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There is a type of respect called respect for pain, which is not mentioning blessings in front of someone who is deprived of them; this is a basic principle for a truly human person.

I want to know why I have over 3000 views on a post and only one upvote. Why is that? I'm putting in so much effort, guys!

"Who can you show me who places any value on his time, who reckons the worth of each day, who understands that he is dying daily?"

— Seneca, Letters to Lucilius, Letter 1

he opens his very first letter with this. not a greeting. not a warm-up. straight into the question, like he's been waiting to ask it and doesn't have time for anything before it.

dying daily sounds dramatic until you sit with it long enough to realize what he actually means. every day that finishes is a day you don't get back. not in a morbid way, just in a factual one. the tuesday that ended yesterday is completely gone. the version of you that existed six months ago spent those six months doing whatever you spent them doing and that's the only thing those months are ever going to contain.

most people don't feel this. they live inside the assumption that time is something they have a lot of coming, that the real decisions and the real living start at some later point once the current circumstances improve. right now is just the waiting room.

seneca watched people do this in ancient rome and wrote to a friend about how little had changed in his own behavior despite knowing better. that's the part that always catches me. he knew the argument, had probably given it to other people, and still caught himself treating days like they were infinitely renewable.

what did you actually do with last week. not in a productivity sense, not what got accomplished and checked off, but which parts of it were genuinely yours. which hours did you choose, which conversations mattered, which moments did you actually arrive in fully instead of being physically present while your attention was somewhere else entirely.

most weeks, for most people, the honest answer is uncomfortable.

that discomfort is the whole point of the question. he's not asking you to have a perfect answer. he's asking you to stop pretending the question doesn't apply to you.