r/misandristland

Finally feel seen and heard after going through so much with men. I love yall:3💅

Its more common than people think

Man wants child with wife, she eventually gives in

She sacrifices everything; her body, time, energy, life, dreams, goals to give him what he wants.

Man is no longer sexually attracted to wife, starts withdrawing and watches porn instead.

Wife is left to pick up the pieces of her life while caring for a child.

It makes me enraged

Most men do not deserve a wife and/or kids

I feel so accomplished until I date a man. Suddenly I'm nothing but an extension of his life. Even if it's not his fault, it's how society perceives me. It is degrading and It's hard to not feel angry towards him. My partner is a strong ally, but it doesn't seem like there's much he can do either. It's literally everyone else. When we worked together it was hell. I was constantly compared to him and considered sub par. I see how his privilege helps him in life while I face barriers. I don't hate him, but I certainly feel resentment sometimes. Mostly because it feels like I'm the only one seeing it.

The worst part is I feel so guilty for even feeling this way. I feel like I'm a bad person.

Recently I had a conversation with a male relative who said that women don't have the right to complain about men molesting girls because women molest boys just as much . I don't agree with this but I wanted to get the opinions of others. Do you ladies think that he is right?

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I always fantasize of living a life without men. I would be the happiest woman alive. Carefree and peaceful. Being myself. Never anxious or scared from past trauma experiences. No social anxiety. Most of my problems would be solved.

Serial killers and other famous criminals get so many love letters in prison. I've seen men who were convicted for literally killing or severely abusing their former partners and STILL managed to find a new one once they were out of prison (my country doesn't have life sentences nor the death penalty). The most toxic, abusive jerks somehow still seem to be able to find some poor woman to abuse and manipulate.

Meanwhile, women get abandoned after decades of marriage for getting cancer or some shit. I've heard so many stories of women sticking by their husbands through the worst stuff imaginable - addiction, disease, poverty -, only to be left for the stupidest reasons. Women who financially supported their struggling husbands and helped them follow their ambitions, only to be swapped for random girls once the men were in a better financial situation and possibly had higher status/better looks.

Women complain all the time about men being menchildren and not pulling their own weight with household chores, childcare and whatnot, but, if we hear so much about that, it's because these men still manage to get and stay in relationships, in spite of their total lack of effort. It's so much less common to hear men complaining about women like that - yes, part of that is probably because those are still culturally considered to be women's roles, but I have no doubt very few men would be willing to sacrifice like that for a woman, regardless of any "feelings", and most would have ditched her ass so fast. (Don't compare that to being a "breadwinner", because a) that's less soul sucking than 24/7 household management; b) money and a career are often an ego boost and a central element of identity for the man; c) that inequality often persists even when both work; d) most men can't afford to do that nowadays anyway.)

I see so many women on this website complaining about their partners not being affectionate if they don't want sex (but always feeling entitled to sex), while the common complaint for men is basically just lack of sex, either in or outside of a relationship. Sex sex sex sex; it's like many of them are incapable of having any feelings for a woman outside of wanting to stick their penises inside a vagina without much consideration of the person they're getting inside of, and they might be willing to put up with a relationship and her personality if she provides frequent sex plus other services.

Yes, I know it happens the other way around too, women can also be abusive, commit DV, leave their partners for unfair reasons etc., but for the more "measurable" stuff - like incidence of DV or likelihood of sick partners being abandoned - there are actual statistics that show it's a lot more likely to be done by men to women. I'm honestly too depressed and sleep deprived right now to be bothered to look up references for horrible stuff I've already seen too many times, but that means you don't have to believe me, just look it up for yourself if you think I'm bullshitting - and prove me wrong if you can, please, I'd fucking love to be wrong.

The only asshole behavior that seems to be more common with women than men is gold digging, but, then again, a) society has traditionally been structured in a way that made it a lot harder for a woman to make it on her own, even though that gap is closing (not closed); b) honestly, knowing what I know now, I can't fault straight women for realizing they won't get an affectionate, equal partnership, and at least trying to get something out of dating and marriage - just like men themselves almost always choose based on practical considerations and their own best interests.

The worst part is that rational awareness of these things doesn't take away my innate desire for romantic and erotic companionship - just like wanting to die doesn't eliminate the survival instinct (or we wouldn't have so many suicidal people who never attempted), or wanting to starve doesn't eliminate hunger and the biological drive to eat (or every anorexic would become extremely underweight, and eventually die, in the absence of forced intervention).

A few years of learning and thinking can't undo evolutionary history and a lifetime of social conditioning. Even if I understand it's extremely unlikely, I yearn for romantic intimacy, being valued and held, having someone who chooses to stay, and experiencing sensuality WITH LOVE (though I'm coming to resent sex, because of the detached and objectified way it's seen and treated in society, especially by men). I've been trying so much to change myself, but I always end up failing, because it seems like such a core part of me; deep down, it's what I've always craved, one of the very few things I've ever wanted or given a shit about. It feels like attempting gay conversion therapy on myself, or some idiotic shit like that.

