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I’m flying into San Diego airport and meeting some friends in Tijuana at Tijuana Beach Promenade! What’s the best way to get there? Should i rent a car from the airport? Uber? What’s the cheapest and easiest way? Also what’s some nice food places we should visit around the area??

Well just as the title reads! I am American 28 white/mexican F marrying the love of my life Bengali M 34. We have been together for nearly 6 years and our relationship has been a dream as long as it does not involve family. We have been through so many life events together, traveled to so many places, been beside each other in loss of family members and there to celebrate each others graduations and promotions. I couldn’t be more excited to marry this man. But. I think I need some outside prospectives on what is acceptable to tolerate, and what’s not. His mom and sister have had a hard time getting used to the idea of me since the beginning. I kinda saw this coming because my fiancé had been living a lie back home. They had the impression he was religious and involved in the Bangladeshi community, which is he not. So when he met me and saw that I am a proud atheist from the Deep South and how I have a good relationship with my family despite them being southern Baptist, it encouraged him to be more open with his family about his daily living (doesn’t pray etc). That did not go well and it was blamed on the American. Who didn’t see that coming right? But it’s more than that, he encourages me to be myself around them, but that is absolutely not what they want. They want me to be a completely different person. I am not this mild mannered quiet individual who doesn’t speak up when something shitty is being said. It’s very much a clash of mindsets and culture and im having a hard time navigating. For example, the first time we all met, my fiance and I were living together (yes before marriage, yes we know that wasn’t going to go well, yes we had separate rooms while they were there). They seemed to accept us living together rather easy, but didn’t like that we weren’t married which I totally get. The stickiness comes when one night his sister starts screaming about how she doesn’t approve of us and what we are doing and how dare we travel together (we were all sitting at the table playing ludo so this shocked me). First she’s yelling towards me (I won’t say AT me but lots of aggressive points and gesture towards me) and then she’s yelling at my fiance. Now a little backstory about me, I come from generational poverty and abuse. Lots of screaming and throwing shit but I made it out and refuse to live like I did growing up. One of my biggest triggers is yelling. My fiance and I don’t yell at each other, we haven’t created a yelling household. So when she started going off, I snapped at her and told her not to yell and she needed to calm down. You would have thought I shot her in the leg. She took graveeeee offense that I, someone younger than her, said anything to her about her volume. So ever since this it’s been rocky. We don’t see them often so it doesn’t come up that much but now that we are getting married, I’ve been told they are getting my bridal saree but we are 2 months out from the wedding and I have not heard a thing about it..

My fiancé and I are moving to Lowell so I can go to grad school in August. We are having a hard time finding somewhere that has an elevator and provides parking (even if it’s paid). We would like to stay under $2500 all in. He will be working out of Bedford so we don’t mind living somewhere in the middle either. Any suggestions?? The Residence at Franco looks nice but they never have any availability 😔 Does anyone know anything about The Varnum?