u/Adventurous-Work9781

Lets get married 179cm+ fit and kind man where are u

Edit: dont dm

Thank you in advance.
I will try my best to minimise my activity here.

Good idea or bad idea? Currently in Bom (dislike it)
Have some friends in Delhi and like the food there.
Thinking of looking for something remote but not sure how that would turn out to be

Andheri|Goregoan|Malad west
Cageless care. I will take good care of them
Only 1 or 2 cats from the same home at a time
Litter box/food to be provided by the parent
Duration:few days to 1-2 months
Cost: Free

Stay in Exchange for housework (excluding chaddi wash)

Men read my post, get triggered but they have a point. I should lower my standards. It will be of great benefit to me financially and otherwise.
The last date that I went to was on saturday and sunday. Being me I communicated badly. Did not talk about family jobs etc I told him I hated these questions he said then how are we going to know each other? But he didnt press furthur and ate dinner quitely. I was satisfied. Even let me put my feet on his shoes like a footstool.

Despite my nonchalant behaviour he wanted to meet with me again on sunday. I went to his house and slept there. I told him not to get horny and he seemed to get midly offended. But getting horny is normal for men sleeping with someone they are interested in. i didnt mean to insult him or anything I just wanted him to be relaxed like he would be with his friend. He was trying to cuddle which pissed me off. I told him I did not like it and wont talk to him further. Monday I tell him on text its best we dont communicate here on. Today he sends me “You are toxic, you got me attached and disappered” Bro it’s been two days meet tf. I did not reply. It will help him move on quicker.

But I know for a fact that if I lose my job he will take me in. That’s a big benefit. He verbally told me that I could live with him when I was cribbing about my job.

So again, how do I lower my standards so I can benefit from it?

Ps: dont moral police me. People benefit off of their mothers, spouse, partner etc all the time. I operate from a place of naivety which is why I havent been able to leverage many things in my life which otherwise a normal person totally would.

Putting my home stuff in storage or maybe selling it for good. Dunno if it’s a good idea but I feel like I havent been able to spend time with myself. In the last 2-3 years my hobbies came to halt, creative activities, being lazy without feeling guilty etc.

Now I am thinking I will just jump the gun and take a break. However what if this decision ends my giving me more stress than relaxing time.
Also not sure how long my friends would let me stay over until they get sick of me.

Anybody made a decision like this mid career with no back up?

Straight woman. Not bi or gay

Same guy I went to dinner with yesterday. Today he insisted we meet again so I agreed. I am on my period so no mu kala activities I also have some office work so he said I could do that around him. Sounds good 👍
Let’s see how it go. One thing that might be a challenge is what if he tries to kiss 🫩 I hope not. I hate kissing wissing. I hope I manage to get a good chunk of my work done.

Anything I should be worried about? Any tips and tricks to keep the vibe friendly and 18-?
Today I will tell him my name.

Edit: Watching movie. Probably last date. Life goes on

I will give you an idea about how my past dates would go.
We would decide the time and place and activity to do and time as well before meeting. Most of the time it was the guy who would take the initiative. He’d pick me up or ask me to meet at the place we agreed to. He’d book tables for the said time. We would have conversation then he’d drop me home or we’ll bar hop or go for ice cream depending on the vibe.

However the date I have just said “let’s meet and see” Today I specifically asked him but what are we gonna do. I dont want long walks in the crowd”. He said “tum milo toh pehle then we will decide”
Then I asked him if it was his first time going on a date? (Cause who the f goes on a date without plan)
He said sometimes its better to go without plan. Keeps thing more interesting. But I think that’s just laziness. I kinda feel he’d waste my time.

When the guy is excited and shows enthusiasm and effort that makes me want to date them otherwise I prefer staying home.

Experienced daters what do you think?
I like my dates planned. Is dating without planning a thing in Mumbai or am I being to rigid? I feel like he will just make me walk on the sand in the crowd for an hour and then I’d get irritated but have to keep a smilinh straight face in order not to dissapoint him and come back home.

Some positives about him:
He wanted to meet late at night 10pm+ when we first matched. I called him fboi but he did not get angry. He even said we could meet at 5pm if late night was a problem.
I think that way he is accomodating.

Edit: 1 hr after I posted this is saying he wants to come to my house. Wtf man I am not going

Edit2: Fight got over and we have decided to meet again. I agreed to meet him at his place then from then he said we will decide where to go

Edit3: Guys dont comment so much I am getting late for the date enjoying your comments. From 6 I pushed it to 8

Edit4: Date complete. Update’s on the new post

Lowkey getting a feeling he might not be my type.
The thing is I really hate bad dates like a lot. Like I’d rather go to work than go to a bad date.
What to wear on the beach incase the plan is on?

1. At work (people are toxic & hierarchial)
2. Reddit (For example in this sub idlidosa, obitouchiha & blackunicorn)
3. Home (if you are married to a bad partner)

I cant wait to grow more old that people completely ignore and let me be.

Everyday I dread going to work. I have only noticed this in the past 2 years. Before that I had friends at work. I dont know how to combat this. Constant job insecurity that I may lose my job any day. No big corpus. Emmergency fund wont last most than a couple of months in a city like mumbai(high rent)

Stopped doing my hobbies, stop socialising (except reddit), honestly am I just weak willed or maybe because job lifestyle doesnt match what I thought adulthood would be? First in my bloodline to corporate.

Should I just quit without any plan. I know some people who are still struggling to get a job for 1+ year. I cannot afford that at all. All my sips will come to a stop what to do 😔

Should I get married but I dont have dowry. I also believe marriage will harm my mental health cause of my individualistic lifestyle/personality.

Bro I cannot see light at the end of the tunnel.