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Hey all, so I want to know with the added financial flexibility of not having kids, how do you find that changes the way you look at money?

For example, do you find yourself prioritizing different things than your friends with kids? Maybe it’s travel, retiring earlier, buying a home in a location you want to live, investing more, working less, or even just having a bigger financial cushion.

I’m interested in how being childfree has impacted your relationship with money. Has it changed your long-term goals or the way you define financial success?

Hey all, so I want to know with the added financial flexibility of not having kids, how do you find that changes the way you look at money?

For example, do you find yourself prioritizing different things than your friends with kids? Maybe it’s travel, retiring earlier, buying a home in a location you want to live, investing more, working less, or even just having a bigger financial cushion.

I’m interested in how being childfree has impacted your relationship with money. Has it changed your long-term goals or the way you define financial success?

Hey all, so I want to know with the added financial flexibility of not having kids, how do you find that changes the way you look at money?

For example, do you find yourself prioritizing different things than your friends with kids? Maybe it’s travel, retiring earlier, buying a home in a location you want to live, investing more, working less, or even just having a bigger financial cushion.

I’m interested in how being childfree has impacted your relationship with money. Has it changed your long-term goals or the way you define financial success?

To all the DINKs out there, do you find being childfree has certain benefits that are built in that lead to having a stronger relationship? I’ve found that the extra time and the lack of stressors that come with kids means that childfree couples have more time to focus on themselves, and this often times leads to stronger relationships.

It’s not a silver bullet but I think there is definitely a correlation.

To all the DINKs out there, do you find being childfree has certain benefits that are built in that lead to having a stronger relationship? I’ve found that the extra time and the lack of stressors that come with kids means that childfree couples have more time to focus on themselves, and this often times leads to stronger relationships.

It’s not a silver bullet but I think there is definitely a correlation.

To all the DINKs out there, do you find being childfree has certain benefits that are built in that lead to having a stronger relationship? I’ve found that the extra time and the lack of stressors that come with kids means that childfree couples have more time to focus on themselves, and this often times leads to stronger relationships.

It’s not a silver bullet but I think there is definitely a correlation.

Hey all! I’m building a childfree dating app and a week ago I asked everyone what their top biggest green flags were on a date that lets you know they are in fact childfree. I thought the responses were interesting, so I wanted to flip the script and ask you all what your top red flags were. My top 3 are:

1. They don’t walk the walk. While they say outwardly they don't want children, their behavior doesn’t reflect this position (ex dropping hints that suggest otherwise).
2. They answer the kids question with hedging. Instead of a definitive no to the question they hedge with things like “I’m thinking about it” or “I don’t want kids…right now”.
3. No one in their life knows they are childfree. If it is only you they’ve told, you might want to dig a little deeper as to why that is.

Let me know what your top red flags are when dating!

Hey all! I’m building a childfree dating app and a week ago I asked everyone what their top biggest green flags were on a date that lets you know they are in fact childfree. I thought the responses were interesting, so I wanted to flip the script and ask you all what your top red flags were. My top 3 are:

1. They don’t walk the walk. While they say outwardly they don't want children, their behavior doesn’t reflect this position (ex dropping hints that suggest otherwise).
2. They answer the kids question with hedging. Instead of a definitive no to the question they hedge with things like “I’m thinking about it” or “I don’t want kids…right now”.
3. No one in their life knows they are childfree. If it is only you they’ve told, you might want to dig a little deeper as to why that is.

Let me know what your top red flags are when dating!

Hey all! I’m building a childfree dating app and I’ve been asking cf folks what their biggest green flags on a date are that lets you know that they are in fact childfree. The top 3 I’ve come across so far are:

1. They’ve been childfree for a while. Consistency in their childfree position is a strong indicator that this is a belief they’ve held for a while and not just a passing moment.
2. The people in their life know. Someone who has been clear with the important people in their life has been living this position, not just thinking about it in passing.
3. They can talk about it without defensiveness. If they can discuss this part of their life openly, chances are it is a deeply held belief.

