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I’m building a childfree dating/friendship app called Not4Kids and looking at how diverse the spread of people are, I’m wondering how being childfree affects where people choose to live. Do you all find yourself prioritizing completely different things (walkability, nightlife, travel access, smaller homes etc) than your non-childfree friends when determining where it is you eventually want to settle?

I'm building a childfree dating/friendship app (Not4Kids) and I'm curious when each of you realized that you were actually childfree. Did you always know? Was there a specific moment when you realized it was a decision you’d made? Or did you just gradually become more certain as you got older?

Also, for those of you
who were undecided for a while, what ultimately gave you the push? Was it one
particular experience, or did the idea of having kids simply feel less and less
like the life you wanted over time?

For some of my older childfree folks, have you found yourself building a “chosen” family alongside your biological family? I think as you get older, long-term friendships can become some of the most dependable relationships in your life, especially if those friends are childfree too. How has your definition of family changed as you’ve gotten older?

I want to hear who your favorite childfree celebs are! My top ones are probably:

• Christopher Walken – Amazing career and publicly stated that kids would hold him back
• Dolly Parton – Not a country music fan personally, but her legacy is undeniable
• Betty White – Knew herself well enough to choose the life that made her happiest
• Seth Rogen – Modern and vocal about his childfree life. Decent actor too
• John Cena – Cool to hear a man speak out about being Childfree.

I want to hear who your favorite childfree celebs are! My top ones are probably:

• Christopher Walken – Amazing career and publicly stated that kids would hold him back
• Dolly Parton – Not a country music fan personally, but her legacy is undeniable
• Betty White – Knew herself well enough to choose the life that made her happiest
• Seth Rogen – Modern and vocal about his childfree life. Decent actor too
• John Cena – Cool to hear a man speak out about being Childfree.

Hey all! I want to hear about when you came to the realization that you were childfree.

Was it a sudden epiphany? A gradual progression over time? What were the circumstances and triggers to that led you to understanding that you didn’t want kids?

Hey all! I want to hear about when you came to the realization that you were childfree.

Was it a sudden epiphany? A gradual progression over time? What were the circumstances and triggers to that led you to understanding that you didn’t want kids?

Hey all, so I want to know with the added financial flexibility of not having kids, how do you find that changes the way you look at money?

For example, do you find yourself prioritizing different things than your friends with kids? Maybe it’s travel, retiring earlier, buying a home in a location you want to live, investing more, working less, or even just having a bigger financial cushion.

I’m interested in how being childfree has impacted your relationship with money. Has it changed your long-term goals or the way you define financial success?

Hey all, so I want to know with the added financial flexibility of not having kids, how do you find that changes the way you look at money?

For example, do you find yourself prioritizing different things than your friends with kids? Maybe it’s travel, retiring earlier, buying a home in a location you want to live, investing more, working less, or even just having a bigger financial cushion.

I’m interested in how being childfree has impacted your relationship with money. Has it changed your long-term goals or the way you define financial success?

Hey all, so I want to know with the added financial flexibility of not having kids, how do you find that changes the way you look at money?

For example, do you find yourself prioritizing different things than your friends with kids? Maybe it’s travel, retiring earlier, buying a home in a location you want to live, investing more, working less, or even just having a bigger financial cushion.

I’m interested in how being childfree has impacted your relationship with money. Has it changed your long-term goals or the way you define financial success?

To all the DINKs out there, do you find being childfree has certain benefits that are built in that lead to having a stronger relationship? I’ve found that the extra time and the lack of stressors that come with kids means that childfree couples have more time to focus on themselves, and this often times leads to stronger relationships.

It’s not a silver bullet but I think there is definitely a correlation.

To all the DINKs out there, do you find being childfree has certain benefits that are built in that lead to having a stronger relationship? I’ve found that the extra time and the lack of stressors that come with kids means that childfree couples have more time to focus on themselves, and this often times leads to stronger relationships.

It’s not a silver bullet but I think there is definitely a correlation.

