u/AFlowerInTheDarkness

Tbh this really offended me. I wasn't expecting it at all. I used to eat a ton of processed food and junk, and all I did was switch to natural food and I found non food ways to cope when I'm stressed. I've been getting way better mentally and physically and was proud of my stomach almost being 'flat'. I still have quite large breasts, DDD, so... It's not like I'm skinny. I've only probably lost maybe 8-10 pounds over the past year and a half.

It crossed my mind that my cousin might notice my weight loss but I didn't think much of it.

I don't check scales, I don't fuss over my weight at all. I haven't stepped on a scale in years. It's just all about getting healthier for me and I finally had it in my budget to eat healthier.

My cousin came in and looked disturbed and I was taken a back by it, and then she said "You look anorexic. Are you eating??" And I was shocked.

We were both very chubby kids. I never judged her when she began hardcore working out in highschool and going on daily walks. She's maintained it since and is gorgeous and she weighs about as much as me now but most of it is in her hips. Shes toned and she's very elegant silhouette and it's always inspired me.

So I was kind of baffled and stuttered and laughed and went "Anorexic...??" And then later mumbled it to myself again in disbelief still and she said "Well you just look like you haven't been eating"

It's been about a week and tbh... It's still bothering me. I'm not gaining the weight back just because someone says I'm too skinny... It makes me feel horrible, inside and out, and makes me sluggish and sick. And all I did was cut out processed foods. I don't even work out. Maybe if I did I'd be perceived differently?? Idk. I never saw anything but positivity in my reflection as I was losing the weight.

My boss is a first time restaurant owner. I applied for the waitress position but I was so hands on and the only one helping him to the point where he promoted me to a 'manager' though I don't really do much and am still lined up for the waitress position. I manage the social medias and he struggles with tech and speaking English so I help him with all of that.

I've never been able to get another job in this area, and I'm saving up for a family emergency coming up in three months (not willing to disclose, but the money is due by then or I'm SCREWED.)

The health inspector came two weeks ago apparently and was friendly to my boss, claimed it was easy to get in touch with her and she could come in next day from whenever we called. Hes been trying to get a hold of her. We tried to contact her three more times Monday but her voicemail would only allow 15 second voicemails then make a weird shrieking sound. He's slow speaking due to struggling with English so I left her a message.

Nothing... No email, no call back. I tried again today and still nothing.

I'm starting to panic.

Is it normal for health inspectors to ghost like this?? How long will she take? I can maybe choke through one more week of waiting if I pick up double shifts when we open, but this is starting to feel extremely horrowing.

And no, there's nothing else I can do financially but sell carved figures which I've been too stressed to do. This is consuming my mind to the point where I'm just hanging out at the restaurant hoping she'll come by and me and my boss are both kind of going a little crazy. He opened up on a prayer and also needs this income.

We can't open without inspection where we live. It almost feels unfair. I understand the place needs to be inspected before customers enter, but like- this 2-3 week ghosting with no hear back (it would be different if she'd just leave us some form of message) while my boss has to keep the lights on and keep pouring money into the business with no income while I run out of time- it just feels wrong.

I've given up searching but I figured it wouldn't hurt to ask. Not expecting anything much at all.

I'm struggling to find a bra that

- is contoured and preferably doesn't have underwire, it causes me pain, but I'm desperate at this point.

- Has wide or padded straps- I can't with the little thin elastic ones- my chest is heavy and they dig into my shoulders and cause pain.

- Plunge or lowline. I want support, but not coverage. Having my cleavage covered makes me uncomfortable, and it causes immense sweating, odor, rashes, and my chest needs to be able to breath. I've been told I also look like I have a 'uniboob' in bralettes/sports bras. I prefer deep cuts. Most of my shirts are low V's or scooped.

- I want my chest to look full and supported, not smushed flat.

- Back strap has 2-3 clasps (ig worst case scenario I can DIY that) and isn't thin/digs in.

- at least 90% natural materials.

Tbh I promised myself I'd go bra free, and it's been amazing, but now I'm working temporarily at a place where a bunch of old fashion and purity centric people are customers, and I don't want to cost the business as I'm front desk. But the bras I used to wear are too big now, plastic, and cut into me SO bad today, just from wearing for an hour, and I can still feel it.

The amount of all natural and sustainable bathingsuit brands is growing on the market!

Hemp huggers, jungmaven, wool&, beachcandy organics, Natasha Tonic, Swimm, Zubek, Swim Good, Muxima Beachwear, Indie Attire (Handmade in Hawaii), Simply Merino...

I'm still trying to find brands that are plus size friendly for the chest region... but there's a lot of options now!

The amount of all natural and sustainable bathingsuit brands is growing on the market!

Hemp huggers, jungmaven, wool&, beachcandy organics, Natasha Tonic, Swimm, Zubek, Swim Good, Muxima Beachwear, Indie Attire (Handmade in Hawaii), Simply Merino...

I'm still trying to find brands that are plus size friendly for the chest region but there's a lot of options now!

