I prioritize friends over having a relationship "just cause" and yet?
M22.
A lot of people complain about being "friendzoned" or something of sorts, and I wish it was the case for me. I weirdly get "crushzoned", people sometimes crush on me then abruptly cut me off when I say no.
I've always seen friendship as something special and valuable to be present in your life. I used to have friends and hanging out with them or even talking and having fun together was the best moments of my life. Mutual support, mutual understanding and such are so great. A genuine support system is even better.
I lost all my friends at once one day and ever since I tried to make new friends, it wasn't easy at all. I have SOME criteria that are basically for my safety since I'm 2 minorities at once, it's not too much just don't be racist and homophobic, at least have your heart in it I'll tell you if you say something weird and tell you why it's weird I don't bite. And I was looking regardless of gender or anything else.
I am not "conventionally attractive", I am chubbyish, face has scars from acne, not advancing on my own, just talking to people. Why the fuck people kept crushing on me? I am not negative when people feel this way but I reject them. What makes me truly upset is how they immediately cut me off because they can't bear being friends with me anymore, because romance is "something more" for them.
This really baffles me because to me it's always been just a different vector and not "more". I don't want romance or sex damn I need friends. Why don't people appreciate friendships?
