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It doesn’t feel set up well — right off the bat, they’re denigrating Zoya before Julien has even seem her. It feels weird to say that about someone’s family if you have a complicated relationship with them.

It doesn’t feel like her being a freshman is a good enough reason, nor does the fact that their dead mom left Julien’s dad for Zoya’s. Even teenagers have to understand (or at least not care) that cheating parents are not their kids.

I’ve watched When The Levees Broke a couple times.

Although this was one of the most difficult documentaries (well, docuseries) I’ve ever sat with, one of my all-time favorite moments in any film is when a musician explains the tradition of a jazz funeral: after saying some words to honor someone who has passed, they play celebratory music and have a line of dancers expressing themselves. Something that really uplifted me and warmed my heart was when the musician was beaming and said “yeah, I’m sad you’re gone, but damn it sure was nice to know you.”

I want to watch something that makes me feel the same way that quote does. I’m also interested in natural disasters but that’s secondary to the community care in response to hardship aspect.

I’m not trying to see who was the worst of the three of them, I’m specifically looking at their actions in pairs. Obviously Obie sucks.

Zoya and Obie started dating AFTER he dumped her older sister Julien, and even then he was still clearly interested in Zoya before the breakup. Julien and Obie slept together while he was with Zoya. I sincerely can’t tell which is worse?

Reasons that what Zoya and Obie did might have been worse:
- Julien and Obie were together and in love for SO LONG
- Obie was kinda emotionally cheating before the breakup
- Both of them kind of tried to play it off like nothing was happening when the photo of them changing came out
- what Julien did could at least be seen as a reaction to how Zoya hurt her first

Reasons what Julien and Obie did might have been worse:
- They fully physically and emotionally cheated and continued to hide it
- Julien encouraged Obie to lie and he told Zoya he loved her
- Julien kept going after him in front of Zoya even after he had dumped both of them

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