u/2023_GT

So I was in a serious relationship with my now ex-fiancé for 7 years, and obviously intended to marry this woman. I truly loved her with all my heart, and I’m very hurt to see how things ended, but I’ll get right to it.

I have a brother with Down syndrome who is going to be moving into both my house, and my other brother’s place as my dad is now in hospice, and can obviously not take care of him. My mom passed away when I was little, so sadly, she’s never been in the picture. I’ve always had it as my goal that he wouldn’t end up in a group home living situation, and I’d like to believe we were both on the same page with this. It’s been brought up several times since I first started dating her, but clearly she’s dismissed it. We’ve discussed how it would work, and I really thought we were on the same page. She’s even mentioned how it would be the right thing to do. Regardless of peoples opinions on the matter, I’ll give mine… it’s no place for my brother. He works 20 hours a week, and is very independent. He does his own laundry, can cook, clean, and has great manners. He also is great with communicating, and is wonderful with my brothers children. They love having him as an uncle, and are all very welcoming with this new journey we’re about to embark on.

Well fast forward to a couple months back, my dad started to not do so well, and I mentioned to my fiancé that my brother would most likely be moving into my brother and I’s houses. For reference, I have a very well paying job where I’ve been able to afford a home with over 3,500 ft^2. Needless to say, I have a couple extra rooms that don’t serve any real purposes other than being guest rooms. Well, when discussing this with her, she was initially very open to the whole idea. It seemed that we were on the same page, and everything would work out great.

Well fast forward to two weeks ago, I started mentioning the logistics of this whole situation to her. I explained that we’d be moving his bed frame, furniture, and whatnot, and that I should probably rent a U-Haul for his stuff since my car certainly wouldn’t be able to fit all of this, and she started seeming sort of puzzled. She asked, “Well if your other brother is willing to take him in, why would you do so as well?” I explained that I feel a moral obligation to look out for him, and that this has always been my plan, albeit a lot sooner than I was anticipating. Well, she seemed to just fly off the handle. She showed her true colors in mentioning how much of an inconvenience it would bring to our lives, how it would be weird to love with him when we’d eventually have children, and that she was not comfortable with the whole situation. I was frustrated in this moment, but let her vent, and we didn’t talk for a day or so. When I once again brought it up to her that we would be moving forward with this plan, she once again lost it and told me that she wanted no part of it.

I’ll keep it short, the woman I loved broke my heart with that. I can understand that this is definitely a unique situation, but I feel that my brother needs to be with family more than anything else. I decided to tell her that it was probably best that we go on our separate ways. I’ve now been called selfish by her and her family, and I’ve had to sit back and reflect. If this is how the woman I wanted to marry wanted to treat my brother with Down syndrome, maybe she isn’t truly the one for me. That being said, I obviously still have feelings for her, but it’s very hard for me to accept the fact that what we had is done forever. Is this an abnormal living situation, or am I fulfilling a brotherly obligation?

Curious to see how many people have witnessed this dude in action. He walks around the parking lot all friendly, before handing you a hat that is “free”, and ultimately telling you this whole bit on providing a recommended donation for him, thus not making these hats truly free. I’ve seen him at Indy, Pocono, Darlington, and now Watkins Glen today. How many races does this dude visit?🤣🤣🤣