To all the DINKs out there, do you find being childfree has certain benefits that are built in that lead to having a stronger relationship? I’ve found that the extra time and the lack of stressors that come with kids means that childfree couples have more time to focus on themselves, and this often times leads to stronger relationships.

It’s not a silver bullet but I think there is definitely a correlation.

Hey all! I’m building a childfree dating app and a week ago I asked everyone what their top biggest green flags were on a date that lets you know they are in fact childfree. I thought the responses were interesting, so I wanted to flip the script and ask you all what your top red flags were. My top 3 are:

1. They don’t walk the walk. While they say outwardly they don't want children, their behavior doesn’t reflect this position (ex dropping hints that suggest otherwise).
2. They answer the kids question with hedging. Instead of a definitive no to the question they hedge with things like “I’m thinking about it” or “I don’t want kids…right now”.
3. No one in their life knows they are childfree. If it is only you they’ve told, you might want to dig a little deeper as to why that is.

Let me know what your top red flags are when dating!

Hey all! I’m building a childfree dating app and a week ago I asked everyone what their top biggest green flags were on a date that lets you know they are in fact childfree. I thought the responses were interesting, so I wanted to flip the script and ask you all what your top red flags were. My top 3 are:

1. They don’t walk the walk. While they say outwardly they don't want children, their behavior doesn’t reflect this position (ex dropping hints that suggest otherwise).
2. They answer the kids question with hedging. Instead of a definitive no to the question they hedge with things like “I’m thinking about it” or “I don’t want kids…right now”.
3. No one in their life knows they are childfree. If it is only you they’ve told, you might want to dig a little deeper as to why that is.

Let me know what your top red flags are when dating!

Hey all! I’m building a childfree dating app and I’ve been asking cf folks what their biggest green flags on a date are that lets you know that they are in fact childfree. The top 3 I’ve come across so far are:

1. They’ve been childfree for a while. Consistency in their childfree position is a strong indicator that this is a belief they’ve held for a while and not just a passing moment.
2. The people in their life know. Someone who has been clear with the important people in their life has been living this position, not just thinking about it in passing.
3. They can talk about it without defensiveness. If they can discuss this part of their life openly, chances are it is a deeply held belief.

Let me know if you have any other green flags you look for when dating.

Hey all! I’m building a childfree dating app and I’ve been asking cf folks what their biggest green flags on a date are that lets you know that they are in fact childfree. The top 3 I’ve come across so far are:

1. They’ve been childfree for a while. Consistency in their childfree position is a strong indicator that this is a belief they’ve held for a while and not just a passing moment.
2. The people in their life know. Someone who has been clear with the important people in their life has been living this position, not just thinking about it in passing.
3. They can talk about it without defensiveness. If they can discuss this part of their life openly, chances are it is a deeply held belief.

Let me know if you have any other green flags you look for when dating.

I want to hear your favorite Bingos! I’ll go first:

• “You’ll change your mind”: The OG bingo. It’s kind of you to share your powers of prescience sir.
• “You’ll regret it”: Not likely. I regret this conversation though.
• “You just haven’t met the right person”: The right person travels the world and spends money on caviar and me.

Let me know your top contenders!

I want to hear your favorite Bingos! I’ll go first:

• “You’ll change your mind”: The OG bingo. It’s kind of you to share your powers of prescience sir.
• “You’ll regret it”: Not likely. I regret this conversation though.
• “You just haven’t met the right person”: The right person travels the world and spends money on caviar and me.

Let me know your top contenders!

So as the childfree movement continues to grow I've been wondering, do you think society as a whole has begun to distinguish between "childfree" and "childless"?

I would say before 2020 most of society just conflated the two things as "people who just don't want kids". Obviously theres a difference though:

Childless: People who want kids but don't have them.

Childfree: People who don't want kids and choose to not have them.

Do you think people outside the cf community are starting to distinguish between the two? Or do you still find yourself catching strays and being labeled as childless?