r/rSocialskillsAscend

We were asked this recently, and it made us stop for a second.

Discipline matters.

But so do timing, health, family, money, environment, and luck.

Some men do the right things and still get hit hard.

Some men catch the right break and call it character.

So maybe the better question is:

Given the hand you have, what can you still protect today?

How much of your life do you think came from discipline, and how much came from luck?

Being understanding is a beautiful quality untilit becomes the reason people stop considering your needs.

They say :

No problem, I'll manage

It's Okay ,I understand

Don't worry ,I can adjust

They looks mature on the outside, but inside they feel tired, unseen and taken for granted .

Not because they lack strength because their kindness has no boundary .

Dr.Sreeveni V

Lately been trying to put myself out there and I feel like I'm doing all the right things and yet I just don't get the vibe back from others.

I don't know what I'm doing that is wrong

It seems like for others socializing and making friends is so easy

I feel like I am a good person. Kind, loyal, sweet at times, hyper empathic, compassionate, intuitive, I always try to learn from people on a deep level. I hate small talk because it drains me. I try to do small talk and it feels like sandpaper on my vocal cords. It's very painful.

I keep trying though.

Like sometimes I will see on youtube about how people have lost their mind or something and they are the only one that is sane. It seems like nobody wants to hang or just have a chat. It's like they are drones or something.

I even tried speaking to extroverted people (I am INFJ, introvert but also the modt extroverted of the introverts) and I just can't seem to spark anything.

Fuck man! Like I don't know what I'm doing that is wrong? I'm pretty fucking self aware dude. Well maybe I'm not if I'm not getting anywhere. How could you not want to talk to me. It's like nobody wants deep talk or to vibe. I don't take it personal I just want to understand

I am a deep intuitive understanding person. Thats who i am.

For the longest time, I thought successful people had some special confidence that I didn't have.

Whenever I wanted to start something new—learning a skill, changing jobs, going to the gym, or even talking to new people—I would wait until I felt "ready."

The problem is that "ready" never came.

Recently, I noticed that most people aren't confident before they start. They become confident because they start, make mistakes, learn, and keep going.

Looking back, every major improvement in my life came from doing things while feeling uncertain, not after uncertainty disappeared.

Has anyone else had a realization that completely changed the way they approach life?