In love with my best friend for 6 years. F/21. M/21
Honestly I’m not normally the type to go to Reddit to ask for advice but I feel like I just need clarification as to my relationship with my guy best friend.
We’re both 21 years old. We’ve known each other since 7th grade. Met eachother through a mutual friend who we’re not friends with anymore.
We first didn’t like each other at first and were considered enemies but as we got older we realized we had a lot in common with each other. We eventually became officially friends around the age of 17? But as we continue to get older we got more closer. Mind you I’ve had a crush on him since the age of 17 once we got closer so I decided to confess to him. As I confessed to him I found out he was actually talking to one of my friends at the time(who is not my friend anymore). But when I confessed he had used the “maybe if we weren’t friends first and I met you now we could’ve dated”. Now we’re both 21 and i thought I moved on from my feelings but NO. recently I have noticed he’s gotten more touchy and affectionate with me when we hang out. Sometimes we’re not sober (I’m not going to lie) and he tends to do it a lot. Our other friends who are present have taken notice and have pointed it out to me too so I know I’m not going crazy.
So for example we were hanging out at my place not sober and just hanging on the couch and I have two couches. My friend was sitting on the smaller two seater meanwhile me and him were sitting on the four seater. Sat RIGHT next to me in one of the corner. With a whole lot of space next to him.
He’s also had given me compliments and has come with me to family events and slowly my feelings have gotten deeper.
Now, the issue is my “FRIENDS” told him how I’ve been feeling while I was unaware and out of town and when they told him he simply responded with “I’ll talk to her about it and no I don’t feel like that for her”
Mind you this was in APRIL he said that. No conversation has happened.
So my friends are saying he basically just like the attention and I need to stop feeding it to him but some of my other friends have said that maybe he does notice something and he needs time to think about it. While OTHERS have said to drop him.
So I’m just asking for advice on what I should do.
Im going on week long trip with him and I’m nervous in how to act on this.