DA and Intimacy
Sorry if this is TMI, but this has been a burning question of mine since I have been reflecting on my relationship with a DA one month post discard.
Prior to meeting my DA, I was in a three year relationship with a somebody who i had a great sex life with. We didn’t workout for other reasons, but we were together so long, I thought that was just the norm.
Fast forward, I meet my DA (who I didn’t know was avoidant at the time). Over time I started to notice our sex life was VERY repetitive. Same position, same time of the day, once a week on the same day like clock work. A few months in, I brought this up because I started feeling like the lack of intimacy was causing me to feel a bit disconnected from him. He said he was just busy with work and didn’t really think about it outside of waking up on Saturday mornings. After this conversation…literally nothing changed at all. I just accepted that this is what it was going to be. We dated for one year before he discarded me, but this conversation happened about 4 months in.
I read a lot about people saying they had crazy good intimacy at the beginning and then it faded out. But did anybody experience this from the start? Looking back, I guess this was a huge red flag I just overlooked and chalked up to just having different sex drives.