Let me know if you have any other green flags you look for when dating.

Hey all! I’m building a childfree dating app and I’ve been asking cf folks what their biggest green flags on a date are that lets you know that they are in fact childfree. The top 3 I’ve come across so far are:

1. They’ve been childfree for a while. Consistency in their childfree position is a strong indicator that this is a belief they’ve held for a while and not just a passing moment.
2. The people in their life know. Someone who has been clear with the important people in their life has been living this position, not just thinking about it in passing.
3. They can talk about it without defensiveness. If they can discuss this part of their life openly, chances are it is a deeply held belief.

Let me know if you have any other green flags you look for when dating.

I want to hear your favorite Bingos! I’ll go first:

• “You’ll change your mind”: The OG bingo. It’s kind of you to share your powers of prescience sir.
• “You’ll regret it”: Not likely. I regret this conversation though.
• “You just haven’t met the right person”: The right person travels the world and spends money on caviar and me.

Let me know your top contenders!

I want to hear your favorite Bingos! I’ll go first:

• “You’ll change your mind”: The OG bingo. It’s kind of you to share your powers of prescience sir.
• “You’ll regret it”: Not likely. I regret this conversation though.
• “You just haven’t met the right person”: The right person travels the world and spends money on caviar and me.

Let me know your top contenders!

So as the childfree movement continues to grow I've been wondering, do you think society as a whole has begun to distinguish between "childfree" and "childless"?

I would say before 2020 most of society just conflated the two things as "people who just don't want kids". Obviously theres a difference though:

Childless: People who want kids but don't have them.

Childfree: People who don't want kids and choose to not have them.

Do you think people outside the cf community are starting to distinguish between the two? Or do you still find yourself catching strays and being labeled as childless?

Hi all, I’ve spent a lot of time in childfree communities over the past year and one thing I’ve noticed is that there seems to be a meaningful overlap between people who identify as childfree and people who identify somewhere on the ace spectrum.

I’m curious how people here think about that relationship. Do you feel the two communities have a lot in common, or are they often lumped together when they really shouldn’t be?

So I a question for those of you who have ever dated someone that was not childfree. Do you find family pressure around kids seems to get more intense if the other partner is not cf?

For example, if you’re single or dating someone who also doesn’t want kids there is the “out of sight out of mind” aspect, and they tend to let you do your thing. But if the person you’re dating is on the fence this provides an opening and it seems like the whole “when are you giving us grandkids” pops up more.

Has anyone else encountered this, and if so how did you deal with the family pressure on your relationship?

Hi all. I’m building a childfree dating/friendship app called Not4Kids and we’re about to jump into our strategic marketing. Nothing crazy just putting together some TikTok/Youtube/Instagram ads. I’m trying to think of what kind of music to incorporate into the ads and create a consistent through-line for our brand, so I thought I would ask it here.

What musical genre evokes that feeling of freedom and levity of being childfree to you?

For context on our brand you can check out our website at https://not4kids.app/ . We’re trying to go for a more upscale feel (think a luxury vacation brochure). Interested to hear your thoughts.

Also if you’re interested you can sign up for our waitlist on our website. We launch at the end of the year!

Hi all, I’m very excited to share that after an overwhelmingly positive response from this sub, I’ve decided to take the plunge and start building Not4Kids, which is a dating app designed exclusively for the childfree community.

I know the failure of mainstream dating apps has been a recurring theme in this sub for a while. It’s always been wild to me that despite demographic studies showing childfree people comprise a growing section of the population, mainstream dating apps treat it as an afterthought.

My goal is to solve this by building out an app where everyone starts from the baseline of “I don’t want kids”. Our app has a dedicated onboarding process that asks deep dive questions about a person's CF lifestyle and allows you to report bad actors to help carve out a space dedicated for childfree people.

Anyways I’m stoked to be building this! Feel free to drop me a line if you have any questions or visit my bio for links to our webpage: our waitlist is now open!

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