r/r4r50plus_

​

Why is meeting people so hard? The apps are truly the worst so I thought I'd give this a shot. I will put all my 'stats' below and what I am looking for. Just trying to be completely honest and cut through the games.

ME

I have 2 college age children, both are in school out of state.

I have been single parenting for ten years (story to be shared if connection is formed but it's nothing dramatic).

I have a master's degree and work full time, although I have a very flexible schedule.

I own my own home and have plenty of my own money (I'm not uber rich but I don't need your money).

I have lots of friends and a busy life. I have put off dating while my kids were home and now it's time.

I live in a suburb of Boston.

I have many interests and am willing to try new things but in the spirit of honesty, hard core camping and hiking are a no for me. I like to say I am more "outsidy" than "outdoorsy" Also I do not have a dog and prefer a match without a dog.

Happy to answer questions

YOU

You are in my general age range (if I could have given birth to you it's a no thank you and if you are closer in age to my mother than me also no thank you).

You have a job. I don't care what it is but you don't sit around all day

You don't have too friendly of a relationship with drugs, alcohol or gambling

You do not have a prison record or history of restraining orders (the bar is low here!)

You are able to carry on a conversation, talk about yourself and show interest and curiosity in the other person.

You are not married.(Separated ok as long as you are living separately).

That's it! In the end, it comes down to chemistry and if we click...we can look great on paper and it still might not be right. But let's see what's out there!

I’m artsy, deeply sensitive, kind hearted and thoughtful.

I’ve had my heart stabbed enough times and now hoping to find a wonderful friend and soulmate.

I love museums, art and history, gardening, thrifting, ethnic restaurants, craft fairs, home renovations, arcades, painting, travel, and so much more.

If you are looking for someone with a big heart and would like to meet and potentially change both of our lives, hit me up.

I wish my story was different from yours, but maybe it varies to some degree.

I’m a man who has lost himself in the needs of others just like so many on here.

When you are the household default person for EVERYTHING, it’s HARD to do right and have anything left especially when you feel that care and attention isn’t sent back your way.

I’m looking for the spark. Yes that stupid spark. I’ve heard so much about. I’m craving the emotional stuff that most men roll their eyes at. I need some kind of connection that makes me want to continue give my all to you. 

I guess I just like having someone thinking about me and talking to me because they want to, instead of just needing something from me. Is that too much to ask?

First, let me apologize to those who have seen my posts several times and are tired of scrolling past. I also feel frustrated when I see the same freaking posts from the same people every two weeks. Yet we are all human beings seeking other human beings—hopefully in good faith—so we must empathize with one another.

*********************************************************************************************************

Caution: This post is entirely SFW. Not only is it safe for work, but it’s so clean that it's safe for the environment, your grandmother, your boss and children under the age of five years.

Intelligent, kind, literate and (occasionally) witty F65, nature lover, seeks a male human of similar age and character for stimulating conversation about books, movies, politics and life; hikes in the woods; bike rides; and the odd animal rescue (only if we should stumble upon an animal that needs rescuing - I will provide the gloves). If you message me, please tell me what you like about my post*,* where you live approximately and why you think we might be compatible*.

*I don't respond to low-effort messages. If you message me, please tell me what you like about my post, where you live approximately and why you think we might be compatible. Thanks!

I’m a 51 year old father who’s seeking advice on a situation

My daughter who’s 23 is dating a guy who’s 41 and I must admit I’m a little confused and a bit flabbergasted as to how it works between them.

What I mean by this is like with the amount of differences they must have being from different generations must be staggering

In your experience, how do you find a common ground to help your relationship develop with someone that much younger than you?

Funny thing about time, it just seems like I feel like I am the age (mentally perhaps) of who I’m spending time with and around. Conversely, when I feel like Im in the presence of lunacy or things I don’t understand it makes me feel sooo much older. Why start a post with this personal revelation? Well dear reader, I suppose I hope it helps you understand where I am coming from – and perhaps for some, make me more relatable. In this wide world, I know with certainty I am not the only one.

