I was going to go on r/roastme today to feel bad about myself (which is very masochistic of me, I know😭). But this subreddit showed up on my feed today, and maybe this is what I needed instead. Despite feeling more uncomfortable on r/toastme than r/roastme, here I am. Also! I’m turning 20 in a week so maybe it’s good to hear nice things before my birthday and nice things before the new decade :)
Hey! For background, I'm a 19 year old female who is 5' 5'' and 173 pounds! I am very overweight and hate how the world treats me because of my body. Rather than a typical female fat distribution, I have been gifted with a large stomach and fat in my face. As a result I really want to lose weight in my early 20s so that I can experience life to the fullest. To say my social life is lack luster is an understatement. It makes me sad that I won't be able to experience life like everyone else my age who is at a healthy or skinny :(
Anyways a big thing I struggle with is social eating. It seems like every week I am going out to eat to spend time with people. At least 3-4 times a week I eat out with family and friends. This week I ate out 4 times, got a drink at dutch bros, ate out two times with friends, had lots of food at a 4th of July party, and will being eating out with my grandparents tmrw. I also struggle with emotional eating, and ate alot of left over cookies from my brothers bake sale while writing a final paper for a class. Not to mention at work the older women are always trying to feed me food, and cake on their birthdays. How do you combat all of this?
I’ve been talking to this guy for about 8 months online and he wants to meet up. He hasn’t seen my pictures in a solid 6 months since I deleted my dating profile. As a result, I’m nervous about meeting him in public. He is objectively more attractive than me, and I feel he may have forgotten what I look like. It gives me anxiety that he might not like what he sees, or people in public will be judging us. Does anyone have any tips for this? I’m trying to have the mindset that we might look like friends, but is this the best way to go about this? In general I’ve also been approaching the whole thing as us just being friends. Talking to him has been really awesome, so if all else fails I hope we maintain some sort of relationship. Romantic or platonic!
Am I missing out if I’ve never been to a proper college party? Currently going into my junior year and haven’t explored that part of college life at all! Sure I’ve been to birthday parties or potlucks but they all have been dry and have had maybe 5-10 people max. I’ve been invited to drink with a couple people in small settings, like 3-5 people, but I don’t trust people enough to drink with them. Plus I don’t have any close friends and don’t look like the average college student, which kind of contributes to this situation. Any thoughts are appreciated! Thanks!! :)
Hey! So this summer I started an internship at this clinic, and it’s very people facing. I’ve never had a job before this internship, and so the whole environment is pretty jarring, especially since I’m an introvert. I feel that my people skills are bad, and I’m not good at even saying hi and bye to patients without it sounding forced. For instance instead of saying “have a good one!” I’ll just say “bye.” Or instead of saying “hey how are you doing today” I say “hi, what’s your name?” A lot of the times I also feel like my head is burred in the patient charts and a computer instead of talking directly to patients. Plus I’m not the best at smiling without it being forced, unless it’s a genuine laugh or the patient smiles first. The current PT tech is moving to front desk soon, and so until the end of July and beginning of August I’ll be taking on her role as PT tech until I go back to school. The current PT tech is wonderful and all the patients love her, and I feel really bad that the patients will have me instead of her. I feel like a lot of patients dislike me compared to her, or maybe they are just scared/ confused by me since I’m so unconfident in myself. I have been there for a month so far, only two days a week, and I still haven’t caught on to all the exercises. And I frequently lose concentration and space out. Managing the many patients, not having the best people skills, and learning everything has been really challenging for me. What would you guys recommend to help patients have a better experience with me moving forward? How do I get more confident in this role?