u/AKGuloGulo

Relevant context; I'm a trans woman and came out to my mom in 2021. She claims to support me, but has been steadily going deeper into the MAGA world, proudly supporting people who want me gone.

Eventually I sent her a letter (she's lived out of state for 20 years). I told her I didn't feel her support meant anything when she voted for people who are making my life harder and more terrifying. I said I was afraid of losing her. Her response was "if you lose me, it's your doing" along with a lot of angry things that completely caught me off guard. Things that made me feel like she never really valued me like she claimed, things that made me feel like I was a bad kid, that I'm not worth enough to her to try and work things out. I was honestly in shock. I never replied. I went no contact after that, a bit over a year ago now.

It's been hard knowing I've hurt her, but she's hurt me. For most of my life, really. I'm leaving out the lifelong abuse, neglect, trauma, just to focus on the fact that she is clearly hurt by me confronting her and going NC.

I don't know if she will ever change her ways again, but if her morale for who she supports is hurt, if she's less likely to be vocal in her support for these people, did I do a good thing by going NC? Have I made a difference? I guess I just want to feel like I got something out of losing my mom.