u/1091hall-scott

"Hi - My ex has been stalking me for many months. I tried being nice and slowly separating from him, I tried cutting him off entirely, I’ve brought in law enforcement and have consistently enforced boundaries with no contact other than legal/law enforcement. I am scared of him and am so exhausted with the whole situation. He‘s clearly obsessed and will not stop. Has anyone here experienced this and navigated this situation successfully? How did you do that? I feel I need the legal system to help protect me but it does seem like calling the cops/jail/ etc further escalates his angry obsession with me. I just want this to stop. Any personal experiences or advice out there? thank you."

you wanna talk about exhausting? try spending the night shivering on the floor in Booking @ the county pen, over and over, based on falsehoods. There'll be no conviction of the, yet another, alleged violation, because a conviction, requires evidence. but the damage is already done and she knows it. delusional, malicious, vindictive, paranoid, ex girlfriend, has been accusing me of stalking and being "clearly obsessed."

for seven months now, with no evidence, no convictions, no corroboration, just accusations, with multiple attempts @ public shaming. she just won't leave me alone.
she posts slander online, calling me out personally, if myself or one of my supporters attempts to push back on it, that's all the evidence she needs to support "clearly obsessed."

"consistently enforced boundaries" - looks like lying to law enforcement about where you've seen your ex, so he will be arrested again and again.

wrecked my life because of how far she has been allowed to carry her accusations, on just her word alone. she's delighted to have wrecked my life. custody arrangement, job of 3 years, financial devastation. almost took our home (11yo daughter and me).

when someone has an unreasonable/unwarranted fear, according to her, that should be all the evidence needed to have someone locked up and kept there (begging the judge @ every opprtunity to keep me locked up because i'm so dangerous).

i'm afraid of him (maybe because of all the hurt you've brought down on his head?), my fear proves that he is dangerous. can't get court to convict him, so public attempts @ shaming and gathering undeserved support behind her deceptions, is all she has left to work with.

stop publicly attacking/shaming and we'll stop publicly pushing back.
give it a try, crazy-malicious horse trainer.
i wish nothing to do with her ever again.
her claims of "clearly obsessed" may someday require some proof, that day can not get here fast enough. i can not wish for anything more earnestly then for the straight of her deceptions to be reviled/revealed.

even when that day comes, nothing will happen, except i won't be in jail.

she get's to just take all her lies, and walk away, free & clear.
there is no way, after all of this BS she's been running, she could ever accept the truth of my desire to have her removed from my life forever. gratefully. completely.

wheels of justice grind so slow... she'll likely still be calling me a stalker long after i'm convicted of absolutely nothing.

i alone say he's a stalker, so he is. i don't need evidence, i just know he is - deluded malicious petaluma horse trainer

PostScript: for all of the arrests, custody loss, and the financial devastation, job loss, friend loss, betrayal, humiliation, embarrassment, shame, and universal/complete frustration... just in every aspect of my life that has been affected by being falsely accused of domestic violence...based on her fears...for all of her fears... her fears of this or fears of that, all of her fears... all of them... none of it, none of it, has come to pass. zero. And I still lost everything and I'm innocent. won't be convicted of stalking. It's been a whole lotta fluff-nothing for seven long months, and I've been dying for everybody to get up to speed... starting to finally happen. allthewhile... crazy-malicious continues to come @ me. hateful.

Postings from a local neighborhood forum:

"Neighbors, there is a dangerous stalker in our community. Please, I’m asking that you call the police if you see any suspicious activity around building 12. Please don’t overlook anything that doesn’t seem quite right, even in broad daylight. He’s not above posing as a maintenance person or other type of worker and getting on a ladder to get into a home or messing with electrical equipment. These are things he has done before. He is currently charged with felony stalking and has many charges moving through the legal system. He has also been know to lurk in the shadows around building 15. Please keep an eye out and thank you from the bottom of my heart. It’s a very scary situation! Let’s all help each other stay safe. "

"Thanks to everyone concerned about this. I truly appreciate it. Please take note of all the nasty posts about “the angry horse trainer with brown pitbull”. These are ALL from the stalker, who is creating fake accounts. It’s just words, and I’d rather that than a physical attack. But if anyone wants case info with Petaluma PD I’m happy to provide. I do have valid reasons to worry for my safety, and real arrests, restraining" order, and charges based on evidence. My only reason for posting was for extra eyes and ears around my (our) home. Sorry for the drama, not my intention, and thanks for reading."

"I do have valid reasons to worry for my safety" yes, i would consider delusional paranoia a valid reason. You've not any reason to be worried for your safety based on anything your ex has done/is doing, said/not said.
yes, you've caused real arrests based on your delusions. and yes, you've a real restraining order because of it.
can avoid the truth that her ex is leaving her alone, restraining order or no.

"Charges based on evidence."
oh yeah? we'll see you in court. you have nothing, no evidence, you've all this surveillance gear @ your apartment, and still no evidence.

"My only reason for posting was for extra eyes and ears around my (our) home."
why the extra eyes and ears if technology is doing it for you?
almost believable, however because of your lies to law enforcement, her ex is being forced to wear a GPS monitor, which he has on right now. He's being tracked by probation and they get notified electronically if ex approaches her home.
So knowing this, you still launch your public shunning, not for safety, but to garner undeserved support for your lies from the community, and drive your ex and his daughter out of their home.

