u/Adventurous-End4330

I'm a "burdon" on the rest of the team

So I started this job in May. Its at a local grocery, whole foods type place. I was originally hired to be a deli clerk. You know, the guy where if you see a potato salad behind glass and you want it, I'm the guy who serves it, weighs it, and puts a silly little sticker on it so the cashier can scan it.

About a week after I started, they wanted to know if I wanted to do prep. I was like "sure I've done lots of prep no problem." Well, someone quit recently, so they're now switching me to just prep, and then hiring a new deli clerk. Well the moment they decided that, my manager went on vacation. While she was on vacation, people kept getting sick, and I kept having to cover for the deli. Most of the time I would show up for a prep shift, then in the middle of the shift they would switch me back to deli. Meanwhile, I've barely been trained or had any practice on the stuff I need to do in prep.

Then, my manager comes back... She told me "well you've done prep for a month so now I expect you to be able to do things just as fast as everyone else." Literally right before she went on vacation, she told me not to worry about how long things take.

Most things I haven't been trained on, and many of the things I have been trained on, Ive only done once. Not to mention every time I get trained on something, someone else will say the way I did it (the way I was literally just trained) was wrong.

This week, my manager pulled me aside and said something on the lines of "you aren't doing things fast enough and it's putting stress on the rest of the team." To me that sounds like "you're being a burden on everyone else." Then she proceeds to basically nitpick every single task I do, all week. Every time she sees me she just stares and waits for me to do something she can criticize.

Its making me feel like if I don't go fast enough, she might fire me, which hardly seems fair. I've had a handful of prep shifts before they threw me in, expecting me to be able to do it fast.

I've done lots of food prep jobs, and many of them have sucked, but at the very least they didn't expect me to know how to do things with telepathy. I don't care how I do it, but everywhere wants it done different. Some places use tomato slicers, some places slice by hand. Everywhere is different, and every machine is different. I still have to be shown what to do, even if I have experience.

On top of this, I'm pregnant and I'm fucking dying. My stamina is at an all time low and I was unable to take my adhd medications until this week.

I just... Feel like she's being unreasonable. And it makes me feel like shit. I really don't want to go to work, but I have to.

I'm just so burnt out and I'm in so much pain. I don't know if she's just being a bitch or actually threatening me. They're so understaffed that firing me would probably be a really stupid idea.

I just... Needed somewhere to vent. I keep going over it in my head and getting so mad.

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u/Adventurous-End4330 — 1 day ago

Weight makes no sense

So, I'm seven weeks and I've probably lost like one or two pounds, but I feel way bigger. Like my pants are tighter and I have stretchmarks already. I feel like my scale is trying to gaslight me at this point lol

I know its probably just bloating at this point, but does bloating give you stretchmarks???

I've read that you don't actually need to be eating more until the second trimester, but I'm eating a lot more just to keep my blood sugar up so my tummy doesn't throw a bitch fit. Why am I not gaining weight?? Is the fetus already needing more calories and it was just a lie??

I'm not really concerned, its just so strange at this point.

Has anyone else experienced this? Anyone else get stretchmarks so fast?

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u/Adventurous-End4330 — 2 months ago

So this weird thing happened

So... Weird thing happened yesterday...

So Im due December 31st, which would make my baby a capricorn. Guess what literally tried to break into our house?

An actual goat.

We have no idea where the goat came from, no one has any goats in our area to our knowledge, and it took us two hours to find somewhere that can babysit him while they find the owner.

I know its probably just a strange coincidence, but what timing. If this had happened like three months ago it would have meant nothing, but it did in fact happen now...

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u/Adventurous-End4330 — 2 months ago

My mother in law told me that "the baby is going to steal all your calcium so if you don't eat right your teeth will fall out." I'm already very prone to gingivitis and I thought if I was just really good on keeping up with my teeth hygiene I would be okay. I'm also taking prescription prenatals but... Do I need to be concerned?

She also told me if I strain to poop I'll give myself a hernia. I usually don't strain anyways, but again, do I need to be concerned? Hernias are fixable anyways right? I'm not totally fucked if I strain like once on accident?

I know I'm probably just being my anxious little self but she's kinda freaking me out

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u/Adventurous-End4330 — 2 months ago

So today is 5/5/26, and I am 5 weeks and 5 days pregnant. I just think that's cool and neat. Its also a holiday!

Also today is day one of morning sickness, and I'm strangely excited. I'm like "sweet they're still cooking in there."

I'm deciding to take this as a good sign from the universe. Anyone else have some fun signs from the universe to share?

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u/Adventurous-End4330 — 2 months ago

I'm!!! Pregnant!!! My wife and I have been trying via glorified turkey baster method (due to gay reasons), and this is our second try. I'm only 4 weeks and 5 days in so I'm probably counting my chickens too soon but I'm so excited and terrified!

I'm non binary and have a visible beard (and my skin hates when I shave so not happening). I'm kind of... Scared to look visibly pregnant. I'm scared of feeling on display, or having people look at me even more confused than they already do. I haven't told my in laws yet, but my mother in law still gets my pronouns wrong after 9 years together, so Im anticipating her getting my pronouns wrong way more now. We live with them right now to save for a house too, so its probably going to get very uncomfortable very fast

I'm an incredibly private and shy person, so I don't super wanna tell people, but I don't want to hide it either. I know I need to be brave and just tell the in laws, but Im so scared of navigating the situation. I just feel like they're gonna tell me what to do, or mention my body, or get my pronouns wrong, or perceive me in general.

I know I'm just being a coward and it's probably going to be fine. I know they care about me even though they don't always show it the way I want. Plus, they'll know if I have symptoms I need to freak out about because they've had three kids and are both in the medical field.

Any tips on telling others or navigating uncomfortable situations? Bonus points if you have trans and/or non binary advice

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u/Adventurous-End4330 — 2 months ago