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Hi everyone! I met my bf in college April of this year. He is actually my friends ex bf. I’ve already communicated that to her and she’s totally fine with our relationship. We’re not super close and she’s now a grad student at another university.

Before reconnecting I’d not seen or talked to him for at least 6 months to a year after the two broke up. Our relationship is amazing. More than amazing by any metric. He’s charming, attractive, strong, intelligent, loving and he makes me laugh and smile every day that I’m with him.

Now you could say it’s the rose colored glasses and the honeymoon phase doing its job, but I’ve never felt so intensely about someone not even in my previous two relationships. I’m also a super logical person. I’m a hopeless romantic but in my relationship I’m a big realist and I attribute it to the way I was raised and the combined experiences of my previous relationships. So I don’t think that I’m being illogical or naive.

We reconnected by pure coincidence. I was at our school cafeteria for lunch before a field trip and he recognized me and called my name. We ended up having a good conversation. Talking online led to him walking me to the bus stop and then hanging out everyday until it was obvious by the end of the second week that we were both romantically attracted to each other. We dated unofficially and now we are officially bf and gf.

We had and still have intense sexual tension that finally peaked in having sex. I won’t go over the details. After that we’ve been having intercourse regularly. He’s an amazing lover: passionate, fierce, considerate and I feel very connected to him after every time.

With my previous relationship my ex told me that sex made him feel more connected to him but i couldn’t help but notice that with him, I didn’t feel connected with him as much. Sex was painful for me with him.

Back to my current bf, he’s definitely less so in that department but still he satisfies me in a way that my ex couldn’t even though I haven’t had as many orgasms.

For the last month I’ve been trying to decide how to tell my sister about my new bf. She’s a bit overprotective and I wanted to ease her in. Last week he got me peonies from TJ and I made a post. I also went to my sisters graduation which was in another city. While I was there she peppered me with questions one of which was “Did you let him touch you?”. I am not a good liar so I chose to give an answer that put plausible deniability but clearly she knows me too well and figured out in a second that I had already done the deed.
Now I know in a typical timeline sex is usually something that happens a bit later like 3-6 months. But our relationship is a bit more physical and sensual than the usual. We can’t keep our hands off each other and are constantly being affectionate. I feel like this shouldn’t be a big deal we’re adults and I have always consented unlike my last relationship where our sexual relationship started with coercion.
This time, it’s started with my full consent and interest. He’s never coerced me and our relationship just developed to be sexual a bit quicker than the usual standard. But I come from a conservative family. My family holds the traditional views that most Asians have. In regards to sex it should happen later. My sisters reaction to my answer was a bit crushing as it was well implied that I shouldn’t have given my body to him so soon. Is it too soon? IMO it doesn’t matter how soon as long as there is consent but my culture will make me believe that I should be shamed for giving in so soon like a “whore” Or something.

Note: we’re also going long distance at the end of August when he finishes his internship here, he’s going back to Sacramento. Maybe this will be a good time to bond physically before I have to use my imagination more than doing anything physical. He’s likely not coming back to my area unless for work and if we do last (dating to marry dynamic) he’s taking me to Japan to be in his hometown. He’ll be staying with his dad in Sacramento for a few years before then.

Hi everyone! I met my bf in college April of this year. He is actually my friends ex bf. I’ve already communicated that to her and she’s totally fine with our relationship. We’re not super close and she’s now a grad student at another university.

Before reconnecting I’d not seen or talked to him for at least 6 months to a year after the two broke up. Our relationship is amazing. More than amazing by any metric. He’s charming, attractive, strong, intelligent, loving and he makes me laugh and smile every day that I’m with him.

Now you could say it’s the rose colored glasses and the honeymoon phase doing its job, but I’ve never felt so intensely about someone not even in my previous two relationships. I’m also a super logical person. I’m a hopeless romantic but in my relationship I’m a big realist and I attribute it to the way I was raised and the combined experiences of my previous relationships. So I don’t think that I’m being illogical or naive.

We reconnected by pure coincidence. I was at our school cafeteria for lunch before a field trip and he recognized me and called my name. We ended up having a good conversation. Talking online led to him walking me to the bus stop and then hanging out everyday until it was obvious by the end of the second week that we were both romantically attracted to each other. We dated unofficially and now we are officially bf and gf.

We had and still have intense sexual tension that finally peaked in having sex. I won’t go over the details. After that we’ve been having intercourse regularly. He’s an amazing lover: passionate, fierce, considerate and I feel very connected to him after every time.

