r/throuples

Happy Throuple Thursday! 🎉

Yeah I know it’s not a thing… but it totally should be!

I just wrote a new article for all those long-term lovebirds out there. If you’re like me and have spent years, perhaps decades, in a relationship and the only thing getting hot & heavy is the pile of unfolded laundry… then this one’s for you!  

How to microdose NRE when you’ve got that Old Relationship Energy

https://velourialamour.substack.com/p/how-to-rekindle-nre-when-you-got-old-relationship-energy

It’s got a galaxy of realistic, low-effort, high-reward ways to keep the spark alive. None of this “just book a surprise trip to Tulum” nonsense, and no buying jewelry that requires its own insurance policy. Instead, just dabble in the ✨ microdose surprises! ✨

Some of the pinky-dips include:

* Post-it notes on the mirror that are sweet, sexy, or certifiably wackadoodle
* 6-second kisses that actually trigger oxytocin
* “Stranger in my house” conversations
* Living room dance parties with or without clothing
* Taking something off your partner’s plate without keeping score
* The “no phones, just us” time
* And even starting a shared project (just… maybe don’t adopt a horse… speaking from personal experience here that my partners do NOT think is funny)

I wrote this for people who are already doing the hard work of throuple life and just need some fresh kindling in their relationship without adding burnout.

Do you have any easy + high-ROI ways to fuel your relationship? Let everyone here know! The more magically mundane, the better 🤩

​I (F21) started researching polygamy and throuples because it's a lifestyle I feel I might fit into. Scrolling through the sub, I didn't see many accounts of sapphic throuples. Are these relationships less unstable? How did you introduce the third person, or did everyone meet at the same time? I've been in a 2-year relationship and wanted to know how I can approach this subject with my girlfriend.

Hey, so on a different thread somebody was asking about thruple life and I chimed in with my past. I don't know all the various communities but over the last few days of answering questions I was DMd and told to post here so more people can learn from my past. There's a lot of comments I made in the other thread, and I'll try to be concise here. But if anyone wants to talk just post replies and I'll go into it more.

Other thread

https://www.reddit.com/r/askanything/s/thtZEqmyJL

Anyway, for 3 years me and my wife had a live in girlfriend. We are about 15 years older. She was young 20s, us older 30s. It was our first, and most likely only adventure into that lifestyle. And ended only because she needed to go out into the world on her own. We helped her get work experience and education. We all knew going itln it was never going to be a poly relationship with a permanent marriage type life.

The most common question from when I shared this was sleeping arrangements. We have a 5 bedroom house, so the girlfriend had her own room. And we still had a guest room. We both work. But my wife is the breadwinner.

I'll stop here so I don't spend all day writing, let me know if anyone is interested about our logistics. Oh, it ended about 2 years ago ish.

Happy Polyfiday! Yeah I know it’s not a thing… but maybe it should be 🤩

Anyway! I just published an article that talks about the differences between polyamory, polyfidelity, and polygamy. 

The TL;DR:
Polyamory = big potluck where everyone brings a dish (with consent, ofc)
Polyfidelity = cozy private dinner party
Polygamy = family banquet, usually tied to culture, religion, and/or legal marriage stuff

I dabble in the sweet bits, the shitshow potential, and why labels are just fancy wrappers on much more complicated candy… but the wrapper doesn’t dictate how the candy actually tastes.

Full post up on Substack if you want the whole thing:

https://velourialamour.substack.com/p/labels-lies-and-love-an-easy-guide-to-polyamory-polyfidelity-polygamy

I’m aiming for 1 new article a week because the DMs I’ve been getting are STAGGERING but honestly super motivating and flattering 😍 Not to mention, y’all are giving me endless content ideas!! Case in point: someone DM’d me who was sorta spiraling over whether they were polyfi, polyam, polygamous, or something else entirely. They were sooo stuck on the “label” that they were missing the beauty of the actual lived experience. That DM became the spark for this piece, so thank YOU for that!

And thank you all for all the messages, encouragements, the love, and even the occasional lil hate, lol! All of it helps and keeps me writing -- and keeps the algorithms well fed too 😋

Have a great weekend! ❤️💙🩷

Hi!

Sorry if this has been asked before, I searched and didn't really see anything, but I could just really suck at searching.

So, I am really thinking of wanting to put serious effort and intention in finding this type or relationship. For lots of reasons I feel this situation is one I would thrive in (and not meaning sexually, although hopefully that too).

I am just wondering for any guys who have started that journey on how long it took to find?

Was it something you had to be really patient on?

Is it one of those things where if it is going to happen just have to let the ether bring it to you?

Was there anything you did to help set yourself apart or have it known that you are wanting that type of relationship?

Where did you meet your HEA?

Anything else you would like to share for others maybe wanting to start this journey?

Thank you in advance for your input and look forward to hearing the good, bad, and sadly even the ugly maybe.

Take care!

I (M30) has been married to wife1 (F28) for 8 years and with wife2 for 3 years. We all get along really well, the sex is amazing, regular and sometimes feels like a porn movie. I started a business in my late teens and is very successful to a point where money isn't an issue. Wife1 never needed to work and i am happy to provide everything she wants and needs. Wife2 (F31) worked a dead-end job all her life and i recently gave her the option of quitting if she is not happy and I'll take care of her. She quit 2 month ago and was quite happy. We are together all day unless i have to be at my business for a meeting. I give each wife around 10k per month as a salary from the business so that they have an income in their bank accounts, however, they don't have to pay any bills or buy groceries. They can do anything they want with it.

We all are fit, healthy and spend atleast 2 hours in the gym per day. In my opinion I am also abit gifted in the downstairs area and have made both wives orgasm in the same session.

Both wives have asked me about starting an OF account which I am open too, although we are not desperate for money.

We travel alot, maybe 2-3 countries every 3 months. Is OF a good platform to start an adult rated venture and what would the standard fee be per subscriber?