u/Aathrowawayay

Is my reason not to date again wrong. Or common?.

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Hi I'm a 38M and I've finally moved past a really rough breakup from 5 years ago, but I'm feeling lost and lonely.

I was with my ex-fiancée 37F for 5 years. We were engaged and planning our wedding when I found out she was having an affair with her boss. It was a huge shock because she always said she was happy. I tried to forgive her, but then she. Told that our son wasn't mine out of guilt i didn't beileve her but a dna a test proved she was right. Turns out, she'd always had feelings for the guy she cheated with, and as soon as his marriage ended, she ended things with me without telling me i ended up finally leaving.

It was brutal, but I've worked through it. I can even talk to them now without fighting. Despite the pain, I respect them both. My son is still in my life, and I love him deeply, but seeing him brings up a lot of hurt too. I can't believe it all happened, but I'm not bitter. Life's too short for that, and I genuinely wish them well.

Now, I'm just bored and lonely. I see my son twice a week, which is great, but the rest of the time I'm struggling. I'm at a point where I don't think I'll ever date again because I don't think I can trust anyone again and is it even worth it..

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u/Aathrowawayay — 4 days ago

How to deal with being lonely how can i trust people to date again

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Hi I'm a 38M and I've finally moved past a really rough breakup from 5 years ago, but I'm feeling lost and lonely.

I was with my ex-fiancée 37F for 5 years. We were engaged and planning our wedding when I found out she was having an affair with her boss. It was a huge shock because she always said she was happy. I tried to forgive her, but then she. Told that our son wasn't mine out of guilt i didn't beileve her but a dna a test proved she was right. Turns out, she'd always had feelings for the guy she cheated with, and as soon as his marriage ended, she ended things with me without telling me i ended up finally leaving.

It was brutal, but I've worked through it. I can even talk to them now without fighting. Despite the pain, I respect them both. My son is still in my life, and I love him deeply, but seeing him brings up a lot of hurt too. I can't believe it all happened, but I'm not bitter. Life's too short for that, and I genuinely wish them well.

Now, I'm just bored and lonely. I see my son twice a week, which is great, but the rest of the time I'm struggling. I'm at a point where I don't think I'll ever date again because I don't think I can trust anyone again don't know if it's even worth it.

What should I do? How do I fill my life with something meaningful? Any advice on things i can do.

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u/Aathrowawayay — 4 days ago

Finally Over My Ex, But Lost and Lonely.

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Hi I'm a 38M and I've finally moved past a really rough breakup from 5 years ago, but I'm feeling lost and lonely.

I was with my ex-fiancée 37F for 5 years. We were engaged and planning our wedding when I found out she was having an affair with her boss. It was a huge shock because she always said she was happy. I tried to forgive her, but then she. Told that our son wasn't mine out of guilt i didn't beileve her but a dna a test proved she was right. Turns out, she'd always had feelings for the guy she cheated with, and as soon as his marriage ended, she ended things with me without telling me i ended up finally leaving.

It was brutal, but I've worked through it. I can even talk to them now without fighting. Despite the pain, I respect them both. My son is still in my life, and I love him deeply, but seeing him brings up a lot of hurt too. I can't believe it all happened, but I'm not bitter. Life's too short for that, and I genuinely wish them well.

Now, I'm just bored and lonely. I see my son twice a week, which is great, but the rest of the time I'm struggling. I'm at a point where I don't think I'll ever date again because I don't think I can trust anyone again.

What should I do? How do I fill my life with something meaningful? Any advice on things i can do.

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u/Aathrowawayay — 4 days ago