With my previous relationship my ex told me that sex made him feel more connected to him but i couldn’t help but notice that with him, I didn’t feel connected with him as much. He was for a lack of a better word, very well endowed and sex was painful for me.

Back to my current bf, he’s definitely less so in that department but still he satisfies me in a way that my ex couldn’t even though I haven’t had as many orgasms.

For the last month I’ve been trying to decide how to tell my sister about my new bf. She’s a bit overprotective and I wanted to ease her in. Last week he got me peonies from TJ and I made a post. I also went to my sisters graduation which was in another city. While I was there she peppered me with questions one of which was “Did you let him touch you?”. I am not a good liar so I chose to give an answer that put plausible deniability but clearly she knows me too well and figured out in a second that I had already done the deed.
Now I know in a typical timeline sex is usually something that happens a bit later like 3-6 months. But our relationship is a bit more physical and sensual than the usual. We can’t keep our hands off each other and are constantly being affectionate. I feel like this shouldn’t be a big deal we’re adults and I have always consented unlike my last relationship where our sexual relationship started with coercion.
This time, it’s started with my full consent and interest. He’s never coerced me and our relationship just developed to be sexual a bit quicker than the usual standard. But I come from a conservative family. My family holds the traditional views that most Asians have. In regards to sex it should happen later. My sisters reaction to my answer was a bit crushing as it was well implied that I shouldn’t have given my body to him so soon. Am I in the wrong? Is it too soon? IMO it doesn’t matter how soon as long as there is consent but my culture will make me believe that I should be shamed for giving in so soon like a “whore” Or something.

Note: we’re also going long distance at the end of August when he finishes his internship here, he’s going back to Sacramento. Maybe this will be a good time to bond physically before I have to use my imagination more than doing anything physical. He’s likely not coming back to my area unless for work and if we do last (dating to marry dynamic) he’s taking me to Japan to be in his hometown. He’ll be staying with his dad in Sacramento for a few years before then.

20 F Left sided hemiplegic cerebral palsy. Hi everyone! I wanted to rant on here for a bit and give some good news! As many of you know, disabled people are often overlooked in the job market and their capabilities are dismissed in favor of judging our physical attributes rather than our intellect. This is something I have faced since elementary school. People make assumptions based on how I look and even as an adult I’m rather petite and puny. Even back in high school some have assumed I’m autistic because of the cp link.

I don’t think I’ve been inherently discriminated against for being disabled as I have proven myself to be capable countless times. I have always shown myself to be a diligent and dedicated person. About two years ago I had brain surgery and post recovery I returned to school and subsequently started my first part time job at my college’s tutoring center. Following that semester I did not get offered a contract for the fall and so was out of a job. I had an internship that fall and so decided to focus on that and did not actively pursue another job until a little while later. I applied for Starbucks twice and as expected was rejected both times without an interview.

Finally we have come to this semester. I applied for two jobs at my college one as a peer mentor and another I reapplied for the same tutoring center I worked at spring 2024. I got an interview for the peer mentor position and was told I did extremely well and that I was definitely would be a good fit but due to limited positions (2 available positions and 7 applicants) they had to make the hard decision to choose two other more experienced candidates. This didn’t really sadden me as I know that the circumstances were out of my control and I had done my absolute best.

But I still wanted a job. That same Friday that I got the rejection email ( a rather nice one might I add) my school district which I have gone to school K-12 reached out to me for an interview as a district tutor. This is an informal position for college students. The interview was set for this Tuesday but a delay moved it to this morning. It was a pretty informal interview. Less of an interview and more of the interviewer explaining the program and situation and asking about my availability. To my surprise, the interviewer informed me that I could start working this summer with the elementary school. All I have to do is send my summer and fall class schedules, which I’ve since sent.
The application process has yet to start for the tutoring center and I am still waiting on that (if everything goes well I will be staying with the school district and will email the tutoring center supervisor of my job placement with my school district)

I’ve been on a literal high since 9 o clock this morning. Even though I’ve never felt like I was passed over because of my disability, there was a sense that people made assumptions when I did bring up my disability especially when the job is more physical.

Another thing is I did not expect them to reach out so soon or that I would be the first few they thought of. Earlier this semester they were full and couldn’t hire anymore college students. Given the tendency for the hiring people to pass me over for more experienced and capable people I did not think I would hear back from them unless I emailed them back.

This whole situation has been a really big boost for my confidence. I’m somewhat of a timid and anxious person so I do tend to be a bit insecure about myself and my capabilities. But this turn out has made me realize that I am valuable and that I’m more worthy than I think I am. I will now be riding this high for the rest of the month until I start in the summer