I've been seeing a massive influx in this sub and experienced:
- Refund policy ruined (denying refunds damaged items)
- Return Scams (Amazon claiming they do returns then denying returns of unopened items + denying refunds when the item you returned for being damaged is damaged...)
- Bad updates, not giving delivery or route information.
- Delays on over night, two day, ECT, even if you paid extra to rush it...

So... What happened? I've been a prime member for five years and have almost never had issues and theres a noticable increase in issues in the sub.

Usually there's some policy change, management shift, sponsorship/support pull out, ECT documented that causes these problems. Does anybody have the scoop?

I got a two day delivery for an item I need for work tomorrow. I go in at 11:30 AM and I have another item also for work coming at 7-11 AM so I'm hoping it'll show up with that...

Insane how it never came and they didn't put it down as delayed or anything... Really frustrating.

Edit: So much for 2 day... It'll now be here tomorrow 🙄

I got a two day delivery for an item I need for work tomorrow. I go in at 11:30 AM and I have another item also for work coming at 7-11 AM so I'm hoping it'll show up with that...

Insane how it never came and they didn't put it down as delayed or anything... Really frustrating.

I've been a prime member for about 5 years now.

I've done several returns, gotten a few refunds for things that came severely out of sorts, and I've never had an issue with associates except for two times.

One when they claimed they issued me a refund and then five different associates played duck duck goose with me over the thirty days claiming they issued it. Then my 30 days expired and they told me I was ineligible for refund. Ever since I politely demand email proof of the conversation.

However, chat support has been getting harder and harder to find in settings.

This, however, was NEW for me.

I'm an herbalist and have an apothecary. I've bought and returned various tinctures + essential oils with no issue (changes in recipes = no longer needing some of the options)

I've always thought; Well better safe than sorry and if I don't need it I can return it.

I just tried this again with a root tincture. When I purchased, it said eligible for return.

It's been about four days, I was busy, and finally went to start my return. It's unopened, and yet when I selected 'unopened ➡️ no longer needed' I was met with a page saying it was ineligible for return.

I went to support. Once I bought an item that wasn't available to return because it came rotten and they issued me a refund on the sellers behalf. While I'd never had a returnable item become ineligible for return, I figured this would go the same way. It was only $14. I wasn't expecting any trouble.

The bot was immediately different. It wasn't listening to me or even attempting communication or comprehension like it used to. It would BAR ME from speaking by removing the text box? With no buttons to click? And would tell me to 'go back to support center' and my second go it tried to force me to upload photos of damage even though I explicitly said it wasn't damaged. And REMEMBERED that when I restarted a new chat. It literally went "I see we have requested photos from you. Please upload them to proceed." And barred me from speaking. I've NEVER had it do that to me.

So I requested to speak with an associate.
The associate 'claimed she needed a specialist'... They've never needed a specialist to give me refunds or fixed return store info before. The specialist lied to my face and said very coldly "This item is ineligible for refund." "It is ineligible." Despite me telling him repeatedly it's not right to claim something can be returned and then refuse when it's unopened and undamaged which is the best case scenario for returns. He said it couldn't be returned BECAUSE it's not damaged??

Usually by now they would have offered a refund. It was $14 so I was expecting it. But he hadn't offered so I asked. He said four times issuing refunds were 'outside his capabilities' in a dry curt tone in short sentences even after I told him I'd recieved refunds from 'non specialists' before.

He dismissed me and outright said he could not help me in any way shape or form which I've NEVER had support do before.

Needless to say that's the first time I've been rude to an associate by abruptly saying the company is going down hill, leaving chat, and also the first time I've ever given a one star review let alone in every box.

I guess I didn't really lose much money, it's only $14, and I get to keep the backup bottle, but god that left a bad taste in my mouth and now I'm wary about continuing to use the platform. I wonder if they have me flagged for doing to many returns or something, or if everyone got this 'update.'

EDIT: I contacted ebay and the guy on the phone looked and agreed with me, and he said my refund is being issued and will be in my account in 1-3 days.

Firstly: This is a HUGE second hand company who makes a profit buying books from people for like $1-2 then reselling them for $10-40. This book is hard to find so I had limited options and it needed to be ebay so I could put it on a payment plan (struggling college student.)

I'm in school for art and design and a show was a huge inspiration for me so I wanted the art book to study the clothing design process.

All other of the six or so listings were $11 or so.

This one was $25 ($30 after shipping and tax)

On their official website, it said hardcover, shipping was free, but no payment plan. Staff told me they DID have an ebay page, sent me a link, and I searched it up. They only had one copy, it was the same price, and when I checked 'Description' it said hardcover. So I bought it.

Then I saw backing out of search that suspiciously, nobody else, even Amazon, had a hardcover version. I went back to the listing immediately to double check, and in the description it said hardcover but when I clicked on product details underneath description and scrolled down, it said paperback.

I was appalled and realized I spent $20 extra dollars for a book that wasn't even in the best condition and cancelled. All in less than 3 minutes.

The seller immediately rejected and said they 'shipped it already.' 😐🤨

I told them this was fraudulent and apalling and that I'd open an INAD claim. Do I have grounds here?

I don't want my account getting banned if I pursue an INAD but this does feel like an INAD case because it was so misleading. I need every cent I can pinch, I can't stomach the idea of paying that extra money for nothing.