u/Academic-Shelter-754

My dads 86 lives alone and pretty independent still. Walks daily drives himself to store sharp as hell but stubborn about getting old. He flat out says no to any medical alert device thinks its for weak people. I worry sick about falls when he's alone no ones around. Tried talking emergencies he shuts it down calls it fearmongering. What finally might work is framing as fall detection watch or medical alert watch that looks like normal watch keeps his freedom no hovering family.

Anyone deal with this tried a specific watch that worked? Kind of desperate for ideas as he's not budging.

this guilt about my aging mom eats at me and nobody really talks about it enough. I live about 90 minutes away, got a full time job, kids and all that, so I can't just drop everything to be there 24/7. For months I felt like the worst daughter, picturing her alone if something happens at night. Got her one of those medical alert watches with fall detection recently, not a fix all but knowing it calls help if she falls at 3am with her info ready, that eased something in me a bit but it doesn't stop the worry completely though.

Fall detection keeps coming up when I look at medical alert watches for my dad. But honestly i'm skeptical as hell.

Some reviews say the fall detection watch goes off all the time for nothing like bending over. Others mention it missed a real fall and no alert happened. Then there are those stories where a medical alert watch actually called for help and saved someone.

My dad is 78 and lives by himself 400 miles from here. He's always been independent but lately he mentioned a couple slips in the kitchen and he's not as steady on his feet. I call him everyday but its hard to check on him that far away and driving there every weekend isn't realistic with work.

I keep thinking what if he falls and no ones around for hours or days. Seen some ads for fall detection watches and medical alert watches that could call help automatically. Anyone have experience with those? Do they actually work or are they gimmicks? Cost anything decent? Or any other ideas to stop worrying so much without moving him closer which he wouldn't go for anyway.

Just venting and looking for advice thanks.