How do you turn down a PhD offer without disappointing your potential PI?
Hi. I have been been exchanging msgs with my potential PI for 2 months and he has helped me a lot in terms of PhD application and what to work on to get published. Eversince, I have always been feeling reluctant with this opportunity due to low stipend. (Dorm and tuition are covered).
Yesterday I got a much better offer in terms of funding, institution’s credibility, facility, and PI’s global contributions. It’s a big dream come true for me and it will leverage my potential + network much more.
But how do I turn down my first potential PI? I feel bad about disappointing him especially since he’s been really assistive eversince.
No contract or any sort has been formalized/ presented yet in both opportunities, which are btw within the same southeast asian country.
To organize my questions:
- Does it make me a bad egg to leave my 1st potential PI hanging? Since September intake is coming.
- Is it normal to be honest in turning down a PhD offer?
- Should I just think of another alibi so things will feel lighter?
- Should I help or offer help in finding a replacement instead?
Pls help :( Thank you :)