r/theLword

Hi!

I’m a non-binary butch lesbian (she/her) from Germany, and I have known The L Word since I was 15 (I’m turning 30 this year).

I haven’t watched the show in ages because of the BAZILLION things I f*cking hate about it, but I just realized that the part in season 2 that’s about Tina wanting her autonomy is just SOOOOO f*cking wholesome for me!!!!

Does anyone else feel that way, too?

Personally, I have never been in a relationship with someone resembling Bette being a total f*cking self-absorbed control freak and just all around fricking bossy — thank God!!! —, but my ex-girlfriend was abusive in other ways, too, and I’ve also had my share of emotionally abusive “friendships”.

So I guess that’s the reason why my subconscious just reminded me of that autonomy thing with Tina 💪🏻, which is deeply soothing for me.

I was also wondering if it’s common for people in their late 20’s to still struggle with sh*t like that.

At the end of the day, I just wish it was common for TV and movies to also portray emotionally abusive friendships (and not just romantic relationships) because I feel the need to feel less alone about that by seeing myself reflected in the cultural mirror.