u/Adventurous-Rush-389

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a long time, and before all of this started, we never had issues with UTIs. Wed do sexual things (not sex thi) in all kinds of situations—sometimes spontaneous, so he wouldn’t necessarily have just washed his hands—and I never got a UTI. I always pee after anything , drink plenty of water, and we’ve never had a problem until recently.

Then, out of nowhere, I got a UTI. Since then, I’ve had what seems like three UTIs in a short period of time. I honestly don’t know if they’re truly separate infections or if I never fully cleared the first one. I’ve been treated with antibiotics each time, and I just finished my most recent course.

During the times when I thought I was feeling better between infections, my boyfriend and I did some sexual stuff (not always intercourse), and now people are telling me we could have “massaged” bacteria back into my urinary tract or made things worse. Is that actually a thing? Could that have prevented me from healing, or are people just scaring me?

Right now, my biggest issue is that although I finished my antibiotics, I still have a lot of urinary urgency. I feel like I have to pee all the time, especially after drinking water. Is that normal after a UTI? How long did it take for your urgency to go away if your infection had cleared?

I’m honestly terrified that my relationship is suddenly going to be associated with constant UTIs. My boyfriend is very clean, and we went years without a single issue, so I don’t understand why this would suddenly start happening. I want to let myself fully heal before we do anything again, but I’m scared that once we go back to normal, it’ll all come back.

I’ve seen so many Reddit posts from people saying they suddenly started getting UTIs with a long-term partner after years of having no problems, but I rarely see anyone explain what the cause ended up being or what finally helped. If you’ve been through something similar, did you ever figure out why it started so suddenly? Were you able to get back to a normal sex life without recurring UTIs?

I’m honestly just really overwhelmed and scared right now, and I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through this.

Is something wrong with my body? Are we safe to have sex again after I jsut recently finished the course and am unsure if it’s all gone? I think I’m okay I’ve jsut forgotten what it feels like to be fully healed now YKWIM?

What do I do? Please has this HAPEOEND to any one else before what did they do to fix it

Mf BF and I have been together a long time and done things together and I never got a UTI and the environment was not forgiving or sometimes it wld be spontaneous so he wounding be able to wash his hands. And we never had any issues

One day recently I got a UTI all of a sudden, 3 times. idk if it’s recurring or if I haven’t cleared up the initial infection, but I pee afterwards all the time and I drink a lot of water.

And while I was healing, or in periods I thought I was fine in between these 3 UTIs I’ve had we’ve done stuff and ppl are scaring me that is “massaged” the bacteria in.

So why is this happening all of a sudden?

And I’ve just finished a dose of antibiotics, and I’m healed. But I still have so much urgency and I need to pee right after drinking water all the time. How do I make this urgency go away?

I really don’t know what to do. I keep seeing Reddit stories of ppl w similar situations where a partner they had no issues w suddenly do. And I never get an answer or what helped them in the threat so I’m freaking out. I don’t want to be like this I don’t want to struggle with having UTI’s BCS this is agonizing.

I want to let myself fully heal and then we get back to our normal thing but I’m horrified of that being what’s giving me these issues I’m actually scared I wanna cry.

For some background I’ve had this going on since late May.
Basically I got a UTI and I was put on macrobid, but of course I was a bit inconsistent with the medicine near the end and I felt better until it came back very shortly after so then I used jamp-fosfomyocin which is a medicine ur supposed to take on an empty stomach and I don’t think I was and I also ate right after? I felt better and I felt fine until I held my pee thsi one day and was in such agonizing pain. So of course it just came back, and I went to the doctor to get a urine culture done before this pee holding situation bcs I still felt a little tingle and got paranoid and wanted to double check. Results came back psotive, and I’m back on macrobid rn.

My boyfriend and I have been doing things for a long time now and I never had a UTI from any of it and arguably I was more likely to because the environment wasn’t exactly accommodating or super clean I think? Like idk sometimes it’d be sudden so he WOUDKNT have the chance to wash his hands and it was fine yk?