And, at this point, I'm too broken and damaged to even have that 0.01% chance of a fairytale. I'm unfit for a loving relationship now, if I ever wasn't. I'm actually afraid of any man who would see me for what I am and still be interested in me, because they're probably dangerous and trying to take advantage of my fragility somehow. It's fucking depressing. I see no reason to bother with anything anymore, since I won't ever experience reciprocal love, because I'm weird, not particularly pretty or hot, and have mental issues, low energy and poor executive skills (= bad at housework). Trying to care about other stuff is like trying to focus on reading with a throbbing headache, or like trying to sleep when you need to pee so much it hurts.

Thanks for coming to my psych ward. I hope I get my period soon so I can be numb again, and able to sleep.

this man is selling his 7 year old daughters into sexual slavery so he can continue to feed himself and his sons. actual scum of the earth. if all men disappeared right now, so many lives would instantly be improved.

But I love women, I'm a feminist, I'm an ally to my sister and wife and cousin and aunt.

me, me, me.

How about that woman who was used like breeding cattle by two people so they can have a kid? Silence
How about the women who are trafficked in the pornography and prostitution industry? Silence
How about the little girls that are married off to old middle aged men? Silence
How about the women that are forced to wear a certain clothing attire against their will? Silence
How about the women and girls who are denied education? Silence
How about the grown women that are forcefully married off? Silence
(And I could go on, small things, toys, being a handsmaid for your little brother/cousin/etc OR EVEN FATHER.)

UTTER SILENCE.

I guess there is no ME to be had in those examples so the empathy couldn't be found. Bweaah why are we men so lonelyyy 😭

Yeah I'm a feminist. Googles: "Barely legal s*ut gang **** by 4 middle aged men"
Yeah I'm a feminist. "Suck my d*ck, b**ch" OR makes misogynistic disgusting jokes.
Yeah I'm a feminist. "Femicide isn't a real word, it's something that doesn't happen in reality, men are more frequent victims btw and I'm very intelligent"
Yeah I'm a feminist. "If she said yes and then no, it still means yes, right?"

All. Men.

(censored some words so I don't get another 3 days vacation)

Which is insane because I was just talking about Ambessa Medarda (from the league of leg*nds cinematic universe) and her ultimate named "Public......." .

Yeah I'm not getting banned 3 times in a row, u can read my name.
The 2nd one I didn't even wish it upon men directly but I was just describing how I WISHED IT on men 1 day prior.

they love bringing up divorce court and custody of children, but they do this to make the woman's life worse

they dont actually care about being a parent and caring for the child

Growing up I always wanted to be a mom and have a husband because that’s what majority of women have engrained into their brains as kids. Now I just hate the thought of it and I hate that society teaches women as little girls that they have to become mothers and wives. It creates this false hope of a “perfect family” when in reality that has a very low chance of happening, especially now with this generation of men. And even if having a husband was out of the picture, I feel like I just couldn’t raise a son. I would just be bringing another man into the world and the misogyny would get to him at some point just like every other man. If any of you guys have also wanted to be a mom and now don’t pls lmk your experience with it.

Also guys, my account is super new because I got banned for a week for saying men should up the rates and I wanted to get this off my chest, I’m not a bot I promise.😔

I am tiered of hiding it. They literally have fucked everything up. I consider myself a gender abolitionist but those who identify as men or really just cis men have fucked up this world. Then when you finally have the courage to call them out. they play the victim “not all men,” or “you hating on men is as bad as misogyny”. Like no, fuck you and stop forcing me to perceive you.

Exactly what the title says. I feel like every day I see more and more posts online about women applauding their male partners for what would be considered either common decency or bare minimum in any other situation. I also experience this with my friends who date men. They'll tell me how happy and grateful they are to have a fantastic partner and when they elaborate it's always something simple like:

"He listens and remembers the things I say."
"He asks how my day has been."
"He cooked for me and cleaned the dishes after."
"He tidied up around the house without me asking."
"He responds to my texts."
"He gets to my place at the time he said he'd be here."
"He saved half of the takeout for me to have tomorrow."

not to mention the crazier ones
"I was tired and didn't want to have s*x and he didn't pressure me."
"He actually makes me finish."
"We were cuddling and he didn't try and turn it into more."

They have gotten to the point where anything that's above having to emotionally and generally raise their male partner is worthy of praise.

Like yes these are good things, but they are all just common decency.

I’ll always stand by that opinion. M*n want control over woman and get threatened when they try own their agency. Abortion allows women the opportunity to get rid of a baby that will have: an unhappy life, will bring stress to the mother, or a baby that’s a product of rape. And even if it doesn’t fall under those categories, women have the choice whether they want to keep the baby it’s their decision and their body.

What infuriates me is m*n come on platforms like TikTok and demonise women for simply having an abortion or not wanting children. If they really were pro choice they’d adopt babies from the foster care system, but no they just one control over women’s bodies. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️ I am tired of these creatures trying to diminish women ladies let stand tf up.

I’m dealing with a very jealous, envious mother. Extremely cruel, insanely male centered. When my mother found out I was SA’d or finds out other women were she gets mad about it. Mad that she wasn’t picked. It is that Deep. These women are so beyond brainwashed or maybe that’s their kink but this is fucking disgusting. They’ll try to say your not good enough or hot enough to get picked or molested which is absolutely insane pick me energy. She shames women and calls them “touched”, and literally makes HORRIBLE remarks about women who go through sexual assault.she is beyond ill.

You have 0 idea how much harm you make! Shame on all in the subreddit! I support the idea of education on women rights, but this is not good at all!