Having recently turned the ripe young age of 50 its struck me as kind of funny – I am too old to relate to young people (typically this in my experience constitutes under the age of 40) and too young to relate to an older set (lets say folks over the age of 60 have not been overly welcoming to me). So here I set – in the awkward second ‘tween stage of life. I find myself in a fairly constant state of introspection about a variety of things – from the state of personal relationships (congenial but very routine marital existence), professional goals and aspirations, wondering about fiscal health, etc. – ya know – typical stuff (if it isn’t then please don’t pee in my cheerios this is how I am coping). One thing is certain, I have found that I both value quiet time but also dread not having that someone who knows when I’m stuck there and need to be fished out. You’d think that was easy – but at least here – nope. I need to put up billboards in my neck of the woods saying hey please come pay attention to me and then hope someone driving by notices.

I think I am done with that and am ready for something a bit more. Doesn’t need to have a particular goal in mind – just sharing experiences, stupid memes that make you laugh, pictures if one feels like it for no reason other than because. No feelings of guilt when life happens and quiet is required but also no disappearing and wanting to find out if the other person is ok when the quiet becomes deafening. Ok – so maybe that is a lot. BUT – if that all hasn’t frightened you off, then please reach out – I’d love to say hi.

I've been divorced for over ten years now. I've got my own business. Not rich, but life's comfortable and I'm happy. A lot of people say I look younger than my age, probably 'cause I've been working out and staying in decent shape. I think I look pretty good, honestly. I'm not into younger guys and I don't do vague situationships. I just want someone to have real conversations with, someone steady and reliable.

I'm Asian, living in Florida now. Most days I'm at the shop, or I'm out hiking, hitting the gym, grabbing meals with friends, shopping, or doing something outdoors.

I'm looking for a guy who's older than me, financially independent, and serious about relationships. If you think we might click, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself.

Was your weekend just “ok”? There is still a chance. Let’s have a chat, a flirt and a laugh. Who knows? It might be a good end to the weekend.

I’m a tall professional gentleman in Manhattan. I own my own business. I am well educated, well traveled, and well read. I use the Oxford comma. I like interesting, intelligent women. I am intersted in people with opinions and ideas. A sense of humor and maybe even sarcasm is extremely attractive.

I'm in decent shape and look good in a suit. Have a new one to wear tomorrow.

Let's chat a bit and see where it goes.\~\~\~

Trying again. Got the views but not the response - so clearly I wrote something wrong. Hopefully, this post works this time :)

I'm from Fairfield county, Connecticut.

58 M. 5'9". Silver hair and brown eyes. Slim. A sailor and an Indian. Married and separated. Trying to get my life back together. I do smoke (trying to quit) and drink a bit - as I'm lonely and with nothing to do.

Looking for a slim to fit lady. Initially just to romance and chat. Get to know. Share a laugh and flirt, looking into your eyes. An online partner/gf to initially chat and maybe sext with. Whose texts makes me smile and my heart starts thudding, who makes me go all out to satisfy her.

I have a few rules -

1. We talk openly with each other - for the better part or worse. It’s important to keep things level and on the same page.
2. We are prioritizing our need for pleasing and pleasure. There is no other point of this arrangement.
3. Closure: This is especially important! It sucks to have to wonder what happened to the other person. Did they ghost me? Did they just change their mind? We’re both adults and yes, it hurts.

I'm safe. I've a car. I dot my i's and cross my t's. Always polite and respectful. Your discretion is guaranteed. And, if you want to vent - you've an unconditional, guaranteed ear :)

To those from outside USA, I can travel if we vibe.

Been out of the game too long and trying to find a companion. Sex happens if it happens and we vibe. Let's be online partners first & then have sex for the pleasure of it, instead of chasing the orgasm.

I doubt that there is somebody from here, but what the hell :-)

Hi there. I am from Moscow, but thinking about relocating to the more rural area at least 300 km deeper into the country. Since we have good internet coverage it's not a problem.

