as attention bait so I won’t go into it

Idk I’m sure it’ll get better but for now it just sucks and as much as I enjoy being feminine and being a femboy, I do wish sometimes I had the emotional resilience that guys usually have, but it wasn’t something I ever had even growing up.

Anyways this was just a little venting to ground myself, there’s no need for anyone to worry, I’ll be back to myself in no time I’m sure of it!!

My mom is leaving the house soon so imma try some of her dresses while shes out, maybe try and steal one hehe

I have been wondering who am I. I don’t know if I am a crossdresser, femboy, siss, or trans. How do you all know who you are?

I’m trying to find some new nightwear that is cute and girly, but is boyish enough that

1: My Grandparents (guardians) don’t ask any questions that I can’t just say ‘because I need a pair for when it’s hot and I stay over somewhere else’.

AND

2: My Church group won’t ask questions about as I need a set since I’m going to a Church camp (I love Church, but don’t want the questions, I chose to go, wasn’t forced.)

Any ideas? (Preferable off of Amazon or a general men’s and women’s store.) It also CAN’T be marked as ‘girls’ unless it’s boys/girls. (Unisex). Thank you for reading my little rant, and have a good day.