That, my friends and neighbors, is the straight of it.
let's see your evidence Bethany, please, share it with the community...
Delusional horse trainer.

she's not sorry for the drama in the least. Bethany is the source of it, and over 6monthes latter is still pushing her BS.

her personal and professional reputation is now on the line. the DA never even filed charges for stalking more then 4 months ago. This is all the scraps of her case she's trying to support on alleged CPO violations (of which, she has made many)

And with all of it, NO EVIDENCE.
rather then getting your slander on now, why not wait till i'm convicted of something? anything?
if you can't get the courts to do your bidding, just convict me in public with slander.

I'm a dangerous stalker to one horse trainer, not to the court, not friends/family/neighbors, only one disgruntled, delusional, exgirlfriend, who was physically and emotionally abusive of me for nearly 5 years.
"no beating horses, only men!" :-(

she must not have been aware that all phone conversations with an investigating officer are conducted via speakerphone so the officer has a recorded copy of the phone interview on their bodycam.
i can happily listen along and just pick out every falsehood @ my leasure. so much low-hanging fruit.

for future reference, bodycams are always on, even during phone conversations, capturing the audio. meaning there's always audio of all interactions. whoops.

hotels log key strokes.
story A: jives with the logs.
story B: ...not so much. (as per recorded conversation via speakerphone to bodycam)

hoisted on her own petard indeed.
ya ding-dong, you fell into your own trap. :-)

she must not have been aware that all phone conversations with an investigating officer are conducted via speakerphone so the officer has a recorded copy of the phone interview on their bodycam.
i can happily listen along and just pick out every falsehood @ my leasure. so much low-hanging fruit.

for future reference, bodycams are always on, even during phone conversations, capturing the audio. meaning there's always audio of all interactions. whoops.

hotels log key strokes.
story A: jives with the logs.
story B: ...not so much. (as per recorded conversation via speakerphone to bodycam)

hoisted on her own petard indeed.
ya ding-dong, you fell into your own trap. :-)

posted on apartment forum:
"Neighbors, there is a dangerous stalker in our community. Please, I’m asking that you call the police if you see any suspicious activity around building 12. Please don’t overlook anything that doesn’t seem quite right, even in broad daylight. He’s not above posing as a maintenance person or other type of worker and getting on a ladder to get into a home or messing with electrical equipment. These are things he has done before. He is currently charged with felony stalking and has many charges moving through the legal system. He has also been know to lurk in the shadows around building 15. Please keep an eye out and thank you from the bottom of my heart. It’s a very scary situation! Let’s all help each other stay safe."

response:
Neighbors, there is a dangerous horse trainer in our community. She has a long history of DomesticViolence, over decades. Once her DV was about to be exposed, she weaponized the legal system to harass her ex-partner with false charges. Then references her charges as evidence of legitimacy. Pie-in-the-sky fearmongering. She claims fear/danger as a way to avoid scrutiny of her own actions. These are things she's done before. Lies die when facts are put in opposition. The wheels on her plan are starting to come off, justice may not prevail, but everyone should be aware of the true motivations behind claims of stalking. Malicious & vindictive, most of all, unreasonably paranoid, with nothing to show for it. Beware of the angry person and the small brown pit bull. If you'd like more information, willing to share a recording of an assault this horse trainer committed on her ex-partner. It's a very scary situation when your attacker attempts to rally public support around her delusion. We help keep each other safe by calling out spurious claims of danger. Continued attempts to isolate/ostracize those knowing the truth of your MO, duly noted.

No beating horses,
only men! 😞

destroyed by a delusional/vindictive horse trainer, via paranoid-driven stalking charges. all driven by a level of revenge/malice heretofore unexperienced.
wrecked my carrier, custody, family, friendships, business relationships, and so much more. bankrupt, scared.

she is still on a (revenge?)crusade.
what do you do with someone who you'd be delighted to never see or even speak about ever again?
whereas, she's pumping her tale of fear and stalking by changing our past to fit her current subterfuge.

but i've never had our history destroyed as well.
she completely re-wrote entire chapters of our history to fit her surprise attack narrative.
the cunning/craft invoked off the charts.
she accused me of being violent with her, right there on bodycam.

felt bad and protective of her for years, thinking she had unfortunate luck to have been a victum of DV, again and again. looks like, she must have had a hand in the violence as well.

she can shuck and jive till the cows come home.
she propagates domestic violence and accuses others of the very same.
she beat the shit outta me, i never raised a hand in anger.

but i have a recording of her beating me.
that audio really should be shared with others.

anyways, turncoat on a level of betray i never could have contemplated, and the last of the love extinguished with lies on bodycam videos.

NO BEATING HORSES,
only men!

..has no social consequences but the inverse does.

Usually, we shouldn't condemn people like this, but in some cases of false accusations the moral lacking is so stark that there really isn't another way to interpret it. You were drowning. More than that, you were thrown into the water without cause. They were standing next to the life ring. Some of them were patting the perpetrator on the back. Some of them actually understood that you were thrown in without cause. Any one of those people could've thrown the life ring. Even if they didn't know whether you deserved to be in the water or not, they had the means to help you as a living human being not to drown. And not one living soul did.

Usually, we shouldn't condemn people like this, but in some cases of false accusations the moral lacking is so stark that there really isn't another way to interpret it. You were drowning. More than that, you were thrown into the water without cause. They were standing next to the life ring. Some of them were patting the perpetrator on the back. Some of them actually understood that you were thrown in without cause. Any one of those people could've thrown the life ring. Even if they didn't know whether you deserved to be in the water or not, they had the means to help you as a living human being not to drown. And not one living soul did.
(lifted from another post, but worthy of highlighting for all)