Buy an old but good house, renovate it, you know - new electricity, normal bathroom, 3m fence, machine gun on the roof, ditch with trained killer beavers, apple trees, flowers and harmony.

Me - 50, plus sized, former techsupport (with cynical and dry jokes and "kill all humans" attitude). White hair, blue eyes. Like to go to gym for weightlifting. Have an inner Elton John who loves shocking glasses frames and positive funny clothes.Comfortable outdoors fan. Love dogs more, because you can walk with them. Had both though)

Had huge village house (so I know what is what) but sold it because too many new idiots started living around (and such number of corpses would have attracted the attention of the authorities).

Sorry, I am a non-drinker and non-smoker.

Important - I am not a leader and don't like to be one. I am a supporter, an equal, a partner. Never understood those women who decide everything for their husbands.

Well, let us all find the ones we need!

P.S. No, I don't want to move to other country, I didnt even apply for the new international passport when mine expired recently. World is going crazy and I am fine here, with things I know. Times when I was couchsurfing around are gone and I am ok with that.

I’m at an age where I’ve experienced enough life to appreciate what’s genuine, but I’m still curious enough to wonder what—or who—I haven’t discovered yet. I enjoy meeting people who have their own stories, perspectives, quirks, and passions, because you never know what you might learn or experience simply by taking the time to have a real conversation.

I’m drawn to nature, animals, travel, gardening, DIY, creating things, great food, and the occasional rabbit hole into the strange or metaphysical. I’m not looking to manufacture a connection or rush toward an outcome; I’d rather meet someone interesting, enjoy the conversation, and see where the curiosity takes us.

If you’re genuinely looking to know someone rather than simply collect another chat, tell me something meaningful about yourself.

Please don't delete. Honestly, I'm seeking some candid insight and advice from women who are 50+. I am currently navigating a complex relationship dynamic and have a few serious questions about boundaries, perspective, and how best to handle things. Looking for honest, mature advice from people with life experience to help me figure out my next steps.

I'm a 51 year old Asian woman about to retire early, living in the United States.I own my own business and property and am financially stable. I'm petite and confident about my figure. I love traveling and trying new things, and I hope to find someone to do these things with.

I'm looking for someone emotionally stable, mature, over 45 years old, with plans for the future. They must be loyal, reliable, a good communicator, and someone I can trust and respect.

If you feel you're this kind of person and are also looking for a long-term relationship, please leave a message so we can start as friends and see how things develop.

🦄🍍

If you know you know.

I am new to reddit and this group. I don't know what to expect. I attend and host many socials in the San Diego area. For the sake of my own safety, it's at such events, I am more than happy to meet and make new friends.

Many socials include hiking and going to the beach.

Feel free to message me privately.

I look forward to hearing from you.

I’m not looking for someone who can keep a conversation going for five minutes. I’m looking for the kind of connection where you look up five hours later and wonder where the time went.

Because honestly, I’m tired of the dating-app cycle of matching, having an amazing conversation, getting excited about the possibility of actually connecting… and then suddenly watching someone disappear like they’ve been recruited by the witness protection program.

I’m not interested in collecting half-finished conversations. I’d rather find one person who actually wants to keep showing up and see where something real can go.

I’m a single dad to a teenage daughter, so I’ve learned a few things over the years—patience, loyalty, knowing when to keep my mouth shut, and accepting that I apparently know absolutely nothing while still somehow being the person she calls when life gets complicated. Being a dad has made me appreciate consistency and the people who show up when it matters.

Outside of dad life, I’m pretty easygoing. I’m a bigger guy with a calm personality, a sarcastic sense of humor, and a softer heart than I probably let on. I like good food, hole-in-the-wall restaurants, sushi, football Sundays, documentaries that send me down ridiculous rabbit holes, and conversations that somehow start with “What did you do today?” and end somewhere completely unexpected.

And yes, pineapple belongs on pizza. I’m willing to debate this, but I’m also willing to be right.

There are a few things I haven’t quite warmed up to: mushrooms and yogurt. At this point, I think we’ve both accepted that the relationship isn’t happening.

