u/3rdDegreeMusic

I didn’t check my app but I jumped from 6 likes (likes that I seemingly can’t swipe through) to 50+. I normally get a few likes per day. It’s not a new account nor did anything in my profile change. I am talking about for years. After I got below 50, it’s counting down like normal. I thought it was like a bug or something. This account is old and never gets more than like 10. On the contrary, I feel my account is throttled back as I instantly get likes right after I close the app when I got none during the day until then.

I found it odd as I am a man seeking women, sober, over 40, don’t want kids, etc.

I live in the Bay Area, CA where a lot of people wait to have kids but I am sort of shocked how many people list that they want kids well over 40. I am not looking to have kids but I also filter on other criteria (I am sober so not wanting to drink all the time is important and I get more hints from the profile than drinking preferences). Similarly, I am super willing to date people a certain distance one direction but the same distance another direction is a definite no for me and it is significantly more time consuming. I find that I spend so much time just filtering, and it isn’t something that premium would solve for. I swipe left on everyone who wants kids but I sometimes wonder if they are serious about it or not, and also if it is as non negotiable as I interpret it as. I feel like it’s way more than half the people who don’t already have kids and I don’t really know I want to date people who have kids either.

I am more curious about it than anything else.