I think all that honestly rlly changed lately was that he started giving me head and we had sex once, but I didn’t get a uti for atleast 2 weeks or soemthing after that so I think the sex is unrelated? Idk like idk if I maybe WAS better after the medicine and when we’d do stuff together and it wld set me back or if all along I just wasn’t recovered.

He’s really hygienic though so like idk can it be him?

I’m a little confused about how conditional offers work at UCalgary and was hoping someone might have experience with this.

I applied to Neuroscience through early admission and was initially waitlisted. I was then accepted in the second round with an average of about 97.5%.
Most of my grades have stayed about the same since then, but a couple of courses have changed now that Grade 12 marks are replacing my Grade 11 marks.

When I was admitted, my English mark was 94%, but right now my pre-diploma mark is 89%, and honestly I’m expecting it to go down a bit more once diploma exam marks come out.

My current grades are roughly:
English 30-1: 89% (likely lower after diploma)
Math 30-1: 100%
Chemistry 30: 96% (replacing a 100% in Chem 20)
Biology 30: 97%
Religion/Social combined: 99%
So compared to when I was admitted, English has dropped from 94% to 89%, and Chemistry has gone from 100% (Chem 20) to 96% (Chem 30). Everything else is essentially the same.

My question is: how much of a drop would it take for UCalgary to revoke an offer? Are these kinds of changes a major concern if the rest of my grades have stayed strong?
I’m also confused because I saw the admission average for Neuroscience listed as 96.1%, but when I called admissions they told me it was closer to 97%.

Since diploma results come out in the middle of the summer, is it actually possible for UCalgary to withdraw an offer that late? Has anyone had experience with this?

Basically, my main question is: I’ve heard that with most conditional offers, your final average can usually drop by around 1–2% from the average you were admitted with and you’re still okay. Does that still apply if the competitive admission average for the program ended up increasing after you received your offer, or does that not matter once the offer has already been made?

Thanks!

Before anyone yells at me please don’t, I know it’s so so so stupid and I should expect it and I deserve it BVS I’m an idiot this all wasn’t EMANT to happen so PELASE don’t yell at me bcs of how stupid I am js ikkkkk.

Okay so basically my bf and I (both 18) accidentally had a bit of fun.

PREFACE INFO: I'm horrified bcs I was tracking my period for a while and then I stopped. But I THINK my cycle is 28 days. I got my period 8th of May and then it ended I wanna say the 13 th ISHHH????
The rzn im worried is bcs ik the morning after pill is supposed to delay ovulation but im scared I AM ovulating, and I haven't rily had any discharge come out yet to be able to tell from it yet. ALSO IT WAS SOOOO HOT WE WERE SWEATING

Everything was relatively scare free until he finished on his stomach and into my hands, so being the dutiful gf I licked it all up and off his stomach and my hands but I didn't wipe it or lick it off extremely diligently, so then I started giving him head for a while but let's say 5 minutes to be safe.

I was using my mouth and my hands ofc, and I was like playing with his baaallsddgbfguy if that's matters? like I was mainly using my hand and mouth together but I DID use my throat all the way and kept spitting into my hands to use as lube, THE REASON THIS MATTERS is bevause at the beggining I was using his semen as lube aswell so idk if it's safe to assume it was "wiped off" with oral.

And then he inserted himself YK

FOLLOWING THAT

He like omds I can't believe I'm airing this out to reddittttt hahahaahahahahah, anyways he inserted himself yk where ofc, and yk we had a nice time.
That's all

I was genuinely acting crazy and extremely paranoid so he offered to buy the the meoning after pill. He gotttt the "Contingency One" plan B and this was all probably an hour or less after this happened.

NOT DONE!!

After this little scare we go to the bathroom we both pee and like wash our hands ofc obviously, and then we YK, do it again. He inserts himself down in the mystical fairy land. This time I'm not worried abt bcs he peed and whenever he would almost get close l'd get off and he'd make sure to wipe really well and like attempted to try and wipe any precum before going back to it, and then he used his
fdimlimgersksoqisi hahahaha and then gave meeeee head jwsisiwjeodoosd whateverrrr

SO000 am I pregnant???? Is it over? Do I kms???