I don’t smoke or use drugs, and I drink socially without needing to turn every weekend into a story we can’t tell anyone. Unless we’re in Vegas. Then apparently the rules become a little more negotiable.

Politics isn’t a major part of my life, and I’m perfectly comfortable with people having opinions different from mine. I’m also agnostic. I respect what other people believe and expect the same respect in return. If politics or religion are deal-breakers, no hard feelings—we're probably just not each other’s people.

What I am looking for is pretty simple: someone kind, emotionally mature, genuine, and capable of communicating. Someone who understands that chemistry is great, but consistency is what gives it somewhere to go.

I want a relationship where we can be best friends, make each other laugh, tease each other relentlessly, have each other’s backs, and enjoy the ordinary moments just as much as the big ones.

I’m not looking for perfect. I’m looking for real.

So if you’re someone who actually enjoys getting to know a person instead of disappearing after three good conversations, say hello.

Worst case, we have a great conversation.

Best case… maybe we’re both finally done looking.

Is there a possibility for real connection and some degree of true affection?

Soccer mom and non-world traveler in the American South. I don’t need to know your name but I’d like to know what you think about. And I’d like to be the kind of person you could be curious about, too.

Reader, writer, general indoor cat.

... to hear from bots, catfishers, and people who like to talk endlessly about themselves.

But preferably... if you're a little weird but grounded, self-aware, endlessly curious, in love with music and film, and inclined to believe in science... then get in touch...

I'm curious if there are any actual human beings out there interested in two-way conversations.

UK/Europe, otherwise the time difference is a pain.

Looking for an authentic friend/partner to do things/nothing with.

I like movies, travel, theater, music, lazing on the couch, and more! I enjoy all the games: word, board, video, trivia. I'm always up for new experiences. I'm primarily a homebody, but I enjoy getting out and about when the opportunity presents itself. I'm on the introverted side, but can be chatty with people I'm comfortable with. Raised by television, my mind is a cornucopia of arcane pop culture knowledge.

I'm smart, genuine, authentic, and sincere. I can be pretty funny and lean toward the dry, sarcastic, and snarky. An idealist in cynic's clothing, I can be pessimistic about people and the world at large because of, well…everything! Lol. I appreciate new ideas and believe in lifelong learning and growth.

Far left, pro-science, non-religious, open-minded, and anti-hate. I follow politics way too closely for my own good. I have a full time job that I enjoy (at least until the AI takes it), a house, a car, and a bike that I don't use often enough. I have no pets, but generally prefer animals to people; definitely a bit of a misanthrope.

58, 6’0”, 250#, bear type. NW Chicago.

Im in my 50’s and divorced. Is it rare to find a mature women interested or accepting of this ? I’d want her to be a part , or at least ok with it. definitely not into sneaking around.
It’s a purely sexual curiosity only on occasion.
I’ve chatted with and gotten to know and like women only to later find out they are strictly against this .
It’s definitely not a deal breaker for me but I also feel we only live once so we should be open to new experiences. It’s not an easy thing to bring up either.
I’m just wondering if there are mature women ok or interested in this .

Married mom searching for an affair partner who's also in a dead bedroom and is over 45 with weekday daytime availability. I'm looking for someone local because although online is a big part of this, I want to actually meet on a regular basis and fulfill each other's needs. Ideally you are authentic, kind, genuine, and willing to invest and communicate regularly.

I'm looking for more than sex, although that is important. I'm craving intimacy of all forms, including emotional. If all you're missing is sex then we won't be a good match. Within the constraints that we have, I want a relationship vibe where we offer one another support, laughter, friendship, and passion.

A person's character and heart will always mean more than their physical appearance to me. Hopefully you have the same priorities. I don't look like the skinny only fans girls on some of these subs. I am overweight and working on getting healthier. I am however a good listener, and I will care about you and try to fill in your missing pieces.

Let's be one another's safe place. Let's rediscover how it feels to be desired. And to all my fellow lonely travelers- may you find someone who truly sees you.

\~notabot