AITA for being disappointed with my bachelorette?
Getting married summer 2026. The wedding is Local for my friends however everyone else has to travel as they don’t live in the city. Just had my bachelorette in the Caribbean. I knew everyone was travelling so I covered the cost of the air Bnb. Also got them multiple cute personalized gifts (useful for future use). I’m also paying for all the bridesmaids hair/makeup and food day of wedding. They purchased decorations and tshirts for the group and me.
To add - I polled all my friends to ask where they wanted to go and provide local options that wouldn’t require too much travel. They all chose destination.
The reason I’m disappointed is because I ended up covering the cost of all the meals (just putting it on my card and we’re going to split) but not one girl offered to cover any of the meals/drinks. Legit not even a shot. Everyone is in 30’s, makes good money and no kids. I thought since I was covering the air Bnb (approx $3000 total for the weekend) they’d offer to cover 1-2 meals for me or something. I know flights were expensive (everyone paid about 1000-1200 to be there) but some used points. Meals were expensive but again split amongst 4 people I don’t think is terrible. I wasn’t expecting all meals to be covered but i thought they might offer to cover one of them? Or even the groceries for the weekend? Or the one bottle of wine we drank as a group at home?
To me bachelorette is supposed to be covered by the girls normally. That’s what I’ve always done for my friends. Now I know with vacations and doing destinations the expectation is everyone covers themselves but genuinely I’m really disappointed and surprised they didn’t even offer to cover even just one meal or even one DRINK especially since I covered the air Bnb. AITA for having this expectation?