u/AbandonYourPost

Okay maybe not impossible but there are not many! I have like 4 male avatars that I actually don't mind using and the rest are either female or randoms (non-human). Ironically one of the male avatars is a female but I customized it to look male with baggier cloth options because the fidelity is higher and the body is much more dynamic.

I like wearing both male and female avis for different reasons but male avi's desperately need some love and innovation.

Not one to chase metas all the time but I also don't want to waste precious materials experimenting until I at least have a solid build. Currently working on a burn build with Boom!Boom! but this was based off a year old recommendation I found.

Been together with my current GF for 2 years. She is my best friend and I do love her but I also am looking at us long term and there is just so much that doesn't match up in terms of what we want.

For example, she is already talking about having children. I think that is fine to understand what we will want in the future but it's certainly putting the horse before the carriage. We still need to move in with each other and see how that goes. Not to mention financially we are not even remotely in a position to handle such a task. She feels like I don't want kids when I am just trying to be responsible about it.

Another thing is how she wants to travel around the country (USA) in a travel van in the next few years. I think that is a great and could be an amazing experience but it would be hard since I just got a promising on-site office job while she is remote. She also is not remotely equipped to deal with it. We went camping for 2 days recently and I had to do most of everything. I was happy to help of course but she couldn't do most things. And it's fine not to know everything but you'd think this would be a wake up call to learn more but she hasn't.

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Lastly, her political views. Ever since we dated she never once talked about politics other than the fact that she said how she doesn't get involved and how voting doesn't matter. This entire time I thought that she never voted once in her life. She knows I am very passionate about politics because when you boil it down those are your values as a person and it has a real effect on people's lives. You don't need to let it consume your life but it needs to be taken seriously. I've always respected her opinion b/c I know politics can be nasty (especially now) but I just learned last night that she has voted for YEARS.

I confronted her about it and she acted like she thought I knew. What bothered me was how she not only hid it from me but the more she talked the less sense she made. She doesn't believe voting matters yet votes. I asked why and she said "because woman fought for my right to do it so it's out of respect" which left a shocked look on my face. Then she brought up an example of how voting makes a change yet still would denounce it's effectiveness in the same sentence.

Basically I was surprised because she hid something from me and seems to vote based on "vibes". She said talking about politics is very private and she did not want to say who or what she voted for in the past to me, her partner. She comes from a conservative family so I am already guessing what she voted towards. She tried explaining how she does research on who she votes for but only the day before voting. There is just so much to unpack here. Not just because we don't align politically but because of her thought process as a grown adult.

I really care about her and she has been great but there are so many values that genuinely shock me and make me doubt our future.