u/Affectionate-Emu53

i had a friend, Georgia, for like 12 years.
basically we were besties since we were 10 years old. and then since 2022 we’ve kinda drifted a bit cos she moved far for her bachelors and masters. we found new friends n stuff but we still texted every few weeks (it was kind of like a she replied to me 3 weeks later and id reply 3 days later). it makes me sad cos im a pretty introverted person with little friends at all. i’m the kinda person where my bf is my only best friend and everyone else doesn’t share the same sort of sentimentality as i do, even though i try so hard to ask them to meet up or just chat in general. i think making friends is actually kinda difficult when u grow up

anyways, in december i had to go thru an abortion and i was terrified. during this i got into a bad mental space, kind of realising how the friends i did have, from uni or childhood, didn’t really care for me. they always met up without me or spoke about things i didn’t know (because i don’t live in their uni halls etc) and just came to this realisation that i felt super alone and unnoticed. i would text them to meet up and they’d never end up committing or just didn’t seem interested. it was to the point i genuinely felt like i started going crazy with how isolated and uncared for i felt so when i went thru my health problem in december i decided not to confide with anyone, i posted on my instagram story that i was logging off until i felt better again so to text my number if anyone needs me .

i told Georgia my health problem but said i didn’t really want to talk about it . she texted me a bit more often than usual because of it but i essentially couldn’t handle speaking with anyone so i just tried my best to reply and deal w my problem.m on my own. when i got better after a month i returned to instagram

then in february my friend georgia just stopped texting me out of nowhere. i asked her if she was ok, if smth was wrong, i was also concerned because she has an old dog and i thought maybe it had passed. however she kept liking mutuals posts on instagram and posting stories of her being fine and hanging out with people. then i had an opportunity to travel nearby her city a month and a half later. i considered asking if she wanted to meet since she was just 40 minutes away but she still hadn’t replied and was posting stories and i realised she really just didn’t want to speak to me anymore.

i accepted that. when i returned from my trip, i entered a really bad mental health issue and suffered from heartbreak and betrayal and depression caused by my partner. it is currently just one of my lowest times of my life. during this, i felt at my most loneliest, and i sent her a final message, a week ago, saying im not sure why you’re ignoring me but im sorry etc etc. i told her i wanted to meet and it hurts me that she doesn’t want to speak to me but fair enough i may have done smth to hurt her. it was essentially a goodbye letter

she just read the 2 week old message today (it’s been 4 months since she messaged me last). she said that ‘idk she was just busy’, forgot to reply, and that because i didn’t confide in her about my health problem she felt less close to me ever since, and saw it as that she kinda meant less to me because confiding in each other is what friends do. but she said it was nothing personal and that she forgot to reply. but it just makes me feel bad like maybe i should’ve confided in her more and told her what i was going thru. but it just sucks cos i felt so concerned for her at first just for it to have been for nothing. i had gone 4 months just grieving our friendship and dreaming about her a lot

now im asking if aita for not confiding in her as friends should. plus i had a lot of mental health problems i just didnt tell anyone about and dealt with on my own. or if i was justified in what i did. i dunno i just wanted to know if i went about this wrong or if i should’ve just